re: ex wife keeping my kids need court to make her stop i guess

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other problem is her boyfriend coming over and i know the guy lives there with her. dont know what the guy does or if he even has a job if i see him over there im probly gonna just end up whippin his arse lol

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Get some pics/footage of him there past kids' bedtime/leaving in the morning.

If you're not going to get lawyer now, keep records of EVERYTHING. If she texts you that you can get them today and then crawfishes, keep time stamped screen shots and print them.

Only thing you can do is file for visitation/custody orders. Those are binding and enforceable. You would just need your copy and call a sheriffs deputy to go over there and get your kids when it's your time. If she's not there/runs off with them, she's in contempt and can go to jail. Problem Solved.

I'm not sure of the forms you need but google it or go visit the courthouse and be humble with the employees and ask nicely for assistance on what to file.

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thanks but sorry not using a lawyer swore them off after had to pay over 800 bucks to last one just to get divorced

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Do you want to see your kids regularly or not?


Seems simple. If yes, get a lawyer.

Are you divorced....officially? If so, you have a divorce decree that outlines every detail about the concerns listed in your OP. I mean , damn dude. You paid $800 according to you, to an attorney for something. That is the typical price for an uncontested divorce which is what it sounds like you agreed to. So do you have a divorce decree or not?

If so, get your documentation in order. Journals, photos of the boyfriend living with her, witnesses, etc. and get your arse to the magistrate court to file a suit holding her in contempt of court. A hearing will be set up where you can present your grievance to the judge. Use the time between now and the time she is issued a summons to appear to gather evidence. Immediately write down any details of incidents that have occurred up until now that you can clearly recall. Do that now. As in tonight. Do not tell her what you are doing. The first she hears of this is when she gets the summons. She will freak out on you and attempt to guilt you into canceling the hearing and perhaps even try to placate you with assurances and promises of better relations. I would not discuss the hearing with her or what to expect from the outcome. Be civil and discuss only arrangements to care for the kids. Do everything you are required to do according to the decree. And I hope that you are current on any child support that she was awarded. If not....drop this altogether and get caught up there or this will turn around on you in a bad way.

It's really not that hard for an intelligent....reasonable....and logical person to navigate but you have written a few things that make me question your ability to handle this on your own. Perhaps you should go ahead and hire an attorney. They are there to assist people like you navigate this process.

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ok just got off work thanks but sorry not using a lawyer swore them off after had to pay over 800 bucks to last one just to get divorced.

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Is being able to see your kids and at least be some sort of father to them not worth $800 to you?