re: Should I Propose?

Drag it out as long as you can, you are young

If you have to ask, no.

I married young, my husband was in his first year of law school while I worked to support us. We did not work out and it was awful and we ended up hating each other. Had we dated we would have probably broken up and possibly been able to stay at least friendly. He wasn't a bad guy, we just didn't know that we had vastly different work ethics, career aspirations until we were out in the real world doing everything on our own. I worked because I knew we needed money, and came home after working full time to clean the house, laundry, and cook. He was comfortable living on loans and credit cards and was in law school basically because he didn't want to work and was smart enough to get in. Despite him earning a JD, I don't think he ever went into law. I'm just glad we didn't have kids together so we were able to have a clean break.

So my advice is... what is the rush? Three years is nothing at 24. It feels like it is, but it isn't. And if you have really only spent weekends together for 9 months, uh, yeah... wait. I have young daughters and I will advise them that before settling down, they need to be on their own in the real world for a year. Earn a living, figure out themselves, live by themselves (or with roommates), etc. You learn so so so much about yourself doing that, including working through things that don't exactly work the way you thought or wanted them to go.

Even if you have been in the real world since 2020... have you really with everything that has happened since then? Do you really have enough knowledge of her and YOU to make such a huge decision?

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1. Don’t go to law school. Terrible ROI. Lawyers don’t make much more than school teachers do right out of school, and lawyering sucks. It’s nothing like what you’re told it will be. It’s WAY more hours, more stress, and more isolation for very little additional pay.

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I am not a lawyer, but FYI when I graduated with my masters in library science - there were three lawyers in my class.

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I'm glad you didn't die from Covid.

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Me too. I am a little disappointed though that you’re not doing alumni Bengal brass

In Bengal Brass, playing an instrument was never the point

I sound like arse on trumpet, but I’ll be there anyways because it’s fun.

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now be quiet and don’t hijack the thread

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Yes Mrs. Rocktiger

24, law school, new marriage.

Excited for your bitter divorce posts in a few years

You're about to be in law school, a very stressful period of your life, no reason to add more stress.

Take the next couple years to focus on school, then a couple more after you graduate to become financially independent & let compounding interest be your friend.

After that start looking for a wife.