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Single Father/Stay at Home Dad Forum
Posted on 1/23/17 at 11:55 pm
Posted on 1/23/17 at 11:55 pm
So I'm a recent widow. Big C took my wife & mother to our kids. Been a few months, things are starting to normalize.
That said, I'm a stay at home dad now until at least the youngest goes off to grade school. Late wife & I split most of the parenting/household duties all of our years together. But now, family & friends have gone back to their lives after rotating shifts helping me & give the kids the attention/love/presence that they need. I have known this was coming & I've asked for help/advice from many as it's time for me to handle everything solo going forward.
So here I go, asking for more help: Anyone got any forum sites for single or widowed full time dads? Looking for help talking to my boys & girls about nearly everything that'll come up. Life balance. How to handle discipline. When I'll know I can part with my wives belongings or how to store them for my kids. That kind of stuff.
That said, I'm a stay at home dad now until at least the youngest goes off to grade school. Late wife & I split most of the parenting/household duties all of our years together. But now, family & friends have gone back to their lives after rotating shifts helping me & give the kids the attention/love/presence that they need. I have known this was coming & I've asked for help/advice from many as it's time for me to handle everything solo going forward.
So here I go, asking for more help: Anyone got any forum sites for single or widowed full time dads? Looking for help talking to my boys & girls about nearly everything that'll come up. Life balance. How to handle discipline. When I'll know I can part with my wives belongings or how to store them for my kids. That kind of stuff.
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Posted on 1/23/17 at 11:58 pm to beej
Reddit?
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:00 am to beej
I don't think there is a book for this type of stuff or guide to follow.
Just take it easy. Don't force anything on the kids for a while. Let them figure out who they are. Seems like you're on the right track.
Best of luck.
Just take it easy. Don't force anything on the kids for a while. Let them figure out who they are. Seems like you're on the right track.
Best of luck.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:02 am to beej
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This post was edited on 5/25/17 at 2:12 am
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:02 am to beej
First, sorry for your loss.
Second, maybe Parents Without Partners is worth a look. Their entire focus is on getting single parents and their children to interact with other single parents and their children with no stipulations on why you're single and have children.
I have some great memories of camping trips and hanging out with other kids going through similar situations after my parents divorced. The adults also have a pool of adults going through similar difficulties that they can interact with.
EDIT: Third, this is the OT. Grow a thick skin because here there be assholes. Unless you're a throwaway alter. Then you already know that.
Second, maybe Parents Without Partners is worth a look. Their entire focus is on getting single parents and their children to interact with other single parents and their children with no stipulations on why you're single and have children.
I have some great memories of camping trips and hanging out with other kids going through similar situations after my parents divorced. The adults also have a pool of adults going through similar difficulties that they can interact with.
EDIT: Third, this is the OT. Grow a thick skin because here there be assholes. Unless you're a throwaway alter. Then you already know that.
This post was edited on 1/24/17 at 12:06 am
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:03 am to beej
Sorry for your loss.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:06 am to beej
Man, I am very sorry to hear of this....I don't really have anything to add, because I haven't dealt with anything like that as an adult. sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders and are not afraid to ask for help when you need it.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:07 am to beej
Sorry beej. That's tough man. Keep your chin up.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:08 am to beej
ORU - Tulsa native?
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:18 am to TigerstuckinMS
Thanks for this one. Friends pointed me here too.
That said, I'm looking for a forum where I can read other dad's threads on topics I've encountered & surely will in the future. Also want to vent to people who will let me do that when I need it.
Appreciate the condolences fellow posters. At the risk of sounding like a dick, I'm just so tired of people giving me their sad or worried looks & the same words. Not their fault by any means, of course. I'm just ready for a new song.
That said, I'm looking for a forum where I can read other dad's threads on topics I've encountered & surely will in the future. Also want to vent to people who will let me do that when I need it.
Appreciate the condolences fellow posters. At the risk of sounding like a dick, I'm just so tired of people giving me their sad or worried looks & the same words. Not their fault by any means, of course. I'm just ready for a new song.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 12:51 am to beej
You'd be surprised at the amount of good information and help you can get from this site
I know you're looking for something more specific, I'm just saying.. I'm sure there are guys here who are (regretfully) in your same situation... condolences
I know you're looking for something more specific, I'm just saying.. I'm sure there are guys here who are (regretfully) in your same situation... condolences
This post was edited on 1/24/17 at 12:52 am
Posted on 1/24/17 at 1:03 am to beej
I wish I had sage advice other than to love the hell out of your children. How old are they?
Are you a member of a church?
Are you a member of a church?
Posted on 1/24/17 at 1:13 am to Gris Gris
We're not church people, especially now. Have a quarrel with any God that puts a spouse & innocent kids through this.
Kids range from primary to preschool/day care.
Kids range from primary to preschool/day care.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 1:21 am to beej
at the risk of being ridiculed by the enlightened people, are you a member of a church?
sorry. i didn't see your last post. i can certainly understand you feeling the way you do.
sorry. i didn't see your last post. i can certainly understand you feeling the way you do.
This post was edited on 1/24/17 at 1:24 am
Posted on 1/24/17 at 2:13 am to Mr. Hangover
quote:
You'd be surprised at the amount of good information and help you can get from this site
He's got a point. I would, at least, start my day going to the SECr and pointing out how Alabama sucks at anything.
You wouldn't believe the pep in the step difference that makes every morning.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 3:01 am to Errerrerrwere
I wouldn't get rid of your wife's belongings until your children let you know, which may be never (esp your daughters). Celebrate her and don't try to hide her now that she has passed away. Expect highs and lows and try not to let your frustration show when lows come out of no where or come often. Lean on your family for your own personal emotional struggles, don't make your kids have to grow up and handle that. I wish you well and throwing some prayers your way.
Posted on 1/24/17 at 5:06 am to beej
Off topic kinda, how old was she? Was it unexpected? This scares the living hell out of me as a father of young kids and wife.... best of luck in getting what you need!
Posted on 1/24/17 at 5:06 am to beej
quote:
Big C took my wife & mother to our kids.
shite
Posted on 1/24/17 at 5:10 am to beej
So sorry. Prayers for your family
Posted on 1/24/17 at 6:33 am to beej
I'm three years out from the exact same thing. Kids were 13, 11, and 4. If I can help you at all I will. Where are you? Would consider lunch?
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