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Spouses involved in succession
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:37 pm
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:37 pm
It has been several months ago since my mom passed away, she didn't have much money, but she did leave behind a nice piece of property on the Northshore that my family (myself and three older siblings) will be selling. My sister (3rd oldest) is the executor of the estate and she only wants the heirs to be involved in the process, no spouses, which I agree with. This all comes about because of my brother's annoying wife, who can't keep her opinion to herself and complains about things that doesn't concern her.
My brother is the real problem, because he won't tell her anything or maybe he doesn't think she's being a problem, I don't really know because I don't talk to him much. I do know that he gets real defensive if anyone tries to argue with her about something and that's something we all avoid, because we don't want any issues, we just want to sell my mom's property as quick as we can, split up the money and then everyone can go their separate ways.
Do y'all think it is a good idea for spouses to be involved in succession?
My brother is the real problem, because he won't tell her anything or maybe he doesn't think she's being a problem, I don't really know because I don't talk to him much. I do know that he gets real defensive if anyone tries to argue with her about something and that's something we all avoid, because we don't want any issues, we just want to sell my mom's property as quick as we can, split up the money and then everyone can go their separate ways.
Do y'all think it is a good idea for spouses to be involved in succession?
This post was edited on 9/6/17 at 12:39 pm
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Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:38 pm to WiredBobcat
I dont understand why it takes 15 people to sell a damn house. its up to your sister and the realtor
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:38 pm to WiredBobcat
Depends on the person. Some people have valuable knowledge and can be helpful.
If your brother's wife is an annoying bitch, cut her out.
If your brother's wife is an annoying bitch, cut her out.
This post was edited on 9/6/17 at 12:41 pm
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:38 pm to WiredBobcat
quote:
Do y'all think it is a good idea for spouses to be involved in succession?
No!
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:39 pm to WiredBobcat
Does she have a direct interest in what's going on, rather than it being her spouse's separate property? If the answer is "no", then she can frick off.
Dealing with succession is enough of a PITA without uninvolved people fricking things up.
Dealing with succession is enough of a PITA without uninvolved people fricking things up.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:39 pm to WiredBobcat
My wife's family is going through a similar situation.
If you can avoid the spouse's input I would.
If you can avoid the spouse's input I would.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:40 pm to fareplay
Problem is that all heirs have to sign off on a deal and one dumbass can frick things up for all of them by being unreasonable.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:40 pm to WiredBobcat
quote:
Do y'all think it is a good idea for spouses to be involved in succession?
If only the heirs are entitled to the proceeds, I think its best to ignore the spouses.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:42 pm to WiredBobcat
Siblings are the heirs, discussion should be amongst them only.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:42 pm to teke184
quote:
Problem is that all heirs have to sign off on a deal and one dumbass can frick things up for all of them by being unreasonable.
I would frame it this way:
1)Sell the house. Each person gets 1/3 of proceeds.
Or
2)If the brother makes an unreasonable demand offer him the other 2/3 share of house at cost to him.
My bet is he takes option 1.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:42 pm to teke184
quote:Not in LA, at least when it comes to selling property.
Problem is that all heirs have to sign off on a deal and one dumbass can frick things up for all of them by being unreasonable.
This post was edited on 9/6/17 at 12:43 pm
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:43 pm to WiredBobcat
My dad's side of the family always had a saying:
"If you weren't made from my goo, no will for you."
We're trashy as frick.
"If you weren't made from my goo, no will for you."
We're trashy as frick.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:44 pm to StrongBackWeakMind
I'm probably looking at things from a MS point of view because my FIL was a realtor there and had horror stories of dealing with estates.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:44 pm to WiredBobcat
Spouses aren't involed to begin with. When it comes to inheritence, that is all seperate property, spouses do not acquire any interest when it comes from a succession of their spouses family. Therefore the crazy wife of the brother should not have a say so in the matter.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:45 pm to WiredBobcat
Funny enough, I am in the exact same boat as you. No spouses to deal with though. I'm the executor of the will.
Weve have been dealing with this since January and it hasn't been a smooth ordeal but nothing we havent been able to overcome.
My advice is this: someone has to step in and take charge and tell the bitch that it isn't any of her business. Outside sources like that are going to lead you down a bad road and you don't want that with your siblings. My main goal is keeping everything civilized during it all and keep everyone on good terms.
It's tough but someone has to do it.
best of luck man
Weve have been dealing with this since January and it hasn't been a smooth ordeal but nothing we havent been able to overcome.
My advice is this: someone has to step in and take charge and tell the bitch that it isn't any of her business. Outside sources like that are going to lead you down a bad road and you don't want that with your siblings. My main goal is keeping everything civilized during it all and keep everyone on good terms.
It's tough but someone has to do it.
best of luck man
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:45 pm to WiredBobcat
quote:
Do y'all think it is a good idea for spouses to be involved in succession?
Depends on your family. If there is an issue, then just leave it among the named beneficiaries.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:45 pm to teke184
I have family that is like this. They have like 30 acres or some shite and my great grandmother has been gone for almost 10 years. They are constantly trying to back stab each other so the property has been sitting there since then. I honestly don't think that will ever be solved. That's what happens when you have 6 different sets of people who think they are entitled to more than the others instead of just settling on something fair to all.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:45 pm to NYNolaguy1
quote:
I would frame it this way:
1)Sell the house. Each person gets 1/3 of proceeds.
This is what I was thinking.
What exactly is the point of contention? Does your brother's wife want the property instead of selling it?
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:46 pm to WiredBobcat
If all the siblings have agreed to sell the property then what is the problem. Have your sister get with a realtor to sell it then equally divide up the money ya'll get for it.
I don't see what the problem is if all siblings agree on it?
It's not the spouses business.
I went through it almost two years ago when my dad died. My mom is still alive so its all hers now but my brother and I never chimed in unless she asked our opinion. All we had to do was sign everything over to her because technically the property (house, car household items etc.) was 25% mine and 25% my brothers.
I don't see what the problem is if all siblings agree on it?
It's not the spouses business.
I went through it almost two years ago when my dad died. My mom is still alive so its all hers now but my brother and I never chimed in unless she asked our opinion. All we had to do was sign everything over to her because technically the property (house, car household items etc.) was 25% mine and 25% my brothers.
Posted on 9/6/17 at 12:46 pm to Monday
quote:Convince one of the heirs to force a sale and be done with it.
I have family that is like this. They have like 30 acres or some shite and my great grandmother has been gone for almost 10 years. They are constantly trying to back stab each other so the property has been sitting there since then. I honestly don't think that will ever be solved. That's what happens when you have 6 different sets of people who think they are entitled to more than the others instead of just settling on something fair to all.
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