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re: About to make a career/life change...
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:07 am to 1336
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:07 am to 1336
Whew.
I thought I was about to read you were getting your dick cut off as in a sex change/life change.
I was gonna say DONT DO IT MAN!
Post pics. Its the only answer. if the bitch is hawt, then you should move.
I thought I was about to read you were getting your dick cut off as in a sex change/life change.
I was gonna say DONT DO IT MAN!
Post pics. Its the only answer. if the bitch is hawt, then you should move.
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Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:20 am to 1336
If it's a "SO" do what's best for you. If it's a "wife" do what's best for y'all as a couple.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:22 am to 1336
Stay put, no brainer.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:25 am to Spaceman Spiff
To answer some of the questions...
She moved to be closer to family and where she hoped she would get hired (and she did).
We did talk about the move. She made it clear since we started dating 2 years ago that she planned to move. I was on board thinking that it would be the perfect time to move and move up career-wise too. However, I've exhausted my leads and the best I can do is lateral with the 10% pay increase.
We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward. That's one of the reasons I would move. The other is that it makes financial sense to move.
We are not married. We have dated for two years. I do plan on marrying her in the future.
She moved to be closer to family and where she hoped she would get hired (and she did).
We did talk about the move. She made it clear since we started dating 2 years ago that she planned to move. I was on board thinking that it would be the perfect time to move and move up career-wise too. However, I've exhausted my leads and the best I can do is lateral with the 10% pay increase.
We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward. That's one of the reasons I would move. The other is that it makes financial sense to move.
We are not married. We have dated for two years. I do plan on marrying her in the future.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:25 am to yellowfin
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I should make your point because we agree on this
Damn my comprehension skills SUCK Today,
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:26 am to 1336
She made it clear since we started dating 2 years ago that she planned to move. I was on board thinking that it would be the perfect time to move and move up career-wise too. However, I've exhausted my leads and the best I can do is lateral with the 10% pay increase.
We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward.
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OK, so this was an agreement over 2 yrs ago or at least a clear acknowledgement.
I did this myself, everything including the relationship went South. There were more problems in the relationship than I was willing to admit or see.
Once I made the move, took a 30% reduction in pay and changed who I was employed with.
The good thing in all of this is I was clear with myself that I had done all I could to make this relationship go and still it failed but we did not have a two year dating relationship prior so you have some real info about the relationship going for you.
I guess the question for me would be, worst case scenario - relationship fails, I hate my new job, making less money, yada yada yada, could I expect to recover back to where I was or better if I moved back?
We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward.
_______________
OK, so this was an agreement over 2 yrs ago or at least a clear acknowledgement.
I did this myself, everything including the relationship went South. There were more problems in the relationship than I was willing to admit or see.
Once I made the move, took a 30% reduction in pay and changed who I was employed with.
The good thing in all of this is I was clear with myself that I had done all I could to make this relationship go and still it failed but we did not have a two year dating relationship prior so you have some real info about the relationship going for you.
I guess the question for me would be, worst case scenario - relationship fails, I hate my new job, making less money, yada yada yada, could I expect to recover back to where I was or better if I moved back?
This post was edited on 6/12/14 at 9:32 am
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:28 am to 1336
Sounds like she is making life choices based on her wants and desires without your opinion. But at the same time she wants you to uproot your life to accommodate her. Yeah this will end real well!!!!!! I hope no kids are involved for there sake.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:28 am to 1336
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We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months
I guess I'll just bow out of this conversation as I cannot grasp how living one hour away is a long distance relationship.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:28 am to 1336
Just do it.
You got one life. No sense in waiting.
You got one life. No sense in waiting.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:31 am to 1336
So it want work for her going forward, so the hell with your career. If you are going to marry her in the future, then I'd stay put and see what her real intentions are. Don't be a wuss. By the way. Where are the pictures?
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:31 am to 1336
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We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward.
Dude, you just got dumped. Read this sentence over and over.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:34 am to WillyLoman
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Dude, you just got dumped. Read this sentence over and over.
I was thinking maybe it is in process
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:35 am to htownjeep
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I guess I'll just bow out of this conversation as I cannot grasp how living one hour away is a long distance relationship.
No shite. It's an hour, that's not long distance in any sense...
Dude. Relationships are about compromise... You start off this way you are in for a lot of disappointments.
I moved for a girl.. It was 3hrs away. I spent the next 3yrs trying to find a reason to pop to question (dumbass). You know what happened. I b/c single again, stayed in the same city partied like i was in my late 20s again and then found my wife... We moved to Baton Rouge about a year ago. Yup, she moved for me b/c it was the best thing for us and the future of our family.
You really need to look at this from as unbiased a view as possible. 1hr is nothing, that is a daily commute for damn near everybody who works in a city.... Tis life
Posted on 6/12/14 at 9:35 am to Mulat
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I was thinking maybe it is in process
Certainly sounds like she has HER ducks in a row. All the more reason to keep the current job. Don't let the tail wag the dog OP.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 10:50 am to htownjeep
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I guess I'll just bow out of this conversation as I cannot grasp how living one hour away is a long distance relationship.
This.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 10:56 am to Paedin
Hell....90% of Houston has a 2 hour round trip commute
Posted on 6/12/14 at 11:01 am to 1336
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We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward.
No offense, but sounds like she's trying to give you an ultimatum, and that probably won't end well because you'd essentially be starting a life together with her thinking she can dictate everything you all do.
I know nothing about your situation other than the scant details you've given on here, but if she made the decision herself to move, bought a house by herself, and expects you to follow lockstep at the detriment of your career, then ya'll might not be on the same page with regard to the relationship.
Just my $0.02, but good luck.
This post was edited on 6/12/14 at 11:02 am
Posted on 6/12/14 at 11:05 am to 1336
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We've done the 1 hour "long distance" thing for about 6 months and she says it would not work anymore for her going forward. That's one of the reasons I would move
Are you sure she wants you to move? Sounds like to me she's trying to breakup with you.
I'd stay where you are and forget this broad. You sound way more committed to making this work than she does. What's sad is that she's convinced you its totally normal for you to drop everything and follow her around.
eta. I also think it depends on career. If she has some $150k+/year job then maybe it would make sense but I have no doubt we're not dealing with that here.
This post was edited on 6/12/14 at 11:06 am
Posted on 6/12/14 at 11:09 am to skullhawk
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eta. I also think it depends on career. If she has some $150k+/year job then maybe it would make sense but I have no doubt we're not dealing with that here.
This is true, though I doubt it because OP said she moved simply to be closer to family.
But yeah, if she's balling out of control, that's one thing, but it's a different story if it's a run of the mill middle class professional gig.
Posted on 6/12/14 at 11:15 am to skullhawk
Sounds like the grown ups and the been there, done that crowd are chiming in and as member of both crowds, I have to agree with staying put and getting prepared to move on with your life.
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