re: Sharing custody of child

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jsquardjj

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You might want to edit your post.

Why don't you get some hobbies and quit basing your life completely around a kid.

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Any tips for handling shared custody? Sometimes it is brutal to not see my daughter for 3 days at a time. I don't know how some people handle it so well.

Don't get me wrong, having a baby sitter for a few hours here and there to go out with friends is always great, but the long weekends are rough. We are doing a 4 day / 3 day split, but its hard.

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I almost ended up divorced last year, all because of me. And one of the main issues that had got me straight was the fact that I may see my son once maybe twice a week. I can't handle that shite. I don't see how people who divorce with children and remain functional when they are separated from their kids.

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Btw, I am the mom, not the dad

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Just added 10 pages to this thread.

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Btw, I am the mom, not the dad.

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Don't take this personal, I am doing it before someone else does....


Pics or none of this happened........

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I went years without seeing my sons,

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I'm not calling you out I'm just asking, how does that happen? Do yall live in the same area. Would you go to pick them up and the door would be locked, pretending they weren't home? Would she answer your phone calls? Did you know where they went to school? Did you know grandparents to get involved?

I'm a stepdad, and his dad would give a whoa is me sob story about not seeing his kids if a stranger asked but in reality he never wanted to be part of his life and never made any effort. I would hear people talking around town about how we were keeping him from his son, but he would call once a year maybe. Never return calls from my wife and in the few times he did get him for the weekend they would go straight to his moms house and drop off his son and disappear. That guy doesn't want to be a dad but he does want people to feel sorry for him.

It will always suck, but if it stays what sounds to be civil that is great. Exercise and paying greater attention to work and housework are how I do it. Also planning and preparing for quality time when you are together, and getting your personal/adult fixes while she is gone will help as well. Communication and your self confidence (knowing you as the Mom will never be replaced) is key. Best of Luck, one of the hardest things in the world to do.

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how does that happen

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posted this here a few times but I'll try to be brief, ex is a hateful, spiteful, vindictive, manipulative count, once she realized that she didn't have to abide by the agreement, she would take them out of school when it was my day of week or weekend to have them, she would take them and leave town early for holidays, I tried to get a cop to go with me to get them when she'd do that, before we even got to the door she'd be screaming "this is a civil matter, not criminal, you can't do anything!" the cop would say she's right, and I'd say but you'd take them from me if this were reversed, right? yep

the first 544 days post divorce with co-custodial rights, meaning I should have them 50% of the time, I had them less than 30 days, living 7.5 miles apart


I could go on and on but I'd imagine you get the picture, yes her family aided and abetted in this, and the hell of it was she was not doing this to have more time, she hired a nanny so they wouldn't interfere with her social life, she just wanted to keep them from me

Not gonna feel sympathy because you broke your marriage vows. Should have thought about that before you said I Do.

Just think, now she is getting railed while you're "babysitting" for her.

sorry, didn't read the whole thread