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Im struggling bad this morning
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:09 am
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:09 am
I found out this weekend a close friend of mine was killed in a car wreck. Im sitting here at work a grown arse man finding myself balling like a 3 year old. Im not one to put all my problems on the internet but Im hurting.Just needed somewhere to post something. Any advice will be appreciated on how to deal with this situation.
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Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:11 am to ThaTigerDon
Damn, very sorry. Advice would be to leave work and go be with friends/family if possible.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:13 am to ThaTigerDon
Sorry for your loss. And yeah, leave work, and go be with family/friends.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:14 am to ThaTigerDon
Being sad that your friend died is normal. Don't be ashamed.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:16 am to ThaTigerDon
We lost a good friend and fellow poster here not too long ago. My sister lost one of her best friends a few short months ago.
My advice to get away from work and get around some mutual friends. Do some talking and reminiscing and do some laughing, and ultimately some healing.
It will be tough for a few days but time heals all wounds
all the best man
My advice to get away from work and get around some mutual friends. Do some talking and reminiscing and do some laughing, and ultimately some healing.
It will be tough for a few days but time heals all wounds
all the best man
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:17 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off, man. Go grieve.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:18 am to ThaTigerDon
Everyone grieves in different ways. #1 thing to know is there is no wrong way to grieve. If talking it out helps, then talk it out. If holding it in helps, do that.
If you need to totally submerge yourself in work, yea, do it. If you can't work, take some leave. Don't let anyone tell you the right way to move on cause it is all up to you.
I'll say a prayer.
If you need to totally submerge yourself in work, yea, do it. If you can't work, take some leave. Don't let anyone tell you the right way to move on cause it is all up to you.
I'll say a prayer.
This post was edited on 9/22/14 at 8:19 am
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:19 am to The Mick
I figured coming to work would take it off my mind for a while its not working.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:21 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off and go home
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:21 am to SouthOfSouth
Thank you. All of your commments mean a lot.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:23 am to LSUSoulja08
quote:This is what helped me when I lost my grandmother this summer. But as someone else said, everyone grieves differently. Do what you feel you need to do, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I will pray for you.
My advice to get away from work and get around some mutual friends. Do some talking and reminiscing and do some laughing, and ultimately some healing.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:23 am to ThaTigerDon
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I figured coming to work would take it off my mind for a while its not working.
This is probably the worst thing a normal person can do in this situation, which is why so many do it.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:27 am to ThaTigerDon
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I figured coming to work would take it off my mind for a while its not working.
Trying to carry on with normal life too early after a loss will only make it worse. Grieving with friends and family is a process that needs to be done in order to move on. Share memories of the good times you had together with all who knew your friend.
There is nothing shameful about crying, especially in this situation. My condolences to you, may you find comfort after this tragedy.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:27 am to ThaTigerDon
Go talk to your boss, man. No reason for you to be there in that state. Try to be with some family or another friend. I know how bad something like that can hurt.
Not saying this is the case, either, but if you can't leave, picture your friend giving you shite for crying. I know that sounds dumb, but it's what I did. For me it just kind of changed the frame of mind a little.
Not saying this is the case, either, but if you can't leave, picture your friend giving you shite for crying. I know that sounds dumb, but it's what I did. For me it just kind of changed the frame of mind a little.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:28 am to FT
I am the Boss. Thats the problem
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:28 am to ThaTigerDon
Sorry for your loss
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:29 am to ThaTigerDon
quote:Then no one can tell you no. Get out of there.
I am the Boss. Thats the problem
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:29 am to ThaTigerDon
quote:
I am the Boss. Thats the problem
Sounds more like the solution today.
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:30 am to ThaTigerDon
Take the day off
Posted on 9/22/14 at 8:30 am to ThaTigerDon
Take a personal day, and try to spend time with your remaining friends and family.
It's hard to say when you will feel better, but the tightness in your chest and dread will ease one day. Until then, you'll have spells where you are angry or very upset. The may last 5-6 months for some people.
Put someone you trust in charge for the day and check in with them every few hours.
It's hard to say when you will feel better, but the tightness in your chest and dread will ease one day. Until then, you'll have spells where you are angry or very upset. The may last 5-6 months for some people.
Put someone you trust in charge for the day and check in with them every few hours.
This post was edited on 9/22/14 at 8:35 am
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