- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Coaching Changes
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: It amazes me how unusual common courtesy is to people in the north
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:14 pm to TigersSEC2010
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:14 pm to TigersSEC2010
This is such an over generalization on so many levels. I grew up in NJ and spent significant time in many places in the northeast. I went to LSU and lived in Baton Rouge for 12 years. There are some customs unique to each place, but courtesy, politeness, hospitality, and etiquette all vary significantly based on many factors.
I’ve seen many of proper southern gentleman hold the door open for his lady, take his hat off at the table, say grace before eating, but also talk over his S/O, order before her, answer for her, and then eat before she does.
In some cases your confusing class with culture.
I’ve seen many of proper southern gentleman hold the door open for his lady, take his hat off at the table, say grace before eating, but also talk over his S/O, order before her, answer for her, and then eat before she does.
In some cases your confusing class with culture.
0
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:17 pm to alajones
quote:
Some friends of my kids were over to the house once and I corrected them on saying “yes ma’am”.
My wife corrected me saying “they’re from up north, they don’t say yes ma’am.”
Yeah it's a major dick move to tell other people how to talk or how to address you. Kind of like those transgender weirdos who demand we refer to them as Xi and Zur.
This post was edited on 6/6/18 at 7:24 pm
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:21 pm to Mo Jeaux
Well apparently they didn't because my wife couldn't find it.
If they did it was probably for immigrants.
In fact, now that I think about it, I think she did find it and it was in the "cultural" aisle.
If they did it was probably for immigrants.
In fact, now that I think about it, I think she did find it and it was in the "cultural" aisle.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:54 pm to Mo Jeaux
quote:
Nice way to treat your guests.
You mean kids?
I have no problem correcting other people’s kids at my house. shite, thats how it was when I was a kid.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:55 pm to nola000
quote:
Yeah it's a major dick move to tell other people how to talk or how to address you.
Y’all realize I’m talking about kids right?
How old are y’all? No way you were a kid in the 80’s.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 7:57 pm to TigersSEC2010
quote:
I’ve spent a lot of time in the northeast lately and shite like holding doors open, saying “yes ma’am/sir”, and letting people go before you in line is unfathomable to them. I had some old lady act like I just brought her dog back to life when I held the door for her. The difference in cultures is shocking
I was in the Hamptons a few years ago, yeah not so subtle brag, and told the waitress 'yes mam'. She made a comment and I said I was sorry if I offended her, it's a habit. Lady ended up being from Slidell and was super nice. CSB.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:08 pm to alajones
How were you “correcting” them? What did they do wrong?
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:08 pm to alajones
I was a kid in the 80s.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:14 pm to Mo Jeaux
quote:
How were you “correcting” them? What did they do wrong?
My kids don't normally say it because it's considered pretty weird here but I remind them to do it when we visit the South. They still forget all the time and it's kind of funny watching people's expressions because you can tell they're dying to correct them.
This post was edited on 6/6/18 at 8:15 pm
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:17 pm to brucevilanch
Says a gump..
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:21 pm to northshorebamaman
I can imagine. I’m just giving alajones a hard time. I don’t think he was rude per se, it’s just that his reaction was to assume that they were being rude, and he had to set them straight, when in reality, it was just a cultural difference (presumably).
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:25 pm to Mo Jeaux
quote:
How were you “correcting” them? What did they do wrong?
Saying “yeah” to an adult?
Is that how things were in everyone else’s house? You just talk to adults like you talk to your buddies?
ETA: I didn’t think they were being rude. But at my house, adults are addressed with sir and ma’am.
This post was edited on 6/6/18 at 8:28 pm
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:29 pm to Mo Jeaux
I can see both sides. In alajones case it sounds like the kid was from the North and moved down South in which case I can understand giving the kid a heads up on how it's done in his new home region. If the kid is just visiting there's nothing to "correct". He's not being rude, he's just acting within the norms of a different region.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:30 pm to Mo Jeaux
quote:
quote:
Sounds like you're a miserable POS
Why? Are you in the habit of letting people get in front of you in line often? Seems odd to me.
Grats, you just proved the OP's point.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:47 pm to geauxbrown
quote:
Grats, you just proved the OP's point.
How so? Parse through my response, and explain your statement.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 8:48 pm to alajones
quote:
Saying “yeah” to an adult? Is that how things were in everyone else’s house? You just talk to adults like you talk to your buddies?
No, just sounds like a kid to me. I have a hunch that you would consider “yes” to be inappropriate too though.
Posted on 6/7/18 at 5:51 am to TDcline
quote:
Although you meet assholes everywhere, I didn’t find any of them to be as rude as Cajuns (particularly the older crabby women) in Louisiana.
Them wimmen in Pine Prairie and Turkey Creek ain't Cajun, baw.
Posted on 6/7/18 at 6:15 am to Mo Jeaux
quote:
Sounds like you're a sucker.
Sounds like you're a pick.
Posted on 6/7/18 at 7:47 am to TigersSEC2010
It's bad up here(north). It will spread to the south be4 you know it
Posted on 6/7/18 at 8:00 am to geauxbrown
quote:
Why? Are you in the habit of letting people get in front of you in line often? Seems odd to me.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Grats, you just proved the OP's point.
I let someone in front at the store if they have a couple items and I have a lot. It's common courtesy.
Page 8 of 11
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News