re: Dating app question- Turn-off or no big deal ?

There is a reason terms like "honey," "shawtie," etc., exist. Never call them by their name anyway. How many times have you even called your mom Beatrice? She's mom. There is no soul on Earth that confused Pamela Anderson with their mom/aunt, Pam. Waaaay overthinking this.

My point still stands, you're looking for excuses to avoid failure or disappointment. You would ignore the name if she had bigger boobs or nicer eyes, which means the name isn't the problem:

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if she were off-the-charts hot i could easily overlook

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At least 1/4 of the women I've met on apps use a fake name on the app, or a nickname anyway.

You should be ignoring it even if she's in your league or below it. Oh, I met a chick in Spain whose name is Carmella, but it reminds me of a porn star from a decade ago, so I'll ignore her since I can't get the porn Carmella out of my head. Pffft.

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does the same-name-as-Mom thing creep you out, or do you just not give a shite ?

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There is a middle ground--swipe right, see if you even match in the first place, and give it a try. It's not like swiping right means you're automatically going to marry her (or even that she will swipe right on you). JMO it's a dumb reason to reject someone you'd otherwise be interested in at least going on a date with.

Dating apps are a numbers game, anyway. Swipe right on all reasonably attractive women. You don't have to even talk to them if you match and change your mind later.

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It's not like swiping right means you're automatically going to marry her (or even that she will swipe right on you). JMO it's a dumb reason to reject someone you'd otherwise be interested in at least going on a date with.

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I hear you.. and i mean, if you and Lemmy are suggesting that im overthinking it, then you’re not wrong.. i guess in my defense (a little) id say i dont want to swipe and have the potential of matching if i already know ill have a problem with her name.. which i get , that’s a ‘me’ problem.. which is why i started the thread to see if im the only freak who would have an issue dating a girl with my mom’s uncommon name.. it seems like we freaks are in the minority in this thread .

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Why do you keep referring to it as a dating app problem and not just a dating problem?

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I guess b/c most people in recent years (no link) tend to meet on dating apps .. that may have now started trending the other way, but in recent years it been apps.. but yeah i guess my question would also apply if you were to meet a chic at ur office or the bar or wherever .


ETA also i never suggested it was a “problem” per se, i just wanted to get others’ opinions on what they would think if the name thing were to come up .


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Or if a guy you matched with had the same unique name as ur dad, it would be weird ? Or both ??

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My dad's name was Courtney. IDK, its just too unique so I think it'd be weird. It's not like it's John or something you hear all the time.