re: Couples who decide not to have kids.

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These no-kids folks are breeding themselves right out of the gene pool.

It is their choice. I respect it, but do not understand it.


this is my thoughts on the matter

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Personally I believe the key to happiness in the short time we're here on planet earth is the reduction or management of ego. Some people achieve some glimpse of that by having children. The process of taking care of their wants and needs make your wants start to vanish. I respect that and think it's a beautiful thing. But it's not my path. But I like to think and hope that I've achieved a glimpse of it via other paths. And that glimpse makes me believe the existence of my genes in the gene pool is infinitely insignificant.

Nothing major. We are both just very stubborn so we butt heads over the silliest things at times. We are learning that we could def improve our communication skills with one another.

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That's great man.

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I will say this, I was on the no-marriage plan

I met my wife while living/traveling in Thailand. She came here last year and if she didn't have to have a green card, we probably wouldn't have gotten married for a while. Our only care is to go travel the world. She will want a baby at some point, but we're enjoying none for now.

You getting pregnant anytime soon?

That's on hold cape



I have an appt later this month with a geneticist to be officially evaluated to see if I have a minor form of the same disorder my dad, brother and sister have. My dad physically affected by it....my siblings severly mentally affected by it.


I never knew you could have a minor form of it. If the dr officially diagnoses me with this.....game over because there would be a 50% chance I pass that to a child.(back when my parents had us they didn't knew all these odds like they do now).

It's a trade-off. Couples can decide to DINK it up and live a carefree, exciting life.

When they get into their 70's and all their friends are dying and they have no one to take care of them is when they would start regretting it.

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Ex: Saturday both of us off work. We got into an argument over what to do that day. Both of us wanted to leave the house and go do something....but we couldn't agree on what

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Ya'll need to have kids. And do it soon, before you get to smart for yourselves. It is the natural order of things. There isn't ANY amount of hiking and traveling that will fulfill the basic human need to start a family. As mentioned earlier, some don't have this, but MOST do.

It might be time to consider giving the world a new little nursie who could continue your legacy of care and compassion.

Nah it's cool flboo



It's why I said I've placed the whole situation in God's hands right now. It's been stressing me out a lot and there really isn't anything I can do about it but see how it all plays out.


I've seen what God has done in my life in the past when I thought I had things all planned out. I was then "nudged" into a totally different direction.

Things will go the way they should. I can always adopt if it's not meant for me to naturally conceive

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Before birth control (and legalization of it), infidelity and divorce were much less common. You know why? People couldn't hide their mistakes.

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I didn't realize you can only have kids if you are married.

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He said if you don't want kids there's no reason to get married. Not the same thing.