re: People who cut off their family, what did they do to you?

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Ok, so the answer is to abandon them????

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No, you try everything in your capacity to help. Only goes so far as you can't force anyone over 18 to enter into treatment or consult with psych. Then they will cease keeping themselves on track with medication. Then the proverbial shite hits the fan. I haven't cut them off and would do anything to help if they wanted it. I haven't made any efforts to speak with them after they told me to die and frck off when I invited them over to my house for a holiday meal with the family. They've made wild accusations about every single member of the family. These accusations are equally preposterous and vile. They have threatened to kill members of my family on multiple occasions. I can't have someone in my life who treats others like that and expose my kids to potential harmful and violent behavior if they go off the rails.

They ostracize themselves through their actions even if you would forgive them if they asked it.

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got you all beat.

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Check my posts

I can get into even more fricked up detail.

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Fast forward 5 years, he runs off with his son's baby-momma down to Florida and nobody has spoken to him since.

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Damn, I recall a long thread about this! Bawpaw or something like that?

I didn't cut off the whole family just my cousins daughter who stole over 100k from my elderly parents

My brother married a contrary woman. She’d get bored and start crap with everyone the family. It was her hobby, she just loved to stir up crap. She’d call one person and say one thing. She’d call another person and say something else. I’ve seen her lie directly to me with a straight face. This went on for probably 25 years. In those 25 years there was never any peace in my family.

She called me at work one time to listen to one of her tirades. I hung up on her and told her not to call me at work. She called back. I blocked her number. My brother called me on the way home. I answered the call and he promptly put his wife on the phone so I could hear her latest perceived slight.

I listened and finished my drive home. I realized after the call that the only way she could continue to stir up crap is if everyone had different information, which was her specialty. When I got home, I promptly wrote out an email outlining the latest slight and making sure everyone was on the same page so we could bring the matter to swift resolution.

I swore I’d do it every single time she had an issue. The next day my brother told me to never contact his family again. The rest of my family followed suit and just didn’t talk to them again.

My family has experienced nothing but peace for the last 8 years. I’d to this day give my brother the shirt off my back but I’m never, ever going to let her stir up crap again.

My father enabled my mother to physically and verbally abuse us growing up and neither have ever admitted wrong doing. In fact, they’ve double downed and said they raised us with love.

Spineless father and a demonic mother.

Pussy is undefeated

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My daughter cut me off in 2012 when she turned 17 for reasons I don’t know to this day. I think it was at the insistence of my ex who had been remarried for years but still held a grudge. I keep praying for reconciliation with my estranged daughter!

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I’ll say a prayer for you too. May God open her eyes to see the loving father who patiently waits for her return!

Thank God my family isn't trashy like everyone else's

My brother, a smart and good looking dude, married an uneducated bum while he was on the rebound late in college. This fat bitch tore him away from all his friends first to ensure isolation and then his family. He is completely under her control and acts like his parents who did everything for him (especially pushed him to finish college so he could succeed) did nothing to help him. Pure victim mentality. Everytime we went to visit him out of state, per their invite, we were all treated like shite. Bad attitudes etc. Finally I was old enough to tell my parents frick this guy, I’m not wasting my time to go see them. He is still a total loser in life decades later and thinks chasing money will fill the void of his ignorance. Even my parents think he is a loser now.

There was a period when I went “no contact” with my mother, who has NPD. Eventually, it made more sense to be in touch than not. I had processed most of the damage, and my siblings, though understanding, were not prepared to cut her out of their lives. I have chosen to leave the state of her soul in God’s hands, and to try to enjoy the time that remains.