re: LSUNurse, loooking for answers for what can be wrong with my 2 year old

So many of these children are victims of the drugs their mother took while pregnant. Some are born with withdrawal symptoms. I have a close friend who raised one of these kids from a baby. They are a family with 4 children. He was always unruly and now that he is in his late teens he is totally uncontrollable when it comes to school and trying to teach him at home. Drugs or gene pool, who knows? But they have a young man on their hands that they can't control.

I will try to answer most of the above posts.
Yeah I'm overwhelmed. Sitter can't handle him. He's a monster about everything and won't do anything you ask of him. Period. We was a very loving kid who used to listen to everything.
And yes, he stands or sits with his head cocked to the side for 45 min straight. And he will do this in the dark. He has been shaking his head a lot and hitting hhimself lately also.
He talks some
He has tubes in his ear
And yeah, I don't have patience for this. My wife don't either. The agency isn't going to give us Assistance if we do adopt either. Plus, I have a 3 year old girl. I'm not going to let a child who's not mine tear my family apart.
And as I said...this is all new and just started happening a month ago. The agency doesn't believe us and hasn't stepped in. They see him once a month. So they haven't seen him act like this

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Us parents of our own blood children don't get to cut and run when things aren't looking good

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So that means someone else should be forced to adopt a child they may not be able to care for?

Again, having the time and dedication to parent a "normal" child, I would think is much different than the time and dedication you'd need to parent one who is autistic.

The man took a chance on fostering and isn't prepared to devote that amount of time to a child that is autistic.

Sounds like the vaccines got him

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And yeah, I don't have patience for this. My wife don't either. The agency isn't going to give us Assistance if we do adopt either. Plus, I have a 3 year old girl. I'm not going to let a child who's not mine tear my family apart.
And as I said...this is all new and just started happening a month ago. The agency doesn't believe us and hasn't stepped in. They see him once a month. So they haven't seen him act like this

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Some will judge you. I certainly won't. You've gotta do what you think is right.

I would ask that you take this one step at a time. Physically and mentally. You're overwhelmed and you should be. Go to the Dr, talk to them about everything and then decide on your next step then. Try not to get too wrapped up into whether you're going to adopt him at this particular moment you know?

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he needs to get tested.

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I first read this and thought it said he needs to get tased.

Do you think the OP would've put his own child up for adoption as soon as he thought there could be health problems?

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So that means someone else should be forced to adopt a child they may not be able to care for?

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Umm, what?

Who said anything about FORCING anyone to adopt this child? I simply pointed out that these people, perhaps very well-intentioned, agreed to provided a foster home for this child. Now, the child appears to have something going on, something that is currently unknown, and the OP has already stated "I have my doubts" about permanent adoption. As others have stated or implied, this seems incredibly shitty.

Either be a foster home and take care of the kid, or don't, but don't shite on a helpless 2 year old by shipping him off to another home just because he's not as perfect as you had hoped.

So if something is wrong, your not going to adopt?
What a loser!

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But also he may just be starting to understand that defiance is fun.

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Especially when being yelled at.