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Need a “self help” book suggestion

Posted on 7/22/20 at 1:33 pm
Posted by FitzBlitz52
The Boot
Member since Feb 2017
596 posts
Posted on 7/22/20 at 1:33 pm
To keep my sob story short and sweet:

I’ve always been a negative person with no/low self esteem, wallow in self loathing, and dwell on my short comings as a person and my past. It is slowly but steadily affecting my marriage.

Any suggestions on a book that can help me try and better cope with myself?

TIA.
Posted by Breesus
House of the Rising Sun
Member since Jan 2010
66982 posts
Posted on 7/22/20 at 2:13 pm to
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson.

Talk to and grow with your wife.

Also, evaluate your diet. Cut out processed sugars and high sodium foods.

Then go read real life accounts of the Holocaust and The Gulag Archipelago.
This post was edited on 7/22/20 at 2:18 pm
Posted by windshieldman
Member since Nov 2012
12818 posts
Posted on 7/22/20 at 2:14 pm to
The Power of Now

Amazon link
Posted by ecb
Member since Jul 2010
9334 posts
Posted on 7/22/20 at 7:34 pm to
Awareness by Anthony Demello
Posted by Lsujacket66
Member since Dec 2010
4787 posts
Posted on 7/23/20 at 12:47 am to
Think and grow rich. Not necessarily what most people would suggest but the lessons would put you on a path to being happier imo
Posted by Philzilla2k
Member since Oct 2017
11050 posts
Posted on 7/23/20 at 6:47 am to
Don’t buy a book, seek a professional
Posted by MurderHornet
Beaumont, TX
Member since Jun 2020
411 posts
Posted on 7/23/20 at 7:11 am to
How to Win Friends and Influence People

- Dale Carnegie
Posted by DLSWVA
SW Virginia via Baton Rouge
Member since Nov 2012
780 posts
Posted on 7/23/20 at 4:07 pm to
Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

The Road Less Traveled

And I second seeking out professional help. Talking it out certainly couldn't hurt, especially if your marriage is in jeopardy.
Posted by bayoubengals88
LA
Member since Sep 2007
18883 posts
Posted on 7/27/20 at 11:04 am to
New Testament- Philippians. Paul wrote it while imprisoned.

If you don’t understand the context or have trouble interpreting, keep searching.

There is no such thing as self help. We literally are unable to help ourselves because we were not made for this world (CS Lewis). We'll always be disappointed. Sure, you might feel better for a while...maybe even 6 months or more. But life is always throwing stuff at you.

The only ultimate comfort comes from our creator.
This post was edited on 7/27/20 at 11:16 am
Posted by bayoubengals88
LA
Member since Sep 2007
18883 posts
Posted on 7/27/20 at 11:13 am to
quote:

Any suggestions on a book that can help me try and better cope with myself?

There are essentially two seemingly contradictory truths about humanity.

1. We suck. You've noticed this part.
2. We're all created in God's image. I want you to realize this part.

What we feel when we're down is not what we are meant to feel forever.

If you read Psalm 8 it is so interesting to see that humanity is highly elevated. We want to live according to how God sees us.
Verses 1 and 9 are set apart. They are book ends if you will for this psalm, which is really just a poem. But verse 4 shows just how important humanity is. We are the focus of this psalm, as is God.

We were made to worship God and have dominion over all things. When you tend to your garden or cut your grass you're participating in that! When you talk to your wife you are showing God's love (and she'll appreciate it). You don't have to have a past. All can be forgiven. It might just work...you might feel new.

1 Lord, our Lord,
how majestic is your name in all the earth!


You have set your glory
in the heavens.
2 Through the praise of children and infants
you have established a stronghold against your enemies,
to silence the foe and the avenger.
3 When I consider your heavens,
the work of your fingers,
the moon and the stars,
which you have set in place,
4 what is mankind that you are mindful of them,
human beings that you care for them?[c]


5 You have made them[d] a little lower than the angels[e]
and crowned them[f] with glory and honor.
6 You made them rulers over the works of your hands;
you put everything under their[g] feet:
7 all flocks and herds,
and the animals of the wild,
8 the birds in the sky,
and the fish in the sea,
all that swim the paths of the seas.

9 Lord, our Lord,
how majestic is your name in all the earth!


email me if you want to talk. bayoubengals1988@gmail.com
Posted by ChargerDog91
Member since May 2012
4394 posts
Posted on 7/28/20 at 11:10 pm to
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

LINK

Anything by Jon Gordon. Primarily, The Carpenter and Energy Bus.

Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willinck

LINK

Start With Why by Simon Sinek

LINK

Any of those are awesome. Some of my favorite books. I’ve read Compound Effect and Extreme Ownership twice. As a baseball coach, they are extremely helpful in getting my mind focused where it needs to be. Lots of good ideas as well.
This post was edited on 7/28/20 at 11:14 pm
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