re: Veteran Suicide

he isn't asking folks to be their Therapists here, he is just sharing stuff.

and your 1st line of response came across that way, so yeah that was why I said don't be a dick.

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I'm struggling knowing that I was not there.

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He was the selfish one that killed himself. It’s not on you or your fault at all. I know you have guilt and that is a completely normal feeling to have. But it doesn’t mean that it’s your fault though.

Unfortunately this was a decision he made and even if you had answered the phone this time, next time it may not have mattered. I respect your being there for him all this time, but you can’t do that forever and at some point he, as a grown man, has to be responsible for his choices and actions.

It’s a shitty aituation and I feel bad for you. But that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong or that you deserve blame.

My question is why would all the people in your life back away from you? Simply because you’ve withdrawn? That seems like shitty friends and associates. It almost seems like there is more to this story than we are getting in the OP.

Hey brother,

God bless you and keep you and I pray you welcome His peace into your heart.

I’ve been where you are at as well and there is true Peace in Christ.

No shame in posting this. Maybe someone on this post could help you with their experience. Sorry got nothing really but to offer that everyone gets depressed at some point it's up to you to find the right thing to get yourself out of it.

Bro, I served in the Marines so, one vet talking to another. Suicide takes the pain of one and puts it on others unfairly. You are not the cause or the reason. You did the best you could and should never have been a persons single point of contact for help. That is putting entirely to much on you. Please don't own something that isn't yours to own.

Semper Fi!!

A well respected friend of mine once said, there is not one thing you can do for someone who has already made up their mind on what they are going to do. Its hard not to regret or wish you would have done something different but it won't help you.

I wish you all the best and pray and hope you have peace and I pray for your friend.

As high as Vet suicide is, FireFighter Paramedics are even higher...

Some things you cannot unsee and will haunt you.

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My finances are fine and I've had a blessed life. From now going forward I trust no one or organization. The groups I've reached out to for support have been useless. This time in my life is as hard and as isolated as I've ever been.

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don't want to make this about me

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Ok

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the sandbox.

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ok

So separating one from the other, you have guilt because you weren't there for him and you probably feel like you could have stopped it had you done something different. I lost someone to suicide under similar circumstances and I could have easily stopped it, but I didn't. That's a terrible burden to shoulder and it took me years to work through it. The only path to sanity is to not allow yourself to be responsible for the choice that someone else made. You may not have been there but help us out there, everywhere.

I served with someone who took his own life just before Christmas 9 years ago.

He always came across as a happy-go-lucky guy and usually had a smile on his face. None of us knew that he was battling the darkness until it was too late.

He left behind 2 kids and a fiancee.