re: Married OTers...how many times a week/month do you have sex?

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I guess I should also say, she doesn't turn me down when I make my "move" but I can also sense when she doesn't feel like it...which is nearly all the time. I don't force the issue, but it is starting to get to me

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If this is the case you need to try making your move as often as possible, maybe with the long breaks you can't find a rythem because you are out of practice. If it is getting to you then you are going to start resenting her and the marriage is gonna be screwed.

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It's obviously not that important

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I just don't understand this. Do you just not find your wife desirable? IF so, why did you marry her?

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rocket31

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Took your trolling arse long enough to get here. Is Ocean banned or something?

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Do you just not find your wife desirable?

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Yes, I do.

6-8 weeks. Damn. And when you go that long it's probably not going to be as good, I'm guessing, either rusty/awkward or too sensitive/turned on.

Kids definitely make it tough in many different ways, but you just gotta overcome that.

We're 1-3 times per week, 2 times per most consistently. It's pretty rare that a week will go by without it. Weekdays are tougher between work shite and kids making things crazy in the evenings but the weekends almost always give enough of a break. Weekday nights I've found its good to start with a shower and/or massage that soon turns into a poos massage and on from there.

And women wonder why men cheat. You don't feed the dog he's going to dig in the trash.

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Yes, I do.

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I'm gonna call BS if you only try to initiate sex once ever 6-8 weeks.

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One of the advantages of marrying an engineer is that she actually responds positively to logical, fact-based arguments.

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we know know women engineers...

4-6 times per month

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but I'd say on average it's every 4-6 week

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Did you out kick your coverage, or did you settle for who was there?

You don't have to answer, but be honest with yourself though. Could it be that she feels ashamed of herself for not being what you really want?

I know it may be hard to understand, but are you really happy to be with her, or are you just going through the motions and are just screwing her because she's there?

The reason I say this is because I've heard that women, if they don't feel like you really cherish them, can't emotionally keep giving it up regularly. And many times, guys settle for women that they don't really want, they'll frick em, but not really want them. And the wife knows this internally and feels like shite when she's just used for convenience, so she distances herself from sexual intimacy.