re: I'm struggling and this is probably the worst fricking place to vent but I'm doing it anywa

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Let her know that you aren't going anywhere, and that you really couldn't be amy happier about it all.

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Good advice but try not to mention another woman's name when talking to your pregnant girlfriend.

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Straight drop her if you want a shot, don’t go to any appointments or give her a penny

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I'm assuming it's his biological kid here.

This statement is exactly what is fricking wrong with society in this country.

Yea lets punish the child because we got our little feeling hurt.

Pathetic dudes who think like this should cut their dicks off. No way you should be having sex and risking creating a child. You're not mentally capable of handling the situation.

And no it's not all her fault for not wanting him. I guarantee we're only getting half the story, or he hasn't been paying attention to the warning signs she was unhappy with their relationship prior to this tragedy.

Not knocking the OP, it's a suckass situation, but quitting on a child you helped create is wizard level assclown behavior.

I don’t know what to say, but that our society is so incredibly fricked up and self centered these days that I wonder if it’s not just better to stick to internet porn. It’s amazing to me how selfish people have become over the past generations so that men shirking responsibilities with kids and women spreading their legs for multiple multiple baby daddies, and all for what THEY want over the life of another human being they brought into the world is so damn common place. There Simple isn’t as much choice meat anymore. Entirely too much gristle to pick through.

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Impossible. She would have never had the time,

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lol sure

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Straight drop her if you want a shot, don’t go to any appointments or give her a penny

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I could not disagree with this more. When my wife was pregnant with our 1st child, we were separated for a while. But there was absolutely no way I was missing any appointments. First, I just wanted to be there—that’s my kid in there, and I want to be as much of a part of that process as possible. I can’t imagine not being there for ultrasounds and all that stuff.

Second, it’s just the right thing to do. You need to support your baby momma unconditionally while she is carrying your child. Not just if y’all are together or if she says she loves you or can’t stand you—-you need to set the standard from jump that you are going to be there for your child from now until you die.

Third, I didn’t—and you don’t— want anyone to ever be able to tell the child later on that Daddy wasn’t there from the very beginning. Don’t let that narrative have a chance to be spun to place you in a bad light. And quite frankly, Mommy hurting your feelings is not a valid reason to not show up.

Not saying you would do this, just explaining why this “advice” was shite. Now, I will say that if you do want her back, it would be wise to give her space. Don’t pressure her to get back together with you, don’t even talk about it at all unless she brings it up. Show up to the appointments, ask her if she needs anything, and bounce. Her hormones are gonna be all over the place—it may be why she did the “180” already.

If you are cool, she’s likely to change her mind and want you around more the farther along she is, when it’s time to find out the sex and start picking out baby clothes and cribs and whatnot. But you will not be able to persuade her by whining and feeling sorry for yourself in her presence. My advice to any guy going through a breakup is to watch Swingers. Do that, and good luck.

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Why weren’t y’all married before before deciding to bring a baby into this world?

The kid will grow up with a higher chance to be messed up because y’all didnt have your shite together.

You chose poorly.

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Lol at the downvotes you're getting as if this isn't statistically proven. Bastardy is the new norm and they won't hear of any criticism.

Used in a different context, buy Uncle Waylon has good advice here

Send this to the woman at least 3 times a week

Yes the door is always open
and the lights on in the hall
And you know that i'll be waiting,
if you ever come to call

She is a grown woman that can make her own choices, but you damn sure let her know that you are there if her mind comes back around.

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they won't hear of any criticism.

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Well, unless ol boy has a time machine, I’m not sure what point the criticism serves except to make the criticizer feel morally superior. The horse is out of the barn already, I don’t see it as any way constructive to dwell on a bad decision already made—he should focus on present and future good ones he still has control to make.