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My Dad going to Hospice- How to tell a 3yr old?
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:11 pm
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:11 pm
It looks like my Dad is headed for hospice after fighting pancreatic cancer for just over two years.
How the hell do I explain this to my 3.5 yr old?
How the hell do I explain this to my 3.5 yr old?
This post was edited on 4/27/16 at 10:12 pm
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Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:12 pm to bamaphan13
Paw paw going to heaven
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:12 pm to bamaphan13
You don't. She's too young.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:13 pm to bamaphan13
For starters, don't come to tOT for advice
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:13 pm to bamaphan13
Is it necessary that you do?
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:14 pm to bamaphan13
PawPaw is going to live on a farm upstate
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:14 pm to bamaphan13
Get your wife to tell her
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:15 pm to bamaphan13
Gently.
If you wish to explain death, talk up the faith aspect and better place. It's going to hurt him no matter what, so play up that he is in heaven.
It sucks but no matter what, but this is when your son will learn about death.
He's still really young, so it may not hit him badly.
Sorry for your family, man that's hard.
If you wish to explain death, talk up the faith aspect and better place. It's going to hurt him no matter what, so play up that he is in heaven.
It sucks but no matter what, but this is when your son will learn about death.
He's still really young, so it may not hit him badly.
Sorry for your family, man that's hard.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:15 pm to cbi8
I can deal with the typical OTer trying to be funny or an Internet badass.
We all wipe our arse with 100s and would never bang a fatty like Kate Upton.
We all wipe our arse with 100s and would never bang a fatty like Kate Upton.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:15 pm to bamaphan13
Grandpa is very sick and going to the hospital to a special hospital to get ready to go to heaven.
Your son is very young anyways. Proceed as you see fit. My godfather died when I was 3 and I have no recollection of the events leading up to his death or his funeral. Sometimes the less information the better at that age.
Your son is very young anyways. Proceed as you see fit. My godfather died when I was 3 and I have no recollection of the events leading up to his death or his funeral. Sometimes the less information the better at that age.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:15 pm to bamaphan13
Explain that death is part of life. Don't traumatize the kid. A 3-year-old won't remember much about this event anyways. You have the 3-year-old's whole upbringing to describe your dad that he/she will buy into whole heartedly if you do it right.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:17 pm to bamaphan13
no point in it, really...just tell your little one that grandpa is really sick and leave it at that. little kids have no concept of longevity, so there is no point in burdening that little mind with such things. let him/her live in the moment like kids are supposed to do.
the one you need to be worrying about is your mom and yourself...
the one you need to be worrying about is your mom and yourself...
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:17 pm to bamaphan13
Kids take this stuff easier than adults, they accept what they are told. We know the truth yet we're more clueless than the 3 yr old that lives in a world of certainty in what they are told.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:18 pm to bamaphan13
"Paw Paw's going to meet Elvis"
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:18 pm to bamaphan13
Sorry to hear you are having to go through this. Gently talk them through knowing that they will be better off learning this tough lesson.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:20 pm to bamaphan13
I honestly think 3.5 is young enough that they aren't going to have a full understanding of it no matter how it is explained.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:22 pm to bamaphan13
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pancreatic cancer for just over two years.
That is extremely rare. Not detectable, once known is usually stage 4 untreatable.
Your daughter will only remember through your constant references and pictures. His biggest fear is his granddaughter not knowing/remembering him. Your job is to make as if he is always here, she'll remember him. My daughter was 1.5, members PP John like it was yesterday.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:23 pm to LSUgusto
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Explain that death is part of life. Don't traumatize the kid. A 3-year-old won't remember much about this event anyways.
This. So many people dance around the concept of death. We've always preach people to "tell the truth". But when it comes to death, we end up making stuff up and lying to the people we love. If you love someone, tell the truth. I know i would not want someone to lie to me.
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:23 pm to cbi8
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starters, don't come to tOT for advice
Why not for something like this?
You'll always get shite responses, but there are always good people in between. Or you may find someone in a similar situation.
This post was edited on 4/27/16 at 10:26 pm
Posted on 4/27/16 at 10:26 pm to bamaphan13
Oh, he's living, not dying. Don't forget this.
Down vote, seriously?
Down vote, seriously?
This post was edited on 4/27/16 at 10:38 pm
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