re: Settle this marriage/ parenting dispute

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how in the blue frick are you determining that? seems like you are literally constructing a narrative out of thin air to support the wife's side in this case.

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So you ignored the part where I said OP is leaving stuff out to make himself look like a ray of sunshine

Whole point was we only have his side of the story and his side his painting himself as a martyr with a "lazy" wife so he can score points on the OT. Then you got yackoffs putting down to the minute how long it takes to clean, bath, and dress a shite covered toddler.

I stated how I would have handled it, which was basically not being an a-hole to my wife and helping out

Y'all are giving marriage assigned jobs and tasks, that's not a good partnership. I have stuff I usually do, but if I'm busy doing something, my wife my clean the kitchen. Or if she is busy doing something, I'll vacuum.

I genuinely wonder how many of you pick up your kid, realize they have a dirty diaper and seek out your wife to change it instead of just changing it yourself.

Nor you. Be better. So busy at work posting on the OT

You are the one that asked for opinions. Don't get mad if you don't like it

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Ok, let's reverse this. He's at home, kid shits up the floor, and he sits on the couch for 10 minutes until his wife gets home to deal with it.

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the "reverse the situation" argument is intolerable for feminists and their supporters. will likely be countered with some nebulous response like "you can be totally right and still be totally wrong" or some such silliness.

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Ok, let's reverse this. He's at home, kid shits up the floor, and he sits on the couch for 10 minutes until his wife gets home to deal with it.

It's as simple as what happens on your watch with kids/pets/etc., is your problem to solve, not anyone else's

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Y'all's reading comprehension is terrible. She called while cleaning the kid "in a tizzy". He got there 15 minutes later

And that is the dumbest crap I ever heard, "it happened on your watch" argument. It's your kid. It's your responsibility no matter when it occured or under who's watch.

If this happened in the morning and was sitting there all day, I'd have a completely different opinion. Even an hour, I wouldn't side with the wife. But not 15 minutes later when most of that time was probably spent cleaning the kid

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Which makes you wonder how she got to the point where she was willing to leave human shite on the floor. That’s a woman that’s tired of someone’s shite.

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Always someone else’s fault with y’all

My first move would have been to head to Don’s for a few old fashions until everything settled down before going home.

After a couple hours I’m sure it would have been cleaned

Workload and the day you had is irrelovant.....if there is shite kn the floor it needs to be cleaned. That's fricking vile

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Right or wrong, don’t compare working in an office to staying at home with a one year old. That’s a losing argument and staying at home with a one year old every day sounds like the 7th circle of hell.

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This is the truth. I've always been a working mom. The days I stayed home with my kids were the hardest days of my life. I honestly don't know how anyone does it!

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Agreed, both parties seem like they had bad days and handled it poorly.

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THIS. You’re both wrong.

Her wrong was communication. I’ve had many incidents like this when I’ve worked all day, kid gets sick or vomits or shits his diaper for the 4th time in 2 hours. Or smears shite. Just anything that makes you want to vomit and cry at once. It is hard in the moment, because resentment can be there—to say “so and so just smeared shite, I’m cleaning everyone up in the bathtub and I’m at the end of my rope. There is still shite on the floor and it would mean a lot if you’d jump in and get that part when you get home. Because I’m done and trying not to cry/lose it/etc”

And my husbands answer, whether he’s coming home from work or the golf course (in which case he’d better be delighted to help), is 99.9% going to be “yes babe, sorry it’s been like that”

If I did the passive aggressive thing she did, it would cause a fight or at the least, tension. He’s not perfect but not as much of an arse as boozie, so he would have cleaned it. So boozie. You ought to have cleaned it and she ought to have communicated her needs better. Not always easy in the moment but it solves problems.