re: 'You people' Discussion Thread | Jonah Hill, Eddie Murphy

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Interracial marriages are 17% of all new marriages. That's 1 in 6 marriages. It will only continue to increase. It is reality.

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I don’t disagree that it will continue to rise, but the current representation is not in any way an accurate depiction of reality. I feel like 90% of the marriages depicted are almost exclusively black and white when of that 17% you cited, the vast majority of interracial marriages are Hispanic and Asian.

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A solid 29% of Asian American adults and 27% of Hispanic American adults said they married someone of a different racial background than their own. Within these racial groups, American-born individuals were even more likely to be in an interracial marriage. In fact, nearly half of U.S.-born Asian newlyweds (47%) said they had chosen a spouse who is not of Asian descent. The Pew Research Center’s data shows that today’s Black singles are slowly but surely becoming more open to entering interracial relationships and marriages. In 1980, just 5% of Black people reported being in an intermarriage compared with 18% of Black people today. Black men are twice as likely as Black women (24% vs. 12%) to say they have married someone of a different race. White men and women were the least likely to report an interracial marriage at 11%.

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It’s arguing semantics, but I’m just saying there is specific overrepresentation to reality.

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Being uncomfortable with it is not exclusive to older age sets

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Of course not but I’d wager that the oldest subset, has the most disagreement.

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frick the parents, they wouldn't be in the relationship, they should have zero input into it.

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Agreed. I love my parents and in-laws but the only fight I ever got into with my in-laws was regarding this (not for our family.) my MiL mentioned that my wife’s cousin was dating and that her brother (MiL’s brother/cousin’s dad) wasn’t to happy about it. We asked why and my my MiL said “well how would you feel if your sons were dating a black girl?”

Lost my shite on them. I’m right wing AF and as much as I love them, I’ll be glad that their generation takes a lot of that to the grave with them.

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I don’t want to throw my in-laws under the table entirely.

My MiL coached a track athlete in HS who won multiple National Championships and when she was inducted into the hall of fame, the athlete had her at her table thanked her in their speech for being the only present stable relationship in her life growing up and they’re still close to this day.

My FiL ran a large shipping company and employed thousands of people over the years. One time an employee asked him why he was “hard on us blacks?” He said “because I want y’all to succeed and do better than loading a truck for the rest of your life. There are a lot of guys that work the bare minimum here and have been here for years. I think you’re better.”

One of those dudes just came back to their town and now is the head of a state department of transportation now. He found my FiL and told him that his words made him leave town, go to college, and become more. He said riding him when he was 16 and having him over for dinner with his family showed him he wanted to give a better life to his family than what he had been given.

All that… and they still don’t like interracial marriage.

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frick the parents, they wouldn't be in the relationship, they should have zero input into it.

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Meh. This is about as unrealistic as some sort of prohibition "ruling out" the other way. The most significant people in any long-term relationship are, in order:

1. The children that result from that relationship

2. The parents of those in that relationship

Now, it does vary and perhaps all my close family relationships skew this to a considerable degree, but I cannot imagine how the parents (opinion of the significant other and his/her family) don't factor into it when you're talking about a lifetime of Holidays, dropping the kids at grandparents, shared life events, tragedies, triumphs, etc.

It's just crazy (although I would agree with you that they shouldn't have veto due to bullshite, 19th Century notions about immutable characteristics outside a person's control that has nothing to do with character, integrity, love, value as a human being, etc.)