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re: 3yo melt downs over everything… Dads of the OT
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:33 pm to broadhead
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:33 pm to broadhead
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Or be the leader of family and address the issue how you see fit. We don't need the wife/mother to approve on how to be an assertive father.
If you think a woman subverting your leadership is good leadership, well…..
You have to be on the same page.
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Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:34 pm to dstone12
Yeah try that. It will go over great with your wife.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:36 pm to BayouBengal23
Terrible Twos
Treacherous Threes
fricking Fours
Treacherous Threes
fricking Fours
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:36 pm to BayouBengal23
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excuse it and Tata him because it’s because of the new baby and he’s having a hard time adjusting.
Don't do this.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:36 pm to Sofaking2
quote:Ours were the opposite. Oldest son rarely got on trouble and I didn't have to spank him too often. Youngest son came out of the womb kicking and screaming and has been Hell on Wheels ever since, I had to whip his arse a lot. They are adults now I'm glad I don't have to beat their arse anymore..yet
I spanked my oldest son the most. I was very hard on him. My youngest son I almost never had to do anything.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:39 pm to BayouBengal23
Little kids have big emotions. Just part of life. My 2.5 YO daughter wants paw patrol on 24/7 on every TV in the house or it's the end of her little life. Baby #2 on the way, due 2 days after our daughter's birthday.
Lucky for me, I have a good friend that's a counselor and wrote a children's book series called Henry the Hedgehog about dealing with those big emotions. She's a retired AF officer and has seen/dealt with just about any situation imaginable. If not for her, I would have punted my daughter off a bridge like Jack Black did that dog in Anchorman
Lucky for me, I have a good friend that's a counselor and wrote a children's book series called Henry the Hedgehog about dealing with those big emotions. She's a retired AF officer and has seen/dealt with just about any situation imaginable. If not for her, I would have punted my daughter off a bridge like Jack Black did that dog in Anchorman
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:44 pm to BayouBengal23
Agree with the others, it's called "terrible two's" but for my kid, it was the terrible 3's. But that's not alliterative so they keep saying terrible two's.
What you are going through now is normal and it sounds like you are a good parent. Don't let the melts drive you and your wife apart, even if you have to swallow your tongue and placate some things, you can't reason with a stressed out mother. It isn't possible.
What you are going through now is normal and it sounds like you are a good parent. Don't let the melts drive you and your wife apart, even if you have to swallow your tongue and placate some things, you can't reason with a stressed out mother. It isn't possible.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:48 pm to BayouBengal23
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I’m having a hard time letting him have these melt downs because it’s teaching that it’s acceptable behavior but wife (no pics), is saying to excuse it and Tata him because it’s because of the new baby and he’s having a hard time adjusting.
Another melt down will have me losing my effing mind. We spank for disobedience and not listening, time outs for less serious offenses. So there is discipline but not in the area of meltdowns.
Do you remember the meltdowns you had when you were three? He won’t either.
His emotions are bigger than his capacity to recognize them and manage them. It’s normal. That’s not psychobabble; it’s literally his brain chemistry and development. Don’t beat it out of him. Let him get it out of his system and redirect him. Your wife is right in that the newborn is probably the trigger but he doesn’t know that. Take him and spend time just you and him. He’ll come around.
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 8:49 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:54 pm to BayouBengal23
Not sure how new the baby is, but it took our toddler a good 4 months to adjust to the new family dynamic. Ours is 3.5 and 1.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:59 pm to BayouBengal23
Water boarding is effective
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:05 pm to deeprig9
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But that's not alliterative so they keep saying terrible two's.
We call it threenager in our house. We had a mix, the terrible two morphed into the threenager. she’s getting better at managing her emotions, but now she’s starting to give an attitude.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:08 pm to BayouBengal23
Melt downs are misbehaving. I would not allow it to pass. Never, ever give in to his melt downs no matter what.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:11 pm to BayouBengal23
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3yo
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melt downs
Yeah sounds about right.
My kids’ threes were WAY worse than their twos. Like “please place these children back in the uterus” bad.
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 9:11 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:12 pm to BayouBengal23
He’s three. My almost three year does the same to some level. He melts down over breakfast, what he’s wearing, bed time, and mostly whatever the helll his older brother has or wants. I get frustrated. My wife reminds me that he is two almost three and is learning emotions. It’s frustrating. I don’t remember big brother being like this, but he had all the attention. Terrible 2s are fake news. They turn on you around three.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:17 pm to BottomlandBrew
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Sometimes it’s the terrible 2s and sometimes it’s the 3s. Hold the line it will pass.
And sometimes it's the 2s and 3s. It took #1 a few years to work out the kinks for me.
Nailed it
4 year old and almost two year old.. 
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:17 pm to WeagleEagle
I raised 6. My only regrets are the spankings I gave. I have no regrets about the potential spankings I could have given and didn't.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:19 pm to iron banks
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The only advice I have is time will rectify his attitude.
Maybe. Unfortunately the Internet is littered with videos of examples otherwise.
Might need a belt to be sure.
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 9:21 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:27 pm to BayouBengal23
Take control of that shite now, including over what your wife says/wants. Please. Daughter may be different (maybe not) but for a son you gotta enforce or he’ll be a pussy arse and/or letter person.
Male input/control and cutting the bullshite:
Daughters could use it, at least a good healthy example.
Sons need it.
Male input/control and cutting the bullshite:
Daughters could use it, at least a good healthy example.
Sons need it.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:34 pm to BayouBengal23
quote:frick his mom
Another melt down will have me losing my effing mind. We spank for disobedience and not listening, time outs for less serious offenses. So there is discipline but not in the area of meltdowns.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 9:36 pm to BayouBengal23
Behavioral therapist here. Don't think of excusing it as much as ignoring it. We call it putting it on extinction because the desired behavior is not accessing the desired reinforcement.
Basically let him wail and be a little shite. Show him no matter how much of a little shite he is he's not going to get his way. The second he comes correct and asks for something reasonable you lather him w attention praise and what he wants...within reason
Basically let him wail and be a little shite. Show him no matter how much of a little shite he is he's not going to get his way. The second he comes correct and asks for something reasonable you lather him w attention praise and what he wants...within reason
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