re: Anyone been part of an Intervention?

quote:

---

Visiting for Thanksgiving and my mom just informed me that my Aunt wants to have an Intervention with my cousin (her son) tomorrow. I want no part of it. I may see the dude once every couple years, if that, and is basically a stranger in real life as I live 6-7 hours away. I was planning on leaving early tomorrow morning to beat traffic, but they want me to hang around and be part of it (since I’m a successful example). They do not have a professional assisting (like on TV lol) and no plan setup for rehab, therapy, etc. I told them I’m heading back at 4:00am and if they want to do it today I’ll sit in, but most likely a big fat NO since it’s going to be a big failure and nothing to accomplish. Any OTers been part of a trashy intervention?

---

Aren’t you a functioning Alcoholic?

quote:

---

They do not have a professional assisting (like on TV lol) and no plan setup for rehab, therapy, etc.

---

While their intentions are well-intended, what they are doing is a "suggestion" since they truly have no plan. A plan is actionable (on paper, with a purpose, and a next defined step) which can lead to a directive.

quote:

---

I want no part of it.

---

In this scenario that you describe, I would not participate. If they can get aligned, and their message is uniform and unity, along with actionable next steps, participate. But until then, I believe you are making the right choice, even if your reasoning is different than what I shared.

quote:

---

It wasn't an intervention, but I talked a woman out of killing herself.

---

There’s a joke to he made here, but it’s Thanksgiving

You're the joke

I’ve been the victim of one - a motocross intervention. After breaking my hand and having to shut down my dental practice for a month, I eventually started racing again. One day I called my wife from New Iberia and told her I was on the way home but we needed to hit the emergency room because I punctured my calf muscle and needed to see if my leg was broken. When I walked in the door at my house in Slidell, my wife and my parents were sitting at the table.

I was in my 40s but my wife called my mommy & daddy on me to stage an intervention to try to get me to stop riding.

Yes, with my father.

What is his addiction? My father’s was meth. Was successful in that we were able to get him to voluntarily go into rehab. That however was not successful. He later started dating this crack head who talked him into setting up his own lab. She ended up getting picked up on some other bullshite and rolled on my dad to lessons charges. Jump out boys kicked in his front door and hauled his arse to jail. Spent 5 years in prison. Has been out for 15 and been clean since. I had already cut ties with him a few years before his arrest but have since reconnected with him. It took him losing his marriage, relationship with his son and grandchildren, his job, his home, and being imprisoned to get clean.

Just now getting on the road to head back to Texas and beat traffic. I opted out of the ‘intervention’ and decided to not letting a drunk ruin my day off. If the family I actually know want to be mad at me, then they have a bigger problem.

I’m sure nothing I can say will help the guy as I don’t really know him nor do I drink. I also told them they need a better plan. Sorry for being anti climatic.

quote:

---

but they want me to hang around and be part of it (since I’m a successful example).

---

This almost never works out well for anyone trying to help someone with life changes or addiction.

Worse thing you can say is: “look at ____ , you could be more like him”

Instant shutoff from the person they trying to help.

If I were you I would slip out early and not be part of that especially since you have no emotional ties to this person.