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re: Collecting child support: Hire lawyer to set up or go with La. Social Services?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:59 pm to touchdownjeebus
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:59 pm to touchdownjeebus
This thing has cost me at least $50K. And for the two years leading up to the trial, I didn't collect child support even though I had sole temporary custody -- because my superlawyer told me it would look better if I didn't seek money until after a ruling.
Fortunately, I never married my kid's mom. I knocked this idiot up and tried to man up -- ironically passed up on going to law school myself because I thought I had job security where I was -- only to have to file suit twice against this b*tch: once to get her back to Louisiana after Katrina, the other after CPS called to tell me she was in a psychiatric hospital and could I step in and take over my kid's life.
Fortunately, I never married my kid's mom. I knocked this idiot up and tried to man up -- ironically passed up on going to law school myself because I thought I had job security where I was -- only to have to file suit twice against this b*tch: once to get her back to Louisiana after Katrina, the other after CPS called to tell me she was in a psychiatric hospital and could I step in and take over my kid's life.
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Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:01 pm to cgrand
Yeah I said frick the child support to not have the a-hole in our lives and my son is a better person for it imo
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:02 pm to OogumBoogum
It sounds like the amount she will owe will be insurmountable. I really think you could get the DA to handle that, and even if you don't get the maximum, it won't matter. first, you are probably never going to see it anyway, and second, the amount you will be awarded will be significant.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:03 pm to touchdownjeebus
quote:Sorry if I came across as harsh... Didn't mean for it to. Great job for at least trying, many don't.
touchdownjeebus
I've just seen way too many people stay in a relationship "for the kids" when really kids are smarter than we think and can sense the negativity. I don't think it ever works for the better in the long run. You don't have to have a duel parent household to raise a well rounded child. Plenty of great parents aren't in a relationship
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:03 pm to Martini
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Man y'all married some fricked up people. I know without a shadow of a doubt that no matter what would ever happen between my wife and I our daughter would never be an issue. And believe it or not just knowing that is worth it.
I said the same thing 5 years ago. And then my now ex wife turned 30...
ETA: I went to court and fought for my son. And won.
This post was edited on 2/25/15 at 9:04 pm
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:06 pm to SuperSaint
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Sorry if I came across as harsh... Didn't mean for it to. Great job for at least trying, many don't.
No worries. I did what I thought was best for my daughter and learned what was really important in the long run. I valued other things before all of this, and had to sell all of those things in order to get what mattered. It was a purging of wealth, but my little princess was well worth it.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:07 pm to touchdownjeebus
quote:I can only imagine
but my little princess was well worth it.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:18 pm to SuperSaint
>It sounds like the amount she will owe will be >insurmountable. I really think you could get the >DA to handle that
The child support that I didn't pursue during the leadup to the trial is not something that's collectible now. What is collectible is the support that has been accruing since my attorney filed in early 2014 -- the meter is running from then on.
I'm just so tired of paying this lawyer -- well over $200 an hour. That's why I was asking here whether it would be easier to just "set it and forget it" by letting the state social workers handle it and just concede them their "vig."
The only thing that's stopping me from just doing that -- or else just hiring a lawyer friend for much cheaper -- is that I'm thinking I need my current lawyer's decades of experience and gravitas because of this new lawyer my ex hired who has ties to the judge.
As a side note: I heard from at least one source that this judge has the reputation of not letting the "appearance of impropriety" taint his reputation. So maybe this new connected lawyer is not going to advance my ex's case much, but rather just run up her billable hours on false hopes...
The child support that I didn't pursue during the leadup to the trial is not something that's collectible now. What is collectible is the support that has been accruing since my attorney filed in early 2014 -- the meter is running from then on.
I'm just so tired of paying this lawyer -- well over $200 an hour. That's why I was asking here whether it would be easier to just "set it and forget it" by letting the state social workers handle it and just concede them their "vig."
The only thing that's stopping me from just doing that -- or else just hiring a lawyer friend for much cheaper -- is that I'm thinking I need my current lawyer's decades of experience and gravitas because of this new lawyer my ex hired who has ties to the judge.
As a side note: I heard from at least one source that this judge has the reputation of not letting the "appearance of impropriety" taint his reputation. So maybe this new connected lawyer is not going to advance my ex's case much, but rather just run up her billable hours on false hopes...
Posted on 2/25/15 at 9:27 pm to OogumBoogum
>Yeah I said frick the child support to not have the >a-hole in our lives
Unfortunately, the b*tch I'm dealing with isn't going to go away. She will exercise her visitation and play the role of an involved mother -- but so far has offered nothing of substance financially except for some odds and ends like clothing.
And here is the kicker: She and her current husband have a baby together! Which I'm subsidizing by not so far collecting child support!
Her new husband -- who collects a crazy/disability check from the feds -- has supervised visitation with his kid and pays no child support to that kid because his ex doesn't want to feel obligated to him!
Unfortunately, the b*tch I'm dealing with isn't going to go away. She will exercise her visitation and play the role of an involved mother -- but so far has offered nothing of substance financially except for some odds and ends like clothing.
And here is the kicker: She and her current husband have a baby together! Which I'm subsidizing by not so far collecting child support!
Her new husband -- who collects a crazy/disability check from the feds -- has supervised visitation with his kid and pays no child support to that kid because his ex doesn't want to feel obligated to him!
This post was edited on 2/25/15 at 9:28 pm
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:27 pm to lsu223
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It really isn't that bad. They tack on a 5% fee to the support obligation.
That is the problem, it should be a flat fee instead of a percentage. Why the expense to collect and process $2000.00 in child support be more than collecting and processing $1000.00 in support?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:30 pm to OogumBoogum
Frick the lawyers to chase child support. If you already have a court order stating the other parent owes child support, turn it over to La. Family services. You spend more with lawyers than you may receive in support constantly taking the other parent to court if they not paying. Let family services chase them as they too have the power to garnish wages, suspend drivers license, professional license, file for contempt for non payment, report to credit bureu, garnish income tax returns and lottery winnings, etc. and it want cost you a dime. Family services doesn't skim from the total. Yes, they charge fees but that comes from the non-custodial parent in addition to their monthly obligation. Trust me, I could write a book on this. If you having problems with other parent paying Social Services is hands down best option unless you enjoy paying lawyers and dealing with the inept, flicked up family court system.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:30 pm to OogumBoogum
Poor people probz
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:42 pm to OogumBoogum
I'm not a lawyer and have not read through this thread, but anyone telling you to give her any concessions, is full of shite.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:46 pm to OogumBoogum
I got custody of my daughter 10 years ago. My ex basically went batshit crazy on the stand when she testified. Judge gave me everything I asked for and she had to be physically removed from the courthouse. My daughter doesn't talk to her anymore. She has never paid any of the court ordered support. It's probably close to 20K by now.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 10:47 pm to OogumBoogum
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[Any advice is appreciated in advance.] I'm a single father with sole custody of one child after full judicial trial. Originally filed for support a year ago; mother counter-acted with some BS motion that tried to rehear the case and put my application on the back burner.
Now I'm ready to get support established and start collecting -- even if the effort only results in gas money for me from her. Should I resume with my attorney, or should I just try to save on legal fees and sicc the state bill collectors on this?
ALWAYS get an attorney in any situation, always. It doesn't matter what the situation is if you have an attorney and the other person doesn't you will win, and vice versa.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 11:19 pm to OogumBoogum
Her new husband -- who collects a crazy/disability check from the feds -- has supervised visitation with his kid and pays no child support to that kid because his ex doesn't want to feel obligated to him!
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My little girls "father" is also on a bullshite disability and we get a whopping $11 a month which doesn't even come close to covering gas for his supervised visits. But has the money to take us to court now to get unsupervised visits after 9 years!
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My little girls "father" is also on a bullshite disability and we get a whopping $11 a month which doesn't even come close to covering gas for his supervised visits. But has the money to take us to court now to get unsupervised visits after 9 years!
This post was edited on 2/25/15 at 11:24 pm
Posted on 2/25/15 at 11:45 pm to matsuflex
Going through the same thing. First court date is march 9.
Posted on 2/26/15 at 6:00 am to OogumBoogum
I won sole custody as the father as well and she was ordered to pay $500+/mo. had issues collecting so I went to the state. She quits jobs once they catch up to here, and has stopped filling her taxes since the state intercepted her returns one year and sent me the money. Currently My kids are owed over $38,000.
I will never see that...
I will never see that...
Posted on 2/26/15 at 6:21 am to OogumBoogum
Have you considered calling Saul?
Posted on 2/26/15 at 7:00 am to Rouge
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If gone through full court process, she should already have wages garnished
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