re: Saying goodbye to a loved one

Right there with you, just lost my mother the day after Thanksgiving.

WC thanks for sharing your story. That was a lot to unpack. I appreciate the depth of your sincerity. Time and life are very deceiving , one second you have it forever and then the reality of how it passes by hits with a sober awakening. It is difficult what you are going through and losing a parent hurts. I really hope you continue find those good moments through the pain. God bless you during this Holiday season.
Sincerely
Ten

From one grandfathered-in-animated-avatar bro to another, I'm sorry for your loss.

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When I reflect on my father’s life and the bittersweet reality of saying goodbye, my heart aches, yet I cherish the unique and odd bond we had.

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This is how I hope I am when my father eventually passes. He and I have had a bit of an odd journey since I was in high school. He said some shite to me that you should literally never tell your child, and our relationship has been different ever since that day. And honestly I will hold onto some resentment toward him forever. I'm not proud of that either, but that's the truth.

And nowadays he's got fairly significant health problems and I am basically his lone caretaker, and it weighs on me sometimes. It's tough trying to take care of someone who doesn't really do what he needs to do to take care of himself. I find myself fighting with feelings of resentment and also with knowing that I will be sad when he dies, but also completely relieved that I'll no longer have to take care of him. It sucks.

But I'm glad you at least are cherishing the happy memories and focusing on that. I hpoe to do the same once that day comes.

Very well-said. I realize how fortunate I am to have my parents in my life and how close we are as adults. My biggest fear is what we all know is coming one day.

Thoughts and prayers to your father, you, and your loved ones.