re: 15% of men report having no close friends, up from only 3% in 1990

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I've always associated the need for some noise and the feeling of not being alone kind of an extrovert trait

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I'm an introvert and a homebody and I always have a movie or music playing as background noise...even when I sleep.

But I've never associated it with not wanting to be alone. It's more like the opposite. You want to be alone, so that you can actually hear whatever you're watching or listening to.

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Unless your friends and situation are unique, you generally don't maintain that many close relationships as you get older. You can certainly stay in touch for sure but it's not like most 45 yr olds are hanging out with their friends very often. I'd say it's more the exception than the norm to maintain close knit friend groups into your middle ages.

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I think it is more normal than homebody types/parents think, but they don't realize it because it isn't part of their own personal life experiences.

Drifting apart and getting caught up in your own life is very normal, but I think those folks assume everyone is doing the same when there's still a very solid social crowd out there. I mosey around town a lot, and there is certainly no shortage of people (both married and not) who do the same on a regular basis.

I can think of numerous "who's who" married Baton Rouge women that go on group Cabo trips and margarita nights and misc. gala events on a very regular basis.

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It is very strange to me that this website of all places downvoted this as much as they did.

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I just chuckled to myself when I saw the ratio.

I guess having friends isn’t “cool”

My parents used to rub schnapps on my gums and I turned out ok

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Im sorry you dont have any podnuhs to Drink, Cook, Golf, bullshite and have a good time with

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Buk on Alone
Buk on People

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with a group of guys to have pissing matches while they get wasted to numb the pain of their miserable marriages

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I see I touched a nerve with this character in particular. Yeah, when you see a group of guys hanging out this is exactly what’s going on, keep telling yourself that so that you don’t feel like a loser for having no friends

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I can understand wanting to be alone for times to recharge. But that all the times is a depressing way to live

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No kidding, between work, my wife, and three kids, I don't have much time for anything else. I haven't done much without them in years. I would say I fall in that 15% for sure.

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This is me, exactly…3 kids and wife, and I’m lucky to find time for myself, even

I have several really good friends that I would call close.
I only had 1 friend I could tell absolutely anything to. I could have shot someone and told him without any concerns of him telling anyone or looking at me any different. He died a little over 5 years ago and I miss my friend immensely.