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Im struggling bad this morning
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:09 am
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:09 am
I found out this weekend a close friend of mine was killed in a car wreck. Im sitting here at work a grown arse man finding myself balling like a 3 year old. Im not one to put all my problems on the internet but Im hurting.Just needed somewhere to post something. Any advice will be appreciated on how to deal with this situation.
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Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:11 am to ThaTigerDon
Damn, very sorry. Advice would be to leave work and go be with friends/family if possible.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:13 am to ThaTigerDon
Sorry for your loss. And yeah, leave work, and go be with family/friends.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:14 am to ThaTigerDon
Being sad that your friend died is normal. Don't be ashamed.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:16 am to ThaTigerDon
We lost a good friend and fellow poster here not too long ago. My sister lost one of her best friends a few short months ago.
My advice to get away from work and get around some mutual friends. Do some talking and reminiscing and do some laughing, and ultimately some healing.
It will be tough for a few days but time heals all wounds
all the best man
My advice to get away from work and get around some mutual friends. Do some talking and reminiscing and do some laughing, and ultimately some healing.
It will be tough for a few days but time heals all wounds
all the best man
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:17 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off, man. Go grieve.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:18 am to ThaTigerDon
Everyone grieves in different ways. #1 thing to know is there is no wrong way to grieve. If talking it out helps, then talk it out. If holding it in helps, do that.
If you need to totally submerge yourself in work, yea, do it. If you can't work, take some leave. Don't let anyone tell you the right way to move on cause it is all up to you.
I'll say a prayer.
If you need to totally submerge yourself in work, yea, do it. If you can't work, take some leave. Don't let anyone tell you the right way to move on cause it is all up to you.
I'll say a prayer.
This post was edited on 9/22/14 at 8:19 am
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:27 am to ThaTigerDon
Go talk to your boss, man. No reason for you to be there in that state. Try to be with some family or another friend. I know how bad something like that can hurt.
Not saying this is the case, either, but if you can't leave, picture your friend giving you shite for crying. I know that sounds dumb, but it's what I did. For me it just kind of changed the frame of mind a little.
Not saying this is the case, either, but if you can't leave, picture your friend giving you shite for crying. I know that sounds dumb, but it's what I did. For me it just kind of changed the frame of mind a little.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:28 am to ThaTigerDon
Sorry for your loss
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:30 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:30 am to ThaTigerDon
Take a personal day, and try to spend time with your remaining friends and family.
It's hard to say when you will feel better, but the tightness in your chest and dread will ease one day. Until then, you'll have spells where you are angry or very upset. The may last 5-6 months for some people.
Put someone you trust in charge for the day and check in with them every few hours.
It's hard to say when you will feel better, but the tightness in your chest and dread will ease one day. Until then, you'll have spells where you are angry or very upset. The may last 5-6 months for some people.
Put someone you trust in charge for the day and check in with them every few hours.
This post was edited on 9/22/14 at 8:35 am
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:32 am to ThaTigerDon
Another thing I can tell you is that (for me, at least) grief comes in waves. You'll go through periods where you feel like it didn't happen, then realize it did happen, and break down all over again. You'll have times where you can fondly remember your friend and reminisce, and other times in which you don't want to talk or think about it. As time goes on, the fond reminiscing periods will hopefully take up more of your thoughts until you have thoroughly grieved. I still get pangs when I think about my grandmother not being around, but more and more often I am grateful for the time I had with her and am convinced she is in heaven watching down on me.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:35 am to ThaTigerDon
Sorry for your loss, bud. If it's the same friend I had, we lost a great person.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:37 am to ThaTigerDon
My brother died two years ago. It takes time. Find a grief counselor and talk to them. If you have kids it will be hard to have patience with them during this time try and realize when you are frustrated with them and hopefully you can have someone help you with them.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:38 am to ThaTigerDon
Focus on the good memories and be there for the family.
My condolences, be strong sir.
My condolences, be strong sir.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:38 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off. You clearly need it. Worry about you, work will be there when you're ready
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:48 am to ThaTigerDon
There are some places on reddit that might be of some help.
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Posted on 9/22/14 at 9:19 am to ThaTigerDon
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Any advice will be appreciated on how to deal with this situation.
A couple cold beers with a buddy fixes everything
Posted on 9/22/14 at 9:45 am to ThaTigerDon
Own your emotions. It's ok to be devastated, and to grieve. If I were you, I would go home, unless work is a welcome distraction.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 10:26 am to ThaTigerDon
Go run a few miles
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