re: nevermind

Never been married. I would have a difficult times spending tons of money (mine or even someone else’s) on a party

My parents paid for 4 kids to go to college. They did enough. They did their job. Wouldn’t want them to spend more.

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The expectation that parents should pay for everything for their child is a tad ridiculous...

It's why we have young adults who cannot cut the cord from mommy and daddy.

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Parents have been paying for first cars, college and weddings for decades. Why is it all of a sudden a problem for millennials? Both my parents had college, cars, apartments, and wedding etc paid for when they were young. Hell my mom received their first house as a wedding present from her parents. They cut the cord just fine and went on to lead successful lives where they can now provide some help for their children who are starting out in the world.

I get not everyone's parents can afford this, but it doesn't make it wrong for the ones who can.

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I was not aware that the grooms parents are responsible for the honeymoon.

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New one to me as well. Although my dad gave me $2k the day after our wedding before we headed off to Europe. My inlaws insisted on paying for plane tickets and hotels, they spent a shite ton of money that week, lol.

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was not aware that the grooms parents are responsible for the honeymoon.

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I thought this was common knowledge.

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Wish I would have known when I got married. I paid for honeymoon myself. Wifes parents paid for wedding and reception but my parents kicked in for the alcohol portion of reception and also the rehearsal dinner and flowers.

Got married in the back yard and cooked jambalaya for the reception. When I stood in front of the JP my grandmother yelled at me from the front row to go put on some shoes. I wore shorts and a button shirt Peg had on a nice shirt and a pair of overalls.

In this our official weddin picture ya will notice my right arm bent behind my back? My grandma hollering at me again hide ya beer!! Tacky trashy enough for yall?

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Parents have been paying for first cars, college and weddings for decades. Why is it all of a sudden a problem for millennials?

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It's called blame shifting


Middle class/Upper Middle to higher class families have always helped out their children as they leave the nest


This was common for centuries


However, the boomers and older Gen Xers absolutely were horrific at saving money and over spending on luxury items moreso than ever before


So how do they transfer the guilt of not being able to offer the same benefits they received? Shift the blame onto millennials just as they have done with a multitude of other things based on their own poor decisions

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It's called blame shifting

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Excellent point. Guess I'm lucky my boomer parents were successful and know how to save money. They're both retired now, but they've helped me and my siblings financially over the years with first cars, insurance, college, college apartments, weddings etc... I'd have been ok without their assistance, but their help sure made life easier.

Her parents gave us what figures they could afford and we paid the rest. We could have stayed under what they were going to give us but we felt the desire to do a little bit more than that. Was happy with the decision.

Trashy mofos in this thread.

$600 weddings and thrice divorced men giving wedding advice.

Peak OT.