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re: How do people cope with separation or divorce?
Posted on 5/6/23 at 10:32 am to RogerTheShrubber
Posted on 5/6/23 at 10:32 am to RogerTheShrubber
This too shall pass.
List some positive things you want to do, and do them. Exercise, it will wear you out, help you sleep, and get you in better shape. Hang with positive people. Don't turn to destructive things.
List some positive things you want to do, and do them. Exercise, it will wear you out, help you sleep, and get you in better shape. Hang with positive people. Don't turn to destructive things.
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Posted on 5/6/23 at 10:32 am to Privateer 2007
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Work out.
Go on a frick spree. Smash a few broads.
"Conservative" in 2023.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 10:33 am to billjamin
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The healing power of a young women’s vagina is amazing. I suggest trying it.
This too. I made a huge upgrade to a much younger, quite literal, model. This post was edited on 5/6/23 at 10:34 am
Posted on 5/6/23 at 10:56 am to SECdragonmaster
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You might find your soon to be ex wife falls in love with all over again. It happened to my uncle and they have been remarried for 30 years.
This happens quite more than we think it does. It makes sense to me, especially if there are years and children attached to it.
One spouse may not be willing, and I get it. The thought could be from them "Why do I want to go back to that," or "You want it to go back to the way it is" which is actually the complete opposite of what most people who do self-reflection, healing, and growing actually want. They want something new, better, and different and are able to contribute towards that with the new and improved person they have become.
The former spouse's perception of their ex may never change. It doesn't mean that they're right. It just means they are basing today and tomorrow on their experiences with you from the past. That's why it is important to keep working on yourself. Maybe they will come around and see things differently over time. Maybe they won't. But either way, you're growing, and healing. And that is never a bad thing.
This post was edited on 5/6/23 at 10:58 am
Posted on 5/6/23 at 11:05 am to Will Cover
SAIP, Volunteer. Get out there and make a difference for someone else. Join a gym and stay with it. Go to church. Best of luck.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 11:05 am to Texas ellessu
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SAIP, Volunteer. Get out there and make a difference for someone else.
I have learned through my own experiences in life, while occasionally shitty, there is always someone who has it worst than you --- and would gladly trade places with me.
Being grounded, centered, grateful, and showing grace not only for yourself but towards others, are some of the best things that we can do for ourselves.
This post was edited on 5/6/23 at 11:07 am
Posted on 5/6/23 at 11:05 am to ArmyHogs
Good loyal friends and supportive family help a lot. A supportive affirming Christian community helps also. I see many Churches have support groups for divorced, widowed and those experiencing loss.
Love conquers all. Even a broken heart.
Love conquers all. Even a broken heart.
This post was edited on 5/6/23 at 11:07 am
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:04 pm to ArmyHogs
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Anyone deal with this before?
Sadly, 50 percent of people who get married
I hope you come through this dark time stronger and mentally healthier
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:12 pm to ArmyHogs
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How do people cope with separation or divorce?
I'm just joking OP. I recommend volunteering and helping others and that will give you some fulfillment. It won't solve all your problems, but will keep you busy and your mind from thinking too many negative thoughts.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:27 pm to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
Work up a good sweat everyday.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:33 pm to ArmyHogs
Make yourself better: lose weight or get in the gym. Get a cool hobby like learn to fly an airplane.
Most importantly, go find a younger woman.
Most importantly, go find a younger woman.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:36 pm to ArmyHogs
One day at a time. It's the worst thing I've ever gone through to this day and that includes liver failure and transplant. I'm eight years post divorce now and can tell you things do get a helluva lot better as time goes on.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:41 pm to ArmyHogs
So sorry you're having to go through that. Must be tough.
I guess, like all grief processing, there are stages you have to go through before you're ready for the next step.
Certainly focus on yourself right now. Take a trip. Hit the gym. Connect with old friends. Stay out there.
Stages
Mayo Article
I guess, like all grief processing, there are stages you have to go through before you're ready for the next step.
Certainly focus on yourself right now. Take a trip. Hit the gym. Connect with old friends. Stay out there.
Stages
Mayo Article
Posted on 5/6/23 at 12:59 pm to Will Cover
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One spouse may not be willing, and I get it. The thought could be from them "Why do I want to go back to that," or "You want it to go back to the way it is" which is actually the complete opposite of what most people who do self-reflection, healing, and growing actually want.
That’s the problem right now, she is completely unwilling. She is definitely holding on to how it was and truly believes nothing will change. At this point I’m going to just hope and pray she comes around but I don’t have any real faith that she will. It’s so hard to give her space cause I miss talking to her. I sound like such a pussy I hate it
Posted on 5/6/23 at 1:35 pm to ArmyHogs
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It’s so hard to give her space cause I miss talking to her.
Then, tell her that. Tell her how you feel and what you are willing to do to save your marriage. She may not waiver, but at this point, there's no down side for you. Don't live with regret that you didn't give it your all to try to make things work. She may break down and give it a try with professional help.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 1:40 pm to ArmyHogs
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I sound like such a pussy I hate it
Who gives a frick what you sound like? Go save your marriage
Posted on 5/6/23 at 1:41 pm to ArmyHogs
Hobbies
Friends
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Strange
Friends
Books
Exercise
Strange
Posted on 5/6/23 at 1:43 pm to ArmyHogs
"if you're going through hell, keep going."
All in good time bud, you'll be fine.
All in good time bud, you'll be fine.
Posted on 5/6/23 at 2:17 pm to ArmyHogs
Mostly because they are already emotionally detached and being split is good for their mental health
Posted on 5/6/23 at 2:20 pm to TulaneLSU
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TulaneLSU
Friend,
You annoyed the hell out of me at first but I am glad you’re back. You’ve grown on me and I think you’re a really good person. Keep blessing us with your posts.
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