re: Would You Allow Your Wife, GF/SO or Close Relative Be A Surrogate?

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Why not just adopt? Foster kids need moving parents too.

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If they can't keep their own parents, why should I give them any?

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Like it’s that easy

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Totally agree with that, IMO. Not every female had the DNA for good looking, smooth tan legs, for example. Just the way God planned it all.

I just fricking hate when people say that shite

“Why don’t you just adopt?!”

Like it’s the super easy solution to everything

1) Adoption is expensive. Looking at 30-50k depending on what agency, etc.

Sure you can foster to adopt and it’s much cheaper. But not everyone wants to take that on. The system is set up to reunite families If at all possible. Imagine falling in love with a child....and the courts give them back to their bio mom because she cleaned up.

Or....a birth mom pregnant chooses you to adopt. You spend $$$$$ for medical costs, fees. Etc. She changes her mind when baby is born. Nothing you can do, she can legally do that.


So yeah.....there is no “just adopt” option.

When you can’t have a child naturally on your own all of the other options are expensive emotionally intensive roller coasters with no guarantees. Sometimes when one option fails....the thought of going with a different emotional ride is just too much.

You must have read about the recent adoption scam here involving a Maricopa county official.

I know a lady that's currently a surrogate for a family that couldn't conceive. Both the egg and sperm were implanted. She's kept to a strict diet and works out often. It's apparently very lucrative. She has two kids with her husband as well. Husband is a nice guy. This is their second time for her to surrogate. She's due in January. So to each their own I suppose.

For free. To help family.

But you do get to have the $50000 at the end of it.

I agreed for my wife to surrogate for her cousin. It was postponed, possibly due to misgivings or friction within cousin's marriage, since they later divorced. I was not told any specifics about why it didn't happen. As I look back, I now wonder whether I could have in return negotiated a fantasy scenario involving wife, cousin and cousin's two sisters, all of whom were very attractive. Would have been a night to remember, if I survived. Might be an angle to consider there, OP.

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Is this that thing where I sit in the den trying to watch tv with my wife’s friend while her husband is in the back room hammering away at my wife?

Do I not at least get to be in the room feeding my wife ice chip and telling her what a wonderful mommy she is going to be?

How much is the dude sweating? Are they doing missionary or doggy? (Please say doggy.)

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I laughed too hard at this. I feel trashy. Then I reread it and laughed again. That means I don’t just feel trashy, I am trashy.

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Couple of guys trying to posture with their women and say what is meant to be will be. A few of us can't really connect the dots on that and seem to think if what is meant to be will be, it be mom is barren and, well, that's life.

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If you do the research, the women could make about 40k per surrogate attempt. Pretty sure extra if it turns out to be twins. So, if what is meant to be will be putting an extra 40k in my pocket for my wife, GF/SO then give me that 40k.

Maybe it's the thought of having to deal with lawyers and whatnot. Think people in Louisiana have to adopt their own kid as all rights in this type of transaction goes to the birthing mother rather than the actual egg mother. Assuming you are in Louisiana.