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re: How successful do you think your father was at raising you?
Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:08 pm to W2NOMO
Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:08 pm to W2NOMO
Kind of feel guilty weighing in, because I know I got blessed with an A+ dad. But I'll participate to help represent what I consider A+...
My dad is a real Christian. Not a fake one. He's the same man at church as at home as at work... The opposite of a hypocrite. He was a strong disciplinarian, but it was fair and deserved and consistent. He would always take it back to the Bible verses that explained the morality of the transgression. He's been teaching Sunday school for probably 40+ years now.
Retired from Exxon, great at building/construction, works on his own vehicles and quick to help family. He's loved my mom since high school and we never questioned that she was the core of all his decisions. He showed us how a wife should be loved and appreciated.
He's honest to a fault, but not afraid to give correction to anyone where needed. We might disagree on minor things, but we always can respect each other's opinions and sometimes change our own based on the talk.
He took us camping a lot, trips to the smokies a couple times, Florida every year... He got creative to make middle class stretch really far. We weren't rotten, but didn't lack for anything. At mom's direction he would forego a lot of overtime to be our baseball coach or whatever. He didn't take us hunting as much as he did fishing (he never got taken hunting growing up, so it was a blind spot for him).
I'm over 40 now (probably making a lot more than he did, since he pushed me academically) and I similarly want my kids to think we're just scraping by so that appreciate what they have. I've never waivered in my faith and he is largely responsible for that. Like him, I spend a ton of time with my family and honestly we moved back to Baton Rouge just so my daughters could grow up knowing my parents better.
I cherish my parents, and one day my brisket will beat his, but it will take more trial and error. He set my brother and I up for success in all of life.
A+ if that's as high as the scale goes.
My dad is a real Christian. Not a fake one. He's the same man at church as at home as at work... The opposite of a hypocrite. He was a strong disciplinarian, but it was fair and deserved and consistent. He would always take it back to the Bible verses that explained the morality of the transgression. He's been teaching Sunday school for probably 40+ years now.
Retired from Exxon, great at building/construction, works on his own vehicles and quick to help family. He's loved my mom since high school and we never questioned that she was the core of all his decisions. He showed us how a wife should be loved and appreciated.
He's honest to a fault, but not afraid to give correction to anyone where needed. We might disagree on minor things, but we always can respect each other's opinions and sometimes change our own based on the talk.
He took us camping a lot, trips to the smokies a couple times, Florida every year... He got creative to make middle class stretch really far. We weren't rotten, but didn't lack for anything. At mom's direction he would forego a lot of overtime to be our baseball coach or whatever. He didn't take us hunting as much as he did fishing (he never got taken hunting growing up, so it was a blind spot for him).
I'm over 40 now (probably making a lot more than he did, since he pushed me academically) and I similarly want my kids to think we're just scraping by so that appreciate what they have. I've never waivered in my faith and he is largely responsible for that. Like him, I spend a ton of time with my family and honestly we moved back to Baton Rouge just so my daughters could grow up knowing my parents better.
I cherish my parents, and one day my brisket will beat his, but it will take more trial and error. He set my brother and I up for success in all of life.
A+ if that's as high as the scale goes.
This post was edited on 1/27/26 at 12:13 pm
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Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:12 pm to W2NOMO
My dad got custody of me and my brother and then proceeded to go on his second childhood. We raised ourselves.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:19 pm to 9Fiddy
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Dad worked oilfield as an engineer and then executive. Mom was killed in a car wreck when I was 14. Dad remarried about a year later and we had a big falling out. Lost 20 years of relationship with my father over it. Looking back, he was doing the best he could and many of his life lessons stuck with me.
Takes a lot of years of maturity to get to the point where you realize they were just souls in a monkey, just like you. They weren't some infallible parental deity. Just a human being doing the best they can and making mistakes the whole time.
When you finally see them as humans, you get a different perspective on your relationship. You can now get to know them as a person. Unfortunately that doesn't happen soon enough for some folks. And for others it never happens at all. Lots of forty and fifty year old adolescents out there resenting their parents till they're rotting in the grave.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:27 pm to W2NOMO
Forever thankful for having him as a Dad. He wasn’t perfect, and no man or woman is. But he taught me the value of hard work, being loyal to your family, and being good to people.
He’s been an asset to me in my career as well, always picking up when I need advice on how to handle a situation. I know it was tough on him considering he didn’t have that same relationship with his dad, so I try to show that I appreciate the effort immensely because I didn’t always do that as a kid.
He’s been an asset to me in my career as well, always picking up when I need advice on how to handle a situation. I know it was tough on him considering he didn’t have that same relationship with his dad, so I try to show that I appreciate the effort immensely because I didn’t always do that as a kid.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 12:33 pm to W2NOMO
Dangit, some of your situations were/are tough. Thankfully, my Dad, whose dad was never in his life, vowed to not repeat that with my brother and I. He worked his but off, got laid off in '83 with oilfield downturn, and worked as a mechanic in the garage until he bough his own business in '87. He gave my brother and I the normal things in life that his Dad never did. We did have one big fight I remember when I was about 20, but that may have been from me being a duba$$. Other than that, he was always there for us, showed us how to work our butts off, and was a great example on how to be a father.
I'll give him a B++
I'll give him a B++
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:22 pm to W2NOMO
My dad did a fantastic job. He took on the job of raising 3 kids in 1972 when a single father was almost unheard of. He raised those 3 kids to be productive members of society, college educated and families of their own. One of those kids died at the age of 30 of cancer and he took on the job of raising her daughter who lost her dad 3 years earlier to cancer and that young lady is now a college graduate with a family of her own and a career. None of us have ever been in jail, none of us have ever been divorced, none of us have any children we are estranged from. He could not have done a better job. He lives with me, my wife and daughter now and he has had a helluva time over the last 2 years. Has not eaten a bite of food or drank anything orally in nearly a year and still has a sense of humor, is curious about life and the world around him and a joy to be around. My dad is the only man I ever met worthy of a dogs idolization...that is a rare height for a man to achieve....
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:30 pm to LSUtoBOOT
Lot more people on here had it worse than me for sure.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:35 pm to GreenRockTiger
quote:Look at that they're starting to use context clues it is possible for them to evolve.
Unless you are inferring it with your ‘20/10 Father’ statement
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:39 pm to GreenRockTiger
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Unless you are inferring it with your ‘20/10 Father’ statement
If he wrote that, wouldn't he be implying it.... Leaving it to us, the readers, to infer?
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:44 pm to AUIH1
Carmacks grocery?
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:49 pm to W2NOMO
I'd give him a pretty high grade.
Taught me how to hunt and fish. Showed up to damn near every sporting event I played in, even in college. Stayed married to my mom for 43 years until the day he died.Showed me how to work on vehicles, carpentry skills, and how to walk away from a project when completely frustrated with it, only to come back with a level head later and complete it.
He's been gone for 6 years now and I miss him terribly.
Taught me how to hunt and fish. Showed up to damn near every sporting event I played in, even in college. Stayed married to my mom for 43 years until the day he died.Showed me how to work on vehicles, carpentry skills, and how to walk away from a project when completely frustrated with it, only to come back with a level head later and complete it.
He's been gone for 6 years now and I miss him terribly.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:51 pm to W2NOMO
A+
He passed a year ago. If Heaven didn't gain a saint, the saints gained a helper.
I regret that I didn’t have children earlier in life so he could be here to answer my questions about raising up my own children or to give life advice. However, I realize my memories of him, and those that he and I made together, contain lessons that I, at the time, didn’t realize them for what they were. They come back now at certain times when they are needed and it’s like he’s speaking to me again in the moment. If I can follow in his footsteps, or get as close to them as I can, then I'll be in good company.
He passed a year ago. If Heaven didn't gain a saint, the saints gained a helper.
I regret that I didn’t have children earlier in life so he could be here to answer my questions about raising up my own children or to give life advice. However, I realize my memories of him, and those that he and I made together, contain lessons that I, at the time, didn’t realize them for what they were. They come back now at certain times when they are needed and it’s like he’s speaking to me again in the moment. If I can follow in his footsteps, or get as close to them as I can, then I'll be in good company.
This post was edited on 1/27/26 at 2:24 pm
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:54 pm to W2NOMO
Well, my dad died when I was just 8 yrs. old and I was just getting to that age where he and I would do some things together since I was getting old enough to be of some help to him. We had been fishing along the Mississippi River many times together and I was old enough for him to take me out on a few day long rabbit hunts with his friends with dogs to scare them up.
It also didn't help that he was about as basic a blue-collar type as there is and worked a lot to make ends meet, often 6 days a week.
His brother, my Uncle Buster, actually had more of in influence on me when he took me under his wing, along with his 4 sons as I got older.
It also didn't help that he was about as basic a blue-collar type as there is and worked a lot to make ends meet, often 6 days a week.
His brother, my Uncle Buster, actually had more of in influence on me when he took me under his wing, along with his 4 sons as I got older.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:57 pm to Salmon
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or just stop being such a shitty poster
didn't realize you can get banned for being a shitty poster. If that were the case you'd be banned
Posted on 1/27/26 at 1:59 pm to dstone12
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dstone12
Seems like you'll be able to find some peace, I'm sure responding to this thread wasn't an easy one.
Posted on 1/27/26 at 2:21 pm to Byron Bojangles III
quote:believe it or not - I’m one of them there educated wimmenz that voted for Trump, thrice
Look at that they're starting to use context clues it is possible for them to evolve.
To put your mind at ease - I only have one tooth
Posted on 1/27/26 at 2:22 pm to LCA131
quote:true but I’m an uneducated Trump voter
If he wrote that, wouldn't he be implying it.... Leaving it to us, the readers, to infer?
I bound to get all of it wrong
Posted on 1/27/26 at 2:25 pm to W2NOMO
My dad worked his butt off all his life and not one thing to show for it. We never went without though, always had clothes, house, food. My mom and dad divorced in 1975 when i was five. he took custody of us. He passed away at 64 of a heart attack. I've been on a mission to not work myself to death like he did. Thanks to him and the US Army, I will retire in 5 years.
Posted on 1/28/26 at 5:31 am to oldtrucker
Yep!
Posted on 1/28/26 at 6:19 am to W2NOMO
On some things I’ll give my dad an A and on others an F, but overall I’ll give him a B because although he’s a broken human like the rest of us, he never gave up and has been faithful to my mom and the family. It’s sometimes difficult to be around him, but he never surrendered and always did the best he could with what he had to work with, and in that I think we were very fortunate to have him at the helm.
I can certainly point to a lot of negatives. They’re surely obvious, but overall he never quit giving it his best, and neither did my mom. All things considered, I was very fortunate. Things could have been much much worse. I’m very grateful for him.
There’s a really good movie out there though that I think every man should watch called “Show Me The Father” it sheds light on how we see God is often driven by our own earthly father, and the two could not be further apart, but it illustrates how many of us men are often products of broken dads and the difference between raising a well rounded boy to manhood is driven by the characteristics of God the Father and His love, mercy, and wise counsel. Otherwise, we simply pass down our brokenness, fears, and dysfunction to future generations to enjoy.
I can certainly point to a lot of negatives. They’re surely obvious, but overall he never quit giving it his best, and neither did my mom. All things considered, I was very fortunate. Things could have been much much worse. I’m very grateful for him.
There’s a really good movie out there though that I think every man should watch called “Show Me The Father” it sheds light on how we see God is often driven by our own earthly father, and the two could not be further apart, but it illustrates how many of us men are often products of broken dads and the difference between raising a well rounded boy to manhood is driven by the characteristics of God the Father and His love, mercy, and wise counsel. Otherwise, we simply pass down our brokenness, fears, and dysfunction to future generations to enjoy.
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