re: How would you handle? (Ex-GF) long...

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Start telling yourself it is NOT REAL. It doesn't matter if it is or not at this point; she is not your responsibility. And she never was. I know you feel responsible for her, but it's time to try very hard to cut the guilt you feel. Borderline people will say and do anything to get what they want, especially when it comes to the threat of abandonment. Arguing with her is 100% pointless, as you know. So is trying to reason with her.

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THIS THIS THIS

My crazy chick had her whole circle of friends believing she had a brain tumor. Ask any of them, they really thought she did.

I mean, what kind of piece of shite lies about something like that? BREAKING NEWS - THE KIND YOU ARE DATING.

Mine went as far as disappearing for weeks at a time because she was supposed to be in the hospital. She had tons of prescription meds that she took. She was a master at keeping all the lies organized and inline.

But it's just a house of cards. And for my situation I finally just decided I don't care if all our friends think I'm a piece of shite for breaking up with a dying girl. I can't take this shite anymore. The manipulation, lies, irrational screaming fights, guilt trips, she pulled no punches. But I finally broke it off.

Then the fun really began. BPD people HATE fricking HATE being alone. She called and text incessantly begging me to take her back. Promised to change, promised all kinds of weird shite.

Nope, I'm done.


About 6 weeks later I ran in to her "best friend". BFF said she had also backed away from crazy girl because she couldn't take her shite. We start comparing notes and all of a sudden the cracks in the wall of lies began to appear. We suddenly both had a chilling thought... what if the cancer isn't real either?

BFF called her and confronted her. Crazy denied for a few minutes but as BFF revealed more and more of her lies on her she finally gave in and admitted it was ALL A LIE.

Crazy ended up sending out a mass e-mail half confessing and saying she was "seeking help" to deal with her "challenges". Then she disappeared. She lost her whole friends group. Which was pretty much every bike racer in the Houston/Austin scene.

She lost the activity she loved the most, bike racing and riding. There wasn't one rider that didn't feel betrayed and lied to over her shite. She lost it all.

She had to start over with a whole new friends group I guess. She's just lucky Houston is big enough that there is a fresh pool of people to lie to.

The terrible irony to her story: her dad died of cancer last year. The disease she pretended to suffer from took her father from her. How fricked up is that?

There's a lesson in Karma for you.