When online pictures don't match real life

Met someone online who really seemed to check all the boxes — smart, driven, great career, only one child, totally self-sufficient, and ex-spouse doesn't seem to be an issue. And honestly, her pictures on the app are what originally caught my attention. We talked on the phone a bunch of times and really clicked, so we agreed to meet.

Before meeting, I looked at what little I could see from her IG and FB (they’re private), and those pictures were basically the same as her dating profile. So I figured, cool, what I see is what I’m going to get.

I show up … and she’s at least 40 lbs heavier than in those photos. I’m not trying to be shallow, and I really don’t want to be that guy. But I can’t help wondering how intentional this was. I’ve never been one to use filters or outdated pictures — if you’re genuinely interested in someone, you’re going to meet in person eventually, so why not just be real from the start?

I've had this happen a couple of times to me with different women I had an interest in.

Is FaceTime a requirement prior to meeting someone? Or should it be? Just trying to make sense of it.