re: What's the point of open marriages?

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Yeah I'm sure about 0% originally intended the marriage to be open

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It is always so compellingly interesting to see all the people in these threads speak about being "sure" of stuff regarding people who they largely don't even know.

First party I went to, I friggin ran into the local PTA president of my kid's elementary school. I'd known her for YEARS!! Didn't have a clue. And I've NEVER been very uptight.

So, if you're an uptight bitch in this thread that's all super judgmental, you probably shouldn't anticipate that IRL, you're gonna know the swingers that are in your life.

Oh. And you can mark my fricking words. You DO know some.

They seem to forget that the guy gets to frick other women and oftentimes the women enjoy MFF. What about if the guy gets to frick all the women he wants and the woman has girlfriends that she allows him to join in with? That better?

A lot of insecure guys in here.

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Once you take that step though, you can't undo it.

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For the most part, true.

I do know one couple that I've known for about 13 years that seems to go in waves.

For several months, they are at every damned event you can even think of getting to. They are highly active on their two web profiles. Etc etc.

Then, they take a break. Sometimes for 4-5 months.

Then, back at it.

First time it happened, I thought, "ruh roh, trouble". But, it's been happening since about 2002.

If I've learned anything from addiction, it's that, you know, life is as brief as the twinkling of a star over all too soon. So if you're in a situation where you're with a woman, why not do the most interesting thing that you can do in that situation? And by which, I don't mean have a conversation, have a chin-wag, a bit of a chat. Lose yourself in something that's both ancient and perennial. Find something eternal, perpetual. Lose yourself in frick.

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Has there ever been an open marriage that didn't end in divorce?

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well since 50% of monogamous marriages fail, whats your fn point?

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why tie the knot with someone if you both are going to sleep around with other folks openly? Something about this just doesn't make sense to me.

Kinda like prenups.

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This again.

There is more to marriage then fricking. However a lot of people get tired of bumping against the same body after a few years and want some spice. If I like my wife but want to nail her best friend...being truthful and upfront about it is one hell of a lot better then running around behind her back.

Nothing wrong with consensual non-monogamy as long as everyone is a consenting adult.

I should know, been with my wife 22 years now ;-)....

I lose myself 10-15 times a week in my girlfriend but then again I'm always looking for a side piece.

Divorced life is great for sex drive. No more hitting the same piece of arse, you get to experience new things, and you might just find out that you were missing out on a lot while you were married. I've gone as young as 23 and as old as 55 since mine left me.

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Has there ever been an open marriage that didn't end in divorce?

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Mine.

I think there's a something interesting that seem to run through the heads of people who start these threads.

1)They seem to think there's some great concern that if you swing, your wife or hubby will get laid by someone better than their spouse and this will be a big deal.

So, let me clear something up here. There is no fricking doubt that since starting in the lifestyle, my wife has gotten it from someone better than I give it. And, there's no doubt I've given it to a few wives better than they were getting at home.

But hey folks. NEWSFLASH. Unless your spouse was a virgin when you married them or close to it, there's a VERY high probability that you aren't the best sex partner they've ever had. Oh, they may have told you this(I used to tell this lie to my first wife), but it's almost always a lie.

So, when you got married, your spouse already knew you weren't the best frick available. They knew that if "best frick they could get" was their primary criteria, they should pass on you. Hell, the "best frick" available may be someone they broke up with just before starting to date you!

I think that people in general have way too big a hang up as to whether they are the baddest mofo ever in bed. No. Trust me. You're not. Somewhere out there, maybe even on your block, is someone that would frick your wife(or hubby) and make whatever you're doing look like amateur hour.

Most of you are the street ball version of basketball(at best) in bed but hanging just around the corner is Lebron James.