re: What do you do

Good lord this is a train wreck of red flags

Show up at the Christmas Dinner, one of 2 thing is about to happen.

1) she will greet you and introduce you and move on and everyone will have a great time. If she rally lives you, she will take a stand for you to be there.

2) she will be pissed and make a scene and then you have your way out,

Kid with anxiety? he’s frickin 11 years old, if he has issues on comfort now, he will always.

I am assuming engaged means you gave her some kind of ring. Go to a jewelry store, get a small can of the ring cleaning fluid, show it to her, tell her you need to clean her ring for a high holiday sparkle, get the ring, and leave. Keep going.

She can stay with the husband that she is still married to, and spends the majority of her time with.

If you want to be anywhere close to even when you leave, use her credit card to buy a UTV, then get the ring and scoot.

If I had to face any one of all those obvious red flags before deciding to proceed I would choose to end the relationship and be alone every day of the week and twice on Sundays.

I am going through a divorce myself so I understand some of what you are going through. With that said, I have zero desire to try and manufacture a new relationship for the sake of saying I am with someone or to prove anything to anyone.

I will admit, especially during the holidays, that there are some aspects of being in a relationship that I miss, but the peace and quiet and ability to not have to entertain or pacify someone else has been well worth it.

I guess I may be different, but after putting up with all the constant bullshite my ex wife brought with her, I may never seek out another relationship. If it happens naturally, I will know. Until then, I am good.

Just a thought. Your move Chief.

Hit the road in a hurry. I will make a wild guess, and say I bet you hadn’t even done a simple $19.95 background check on her, or seen any of her tax returns . Two things you need to do before considering marriage with anyone in the future.

She is divorced as I read the final order

Are you mentally retarded or have elephant man syndrome?

Those are the only way I could see the situation be worth pursuing

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Her youngest son suffers from severe anxiety and is under medical care and medication. She claims to have her ex husband around is a calming influence on both children.

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Red flag at best, completely fake at worst.

How would you know if this is true?

You haven’t met him.

Dude she’s still married