re: The foster care system is broken

After a child is taken from a parent for drug or jail, that parent should be held to an even higher standard that someone who fosters the child. It is crazy to just give the child back to these horrible people.

The crack head parent might really want to raise the child but the addiction will always be there.

They should be required to be clean (drug tested) for 6 months. They should have to be employed. And there home should be inspected weekly without prior notice.

Even his follow up posts show he is a total piece of shite. Like one of the worst I’ve seen on here.

I agree with you on everything you said, and the system sort of works that way. The mother will have submit to random drug testing for some time, and there will be numerous unannounced visits by social workers. What I'm not understanding in my situation is how is this even a remote possibility at this point, the mother has no job, and has no vehicle to get her to one. We don't have public transportation here so how is she going to get these kids around? And why the heck are they skipping all the normal steps and jumping straight to unsupervised weekends? The answer is the policy of keeping siblings together and they are ignoring the part where the rules says that they don't have to be kept together if it would harm one of the siblings. That's why I said earlier this could be fixed with some common sense.

I have no doubt the Mother loves her kids, she just hasn't proved to this point for any meaningful amount of time that she can kick the habit.

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Is there any consideration to changing your mind on the 3rd child?

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To be honest, we've struggled with the two we are caring for now. One of the kids with us is developmentally behind due to neglect, lead exposure and drug use while the mother was pregnant. That said, he is quickly catching up now since he came to us. I don't think we would be able to give the attention and care to the two we have that they need, if we take on the third. Plus, we live in the sticks, the nearest hospital to us that provides the services the newborn will need is over an hour away. She needs to be closer than that.

When we got into this we said we'd take on one child, maybe two if they were siblings and we told the state we were looking for older than 6, we ended up with 2 under 5. Its been tough on our marriage and on my wife. She has fibromyalgia which limits her at times, adding a new born would be asking to much of her.

Thank you for opening your heart and home to these precious children brother!

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I referred to the OP as someone who tries to raise kids




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It's funny, i criticize you for not reading the original post, and you reply by not even reading your own post. Do you have dementia like Biden?

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Hey dumbass, tge Original poster that I first replied to has responded to me in this thread calling you an a-hole.

Cam you fricking read?

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It's funny, i criticize you for not reading the original post, and you reply by not even reading your own post. Do you have dementia like Biden?

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Please point out what you are talking about or crawl back to your hiding spot because
A. You are not coherent
B. You keep asking questions that are. Not related to what you are talking about I assume because no one knows what the hell you are talking about.

Comparing me to Biden, reread the thread Einstein, I'm against abortion. Just stop embarrassing yourself

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Hey dumbass, tge Original poster that I first replied to has responded to me in this thread calling you an a-hole.

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Cool, if i cared what overweight boomers thought about me, i obviously wouldn't post here.

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Cam you fricking read?

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I can read english, and a decent amount of italian. However with your atrocious typing ability, it's not super easy.

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You keep asking questions that are. Not related to what you are talking about I assume because no one knows what the hell you are talking about.

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My point exactly.

Bruh, you are bumping this thread with no message because you're so devoted to it. Oh but it's a waste of time. I'm gonna go do some work, so you'll have to get along without me. It's also almost certain i will forget about this thread again, because i really don't care.

I’m just now reading through the forum and seeing some of the post, I think it’s lovely that you want to fix the foster system and make it better for all children. I don’t mean to sound crude but when someone is suffering irreversibly, and by that I mean syphilis and drug addiction and no support system, That’s not right. This child was forced to be born into a horrifically painful situation, and it’s nice to sit here and say well the foster system can be better but right now it’s not for that child right now that child is in agony as we sit here comfortably typing. Unfortunately the decision should have been made to abort that child very early on in that pregnancy. Everyone knew how the child was going to turn out, the mother didn’t care and she should be back in prison for negligence and reckless endangerment.

This child should never have been born into this situation, it was 100% preventable in a multitude of ways. The last option should’ve been abortion but it should’ve been an option. Now we can all sit here and talk about stuff while the baby writhes in agony and suffering pain. I hope we are all happy with ourselves.