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re: Anyone a stay at home husband?
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:25 pm to Masterag
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:25 pm to Masterag
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It’s not about money, man. It’s about you raising your own kids. You know, the way it’s supposed to go.
Your kid isn’t supposed to be in some damn day care with 100 other screaming infants all day long. You should do some research on kids who stay home with one of their parents vs. being subcontracted out to a “caregiver.” It’s night and day, and a huge reason why our society is so fricked up right now.
Under no circumstances should a kid be in day care. You have no idea what your kid is being exposed to.
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Sorry, but more stuff, a bigger house and car doesn’t make a better life. It just means you have more shite that ultimately doesn’t really matter.
What give your kid a better life is your and your wife’s time, love and attention.
Why do you believe that your child only deserves your love and attention for a few hours per day?
And why do you think that someone else could replace that?
Do you know all the people who work there and fully trust them? Would you trust them to live in your house or borrow your car for a day? If your answer is no, is your child not worth more than those two things?
You're getting pretty sanctimonious about other people's choices. Being a caring, loving parent for your child and enrolling them in daycare are not mutually exclusive.
And one parent undoubtedly is only going to have a few hours M-F with their child because one of them has to work. The other parent may need to work to make ends meet, and both working certainly doesn't indicate too much stuff or an extravagant lifestyle. Whatever is working for you and yours is cool; keep it up, but it doesn't mean it's the only or best way for everyone.
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Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:26 pm to fareplay
You're marrying a ball crusher. Run like Hell!
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:27 pm to Masterag
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Sorry, but more stuff, a bigger house and car doesn’t make a better life. It just means you have more shite that ultimately doesn’t really matter.
being able to do fun things like go on vacations, take the boat out, and have cool toys…not to mention afford private school and eventually pay for college are a better life.
I’m not sure what you think daycare is, but they do a lot of learning before they even get to kindergarten. They never look miserable when I pick them up and they’re running around on a playground with 10 of their friends.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:28 pm to fareplay
Does your wife lock up her lingerie when she is away at work? 
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:29 pm to Masterag
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Do you know all the people who work there and fully trust them? Would you trust them to live in your house or borrow your car for a day?
Are we going to do the same exercise with their teachers at school, their doctors, etc…?
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:31 pm to DakIsNoLB
Eh the prevailing attitude ITT has been “I make too much money to do that” which is a lot different than “we wouldn’t survive if I didn’t work”
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:53 pm to G2160
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Are we going to do the same exercise with their teachers at school, their doctors, etc…?
When was the last time you left your kid with the doctor for 8 hrs a day? Or better yet weren’t in the office the whole time?
As far as school goes, of course. Even more so. That’s why ours will home school.
Teaching your kid about the world and how to become a responsible human being is the most important thing you’ll ever do, I wouldn’t trust anyone else with that mission but my wife and me.
Instead of trying to rationalize what you’re doing, maybe you should contemplate why both you and your wife’s careers are more important than your child.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 2:56 pm to G2160
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being able to do fun things like go on vacations, take the boat out, and have cool toys
Yeah, being in a room full of kids where you’re learning to be a cog in the machine being taught by who the hell knows what his or her values actually are and what they’re teaching your kid while you’re not there cause you contracted out your most sacred duty in life is totally worth a lake day, brah!
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:01 pm to Masterag
My kids loved their daycare classes and their teachers. Just had the youngest "graduate" from Pre-K. It's also great that they're well-adjusted around other kids and already have friends as school starts. We've also gotten to know some parents of their classmates and have taken trips with them several times over the last few years. I'd definitely do all of that over again if given the choice. So your blanket statements in this thread do not apply to everyone.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:02 pm to DakIsNoLB
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You're getting pretty sanctimonious about other people's choices. Being a caring, loving parent for your child and enrolling them in daycare are not mutually exclusive.
No I’m not and yes they are. Im trying to wake y’all tf up, society is in the position we are because we decided to relinquish our parental responsibility for convenience and more stuff.
Ever wondered why the left are scared to death of homeschooling and want your kid to be in school as long as humanly possible? Why they are always pushing for more “child care?”
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:03 pm to Masterag
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When was the last time you left your kid with the doctor for 8 hrs a day? Or better yet weren’t in the office the whole time?
As far as school goes, of course. Even more so. That’s why ours will home school.
Teaching your kid about the world and how to become a responsible human being is the most important thing you’ll ever do, I wouldn’t trust anyone else with that mission but my wife and me.
Instead of trying to rationalize what you’re doing, maybe you should contemplate why both you and your wife’s careers are more important than your child.
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Yeah, being in a room full of kids where you’re learning to be a cog in the machine being taught by who the hell knows what his or her values actually are and what they’re teaching your kid while you’re not there cause you contracted out your most sacred duty in life is totally worth a lake day, brah!
Please let us know your favorite sports teams and/or just favorite hat styles and where we can send them for you. We'll be sure to line them with tin foil.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:03 pm to Masterag
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No I’m not and yes they are. Im trying to wake y’all tf up, society is in the position we are because we decided to relinquish our parental responsibility for convenience and more stuff.
Ever wondered why the left are scared to death of homeschooling and want your kid to be in school as long as humanly possible? Why they are always pushing for more “child care?”
You aren't even a fricking spouse, nor parent not shite yet. You need to settle the frick down and respect those experienced with actual real life raising of children.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:05 pm to Smoke7024
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My kids loved their daycare classes and their teachers. Just had the youngest "graduate" from Pre-K. It's also great that they're well-adjusted around other kids and already have friends as school starts.
Already broken in. Your kids will be great little statists who will follow orders to the T without question! You should be proud.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:06 pm to Chad504boy
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You aren't even a fricking spouse, nor parent not shite yet.
Who told you that? I been had kids, mane.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:06 pm to Masterag
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Yeah, being in a room full of kids where you’re learning to be a cog in the machine being taught by who the hell knows what his or her values actually are and what they’re teaching your kid while you’re not there
Why are you assuming that all parents are completely disconnected from the daycare they sent their kids to and who their teachers are?
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:07 pm to Masterag
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Already broken in. Your kids will be great little statists who will follow orders to the T without question! You should be proud.
If you're really a parent, then you know you should probably shut the frick up talking about other peoples kids.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:12 pm to Masterag
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Already broken in. Your kids will be great little statists who will follow orders to the T without question! You should be proud.
I'll be sure to eat crow when I see your kids leading the underground resistance.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:14 pm to fareplay
I was for several years. My previous employer shut down their Bham office. Wife was making way more than me anyway owning her own business. Our kids were still in school. My daughter had a host of issues. If one of us hadn't been a full time parent, there's no way she would have made it out of high school. Even with all the attention, she almost didn't make it.
As soon as my youngest turned 16, I went back to work full time. Really working to have something to do and the 401K/health insurance (thanks Obama).
As soon as my youngest turned 16, I went back to work full time. Really working to have something to do and the 401K/health insurance (thanks Obama).
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:15 pm to Smoke7024
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Why are you assuming that all parents are completely disconnected from the daycare they sent their kids to and who their teachers are?
So you know what goes on with your kid 100% during the day? Theres no way you do.
That’s fine if you don’t care about that, but I do.
I get heated because my wife was in early childhood and I know what happens at the majority of day cares, head starts and all the rest.
I care about kids and I don’t think people should have them until they’re ready to actually make a sacrifice in raising them. You clearly don’t see things the way I do and I can’t make you, but I don’t think you’d be so defensive is some part of you didn’t believe I’m correct.
Day care and preschool and elementary absolutely changes kids, exposes them to thing you don’t want them to see, hear and think and in the moment it’s 100% out of your control. After that it’s too late, and you have to do damage control. Nobody ever believes it will happen to them until it does. Not to mention the fact that schools are becoming less and less safe.
Posted on 5/31/23 at 3:15 pm to Aubie Spr96
Parenting threads on tOT are my favorite
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