Ever had a family member in a nursing home?

Really depends on the home. Typically there’s 1, MAYBE 2, actual nurses there and frankly they work at a NH because they likely can’t get a job anywhere else. They basically sit all day doing paperwork for whatever private firm owns the home and they have CNAs running around doing the labor and there’s not nearly enough of them. Typically the “medical director” is a quack that’s paid a nominal fee to sign charts that likely never sets foot inside the place, not that that’s a bad thing. This is offset by having special days where they do their nails and hair and shite like that.

That’s pretty typical. However, there are some atypical homes that provide superb care, nice, clean, and pts are well cared for and comfortable.

I would imagine this varies vastly depending on the home in general.

My girlfriends and I can't flipping wait to someday move into St. James Place, and we are planning on hoarding savings/inheritance to do so.

If the only place I could go was Flannery Oaks (idk, maybe this place is nice now? it wasn't years ago), I would hope I die first.

It's very sweet and noble of your grandmother to refuse to take you up on the offer to move in, as frustrating as I'm sure it is for y'all. Depending on your lifestyle, having a relative in the home can be a massive strain on your marriage and life in general. She must love you lots.

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Is it a nursing home or assisted living?

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Nursing home.

She says she doesn't want some stranger living in her house and would rather go somewhere where they could tend to her needs constantly.

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Ever had a family member in a nursing home

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does my mother count?

Yes, I have had family members in nursing homes. In my experience, when you get in the shape that you need to be in a nursing home (I.e. skilled nursing facility) your quality of life is pretty damn bad no matter where you are.

My grandfather was in one for a few years. The staff were fond of him so we knew he would be OK. They used to put a little card next to his plate in the dining room where they would write down what he ate. He thought it was the check and would try to pay after every meal.

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My 88-year-old grandmother has been telling us that she thinks that is the best option for her, but I know nothing about them.

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Does she have a lot of assets?

Hopefully she already gave most of her valuables to your parents and siblings.

My Mother was in a nursing home the last six months of her life. (94).
I think it was ran by the state of Louisiana. Ferriday, Louisiana.
It was clean, no smell. I think it served as a rehab Center as well. There was a younger Patient in the same room (40) that was paralyzed. I later discovered that lady was rehabbed and discharged, walked out, and resumed a normal life.

Yes. My mom. It sucked.