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Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:31 pm
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:31 pm
Schizo on it…
I’m raised old school. Did not. Married long time. Sometimes happily (kidding).
Old school thinking:
Marriage is one of, if not the most, significant impact on people in my life, one another, on kids and descendants lines…certainly in my experience and family. Can point to strong marriage as basis for successful people in my family. Likewise, can point to weak marriage as basis for unsuccessful people in my family. Sure as sunset in west. Therefore, it deserves much respect. Living together ain’t it.
That said, pragmatic me says it makes good sense to get test run in advance of such important life commitment. Augments, not counters, old school point above. Get over respect and get pragmatic.
What say you?
I’m raised old school. Did not. Married long time. Sometimes happily (kidding).
Old school thinking:
Marriage is one of, if not the most, significant impact on people in my life, one another, on kids and descendants lines…certainly in my experience and family. Can point to strong marriage as basis for successful people in my family. Likewise, can point to weak marriage as basis for unsuccessful people in my family. Sure as sunset in west. Therefore, it deserves much respect. Living together ain’t it.
That said, pragmatic me says it makes good sense to get test run in advance of such important life commitment. Augments, not counters, old school point above. Get over respect and get pragmatic.
What say you?
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:32 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Good.
Get an idea of how they are to live with.
It’s not 1950 any longer.
Get an idea of how they are to live with.
It’s not 1950 any longer.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:34 pm to RummelTiger
quote:. Yeah, how’s that working out? Maybe people knew better and lived better back then. Don’t live together before marriage.
It’s not 1950 any longer.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:35 pm to RummelTiger
quote:
It’s not 1950 any longer.
And everything is worse because of it.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:35 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Historically you were more likely to end up divorcing if you lived together before the wedding.
Now it's about even, so there's still no advantage to shacking.
Now it's about even, so there's still no advantage to shacking.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:35 pm to OldSouth
quote:
Yeah, how’s that working out? Maybe people knew better and lived better back then.
They didn’t know any better, they were just told what they had to do.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:35 pm to Artificial Ignorance
.
This post was edited on 9/6/25 at 2:38 pm
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:36 pm to Artificial Ignorance
We moved in together when we got engaged. It just didn't make any sense for us to live a mile apart and pay 2 rents when we stayed with each other most of the time anyway. Not to mention now you have one electric bill, one internet bill etc.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:36 pm to chryso
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And everything is worse because of it.
lol…
If you think things were “better” in 1950, then you’re living in a nostalgic fog.
The best time to ever be alive is right now.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:37 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Definitely try it before you buy it.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:39 pm to fallguy_1978
Why weren't you living with your parents?
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:40 pm to chryso
quote:
And everything is worse because of it.
The good old days when it was near impossible for a woman to leave.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:42 pm to RummelTiger
quote:
The best time to ever be alive is right now.
lol. No.
9/10/01 was a better time
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:42 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Getting married is a bad idea. Living with an SO is great though.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:43 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Bad idea. You should know each other well before marriage
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:43 pm to Artificial Ignorance
100% good idea
At least a year
This is actually a rule in my Family
At least a year
This is actually a rule in my Family
This post was edited on 9/6/25 at 2:47 pm
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:44 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Depending on the person/couple, I can see the advantages for either.
I did not shack up until we were married. Next month will be 21 years and we've been together 24 1/2.
I did not shack up until we were married. Next month will be 21 years and we've been together 24 1/2.
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:45 pm to Breesus
quote:
9/10/01 was a better time
Negative
Posted on 9/6/25 at 2:45 pm to Artificial Ignorance
quote:
Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?
I don't think it would have been fair to our child for us not to live together.
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