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re: My girlfriend tried to kill herself
Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:48 am to 20MuleTeam
Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:48 am to 20MuleTeam
quote:
Are you that bad in bed?
You and bassatcha should go off together. You both suck as people.
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Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:55 am to thelawnwranglers
I'm uncertain on what he should do since I wasn't in HIS shoes. I was on the other side in rehab getting help. What's POSSIBLE is his gf will get cut off from friends and her boyfriend, which is him. I'm saying this because when someone tries to harm themselves they go through a program that's similar to AA or being addicted to drugs. It's STEPS we must complete. It's like being shut off from the world, which you are to an extent. I had no contact with anyone but my family. HOWEVER I was codependent on someone who hurt me. I had no option but to let him go entirely for my health and wellness. Since rehab I've been very independent. It took a while for my parents to trust I wouldn't hurt myself again so I lived with them for a while. It's going to take time for his gf to get over the state of mind she is currently in and will be in when she gets out. I wish I could contact her to let her know she will be okay. Or even help her when she gets out as she's adjusting.
Speaking to the boyfriend who posted this thread- I can't tell you where/what your relationship will be when she gets out. She is receiving the help and tools to better herself and possibly even your relationship. The steps I went through, which she most likely will go through as well, mentioned relationships. I'm uncertain how long y'all have been together or the seriousness of it, but for 6 months it's advised we concentrate on our own well-beings. I can't say this will happen, I'm just letting you know the possibility so you can better understand why she lets you go, if she does. It's not your fault. None of this is. And if she does choose to no longer date you, that's not your fault either. Please don't feel you're not worthy of her or that you did something because that could lead to making you depressed. I really hope I've helped you and anyone else going through this. If you have anymore questions let me know.
Btw to the pricks- no pics. Peace.
Speaking to the boyfriend who posted this thread- I can't tell you where/what your relationship will be when she gets out. She is receiving the help and tools to better herself and possibly even your relationship. The steps I went through, which she most likely will go through as well, mentioned relationships. I'm uncertain how long y'all have been together or the seriousness of it, but for 6 months it's advised we concentrate on our own well-beings. I can't say this will happen, I'm just letting you know the possibility so you can better understand why she lets you go, if she does. It's not your fault. None of this is. And if she does choose to no longer date you, that's not your fault either. Please don't feel you're not worthy of her or that you did something because that could lead to making you depressed. I really hope I've helped you and anyone else going through this. If you have anymore questions let me know.
Btw to the pricks- no pics. Peace.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 1:05 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
A very insightful post. 
Glad you are doing well!
Glad you are doing well! Posted on 6/21/17 at 1:38 pm to Gris Gris
I apologize if I missed the safe space sticker on this thread as I failed realize how defensive you snowflakes would be. As a matter of fact, I am pretty disappointed that my sarcasm was mistaken for seriousness when my sarcasm used appears in 99.9% of the topics regarding significant others. Boo to those who missed it.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:27 pm to Zlatan
I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry your G/F has these feelings.
But let me say this, Mental Health, i.e. bipolar, borderline personality, etc are absolutely awful.
There is no cure. There is therapy and medication and many can be functional most of the time.... but it NEVER GOES AWAY. When meds run out or when they stop taking them for 2 or 3 days, ultimate trouble comes.
My advice to you, sir ---- love her through this and then get as far away from her as you can.
You cannot fix her. You cannot save her. You loving her will not ever, ever, ever make her better. You hanging in there will only invest you more emotionally.....
And your life will have all sorts of heartache and problems. Trust me.
But let me say this, Mental Health, i.e. bipolar, borderline personality, etc are absolutely awful.
There is no cure. There is therapy and medication and many can be functional most of the time.... but it NEVER GOES AWAY. When meds run out or when they stop taking them for 2 or 3 days, ultimate trouble comes.
My advice to you, sir ---- love her through this and then get as far away from her as you can.
You cannot fix her. You cannot save her. You loving her will not ever, ever, ever make her better. You hanging in there will only invest you more emotionally.....
And your life will have all sorts of heartache and problems. Trust me.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:32 pm to Bazzatcha
quote:
I apologize if I missed the safe space sticker on this thread as I failed realize how defensive you snowflakes would be. As a matter of fact, I am pretty disappointed that my sarcasm was mistaken for seriousness when my sarcasm used appears in 99.9% of the topics regarding significant others. Boo to those who missed it.
This isn't safe space shite, you fricking a-hole. This guy just went through a pretty traumatic event, and you come in here mocking this event as attention whoring. Just try to not be an a-hole your whole life, ok?
This post was edited on 6/21/17 at 2:34 pm
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:41 pm to Bazzatcha
What shark said, you jerk. If you only had a brain...
You really think someone is a snowflake for taking a suicide attempt seriously? Geez... if you only had a brain...
You really think someone is a snowflake for taking a suicide attempt seriously? Geez... if you only had a brain...
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:57 pm to Zlatan
It's definitely not your fault.
You should really consider if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and possibly raise kids with. My advice is get out of this relationship because it will cause you to have a miserable life
You should really consider if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and possibly raise kids with. My advice is get out of this relationship because it will cause you to have a miserable life
Posted on 6/21/17 at 3:01 pm to UncleRuckus
As hard as it may be, I would get out of that relationship. You've tried helping her before and something just isn't working, through no fault of your own. She's got to work on herself and get herself through these times. If she doesn't want it then nothing you, or anyone else does will ever be enough. IMHO, you're saving yourself a world of hurt and pain later on down the road if you step back from that relationship. Plenty of sane fish out there, you won't regret it down the road. Live this life for yourself, no one else baw.
This post was edited on 6/21/17 at 3:02 pm
Posted on 6/21/17 at 4:43 pm to Gris Gris
Thank you! I have had a great support system and am actually getting married. If I hadn't gone through this I wouldn't be where I am now. I was once diagnosed as manic depressive, bi-polar, and multiple personalities. After rehab I proved to myself and doctors that people are capable of overcoming the stigmas they've been labeled. It's not often but it's possible. Medications have a huge effect on people and even bigger when skipped or not taken unless it's under guidance or someone is made aware that you are tapering off. I don't recommend that though. Medications can save someone as well though if there actually is that chemical imbalance that you can't control yourself.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 4:51 pm to Zlatan
That's a tough hand to be dealt. Assuming you have no children or other legal encumbrances, I'd plan my exit.
It sounds harsh, but you'll spend the rest of your life worrying.
It sounds harsh, but you'll spend the rest of your life worrying.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 5:33 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!! You've really come far and your story is an important one. I'm glad you shared it.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 5:38 pm to Zlatan
quote:
Does anyone know how to deal with this?
Right now she isn't responsible enough to be a partner in a relationship. She needs her space to work with mental health and her family. You being there trying to "fix" things will only make it worse and it's not fair to you or her for you to aid in creating a co-dependent relationship. If you really love her, you will move on.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 5:39 pm to Zlatan
I'm sorry for all the shite you're dealing with baw
You need to know that you aren't to blame and, like others have said, severe depression usually comes from inside the person and has nothing to do with what you or others are doing
I know this may not be something you'd want to think about, considering this seems like it was a super serious relationship, but you should probably take some time and reevaluate your relationship and figure out if this is truly what you want going forward. Because this is an insanely difficult situation and it probably won't be going away anytime soon
You need to know that you aren't to blame and, like others have said, severe depression usually comes from inside the person and has nothing to do with what you or others are doing
I know this may not be something you'd want to think about, considering this seems like it was a super serious relationship, but you should probably take some time and reevaluate your relationship and figure out if this is truly what you want going forward. Because this is an insanely difficult situation and it probably won't be going away anytime soon
Posted on 6/21/17 at 5:58 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
I appreciate your bravery in this thread and congrats on your engagement. But I have to say I'm a bit curious on the multiple personalities part. I don't think we've ever had a poster here admit to it. Is there anything you feel comfortable in sharing with that, since as far as I'm aware I've never met someone with multiple personalities?
Posted on 6/21/17 at 7:51 pm to OMLandshark
Oh lord! I meant BORDERLINE personality. Sorry about that. Must have been a typo or my other personality talking. Haha jk jk.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 7:55 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
quote:will she post pics?
or my other personality talking. Haha jk jk.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 7:56 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
quote:feels like I'm going to lose my mind
BORDERLINE
Posted on 6/21/17 at 7:58 pm to Rouge
quote:
BORDERLINE
feels like I'm going to lose my mind
Posted on 6/21/17 at 8:02 pm to GeauxLSUGRL
quote:
GeauxLSUGRL
Thanks for sharing very uplifting and interesting
Good luck to OP as well
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