re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

Friend group is ~50 deep. We ride in St.Patricks Day parade every year. Ages 28-33. 0 divorces yet

I was legit worried that my wife was going to chop my little Peter off for a while there. When I told the side chick that wasn’t leaving my wife she legit slapped the frick out of me. Grass is not greener on the other side fellas.

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I was so fricking stupid in my early 30s. Bought into the lie society tells women nowadays that they have all this time to be a mom.

I’m a damn nurse and still didn’t fully understand women’s biology. You can’t fight it. Your ovaries don’t give a shite that you don’t look your age. Your egg quality basically goes to shite once you hit 35. Add on other health issues (PCOS, etc) and you are fighting an uphill battle.

If I knew then what I know now.....my husband and I would have started trying as soon as we got married when I was 34. Better yet...I would have gotten basic testing done before I hit 30 to see if any medical fertility issues were hiding.

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I was thinking about you today. How are you? How's your dad? You thought you had the world by the arse don't blame yourself.

Is the marital problems because of trying for a baby?

One


Job



Failed.

Oh yeah. I’m not going to lie I’ve made a lot of dumb decisions last year

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A woman wants it all, she wants a good looking, self-confident man with a good job. She wants a new SUV, kids in private school, a 3000 SF house and vacations in 30A.

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This is what they start off wanting then it goes to something more expensive like a luxury Porsche SUV, 6k sf house on the water, and four homes across the globe.

They are just like boats and planes the longer you have them the more expensive their tastes get.

Have you considered faking your own death?

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Nope I didn’t not

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I was thinking about you today. How are you? How's your dad? You thought you had the world by the arse don't blame yourself.

Is the marital problems because of trying for a baby?

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I'm hanging in there. My dad is basically the same. I've come to accept that he may never change and that may just be his new "normal". I have to focus on that my dad and and my family are ultimately doing ok though and back off but still be there for the crucial stuff (appointments, etc). The issues in my marriage have forced me to put more boundaries in place. I don't stress as much about my dad cause I have to now worry if I'm gonna be married 6 months from now. My family knows what is going on and thankfully my mom understands that I need to be more selfish and focus on me right now and fully supports that. My dad doesn't even call me now cause he knows he isn't gonna get the reaction his mental illness wants from me (a pity party in his honor).


I'm just trying to focus on myself and improving who I am as a person. Lose the bitterness I held onto that I thought I rightfully earned with all the crap I was handed recently. Started a women's bible study recently to improve my relationship with Christ. Trying to focus on my diet and exercise to lose the weight I gained from all the stress and PCOS and multiple medications I was on for fertility stuff. I'll either become a much better woman in general and wife for my husband...or for someone else later on if all that still isn't enough to make him want to stay in the marriage.


My marital problems stems from a lot of stuff. How I handled my dad, infertility, my husband's feelings of unhappiness in general at life, etc., etc. Things didn't go to shite overnight so on that note things won't magically get better overnight. I have to remind myself that all the time.

is she really hot? was the sex good?

I'm hoping that for all the hassle this has and will cause you, you at least got to frick a hot chick out of it