My MIL spent 2 months of April and May 2020 living with us during the Covid shutdowns. She’s in tennessee and we’re in Florida and she spends at least 10 weekends a year with us staying at our house, not quite one a month but almost. It’s not about not wanting to see her, we see her constantly.

Her own bad life decisions have led her to have limited choices for Holidays.

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Posted by Bigfishchoupique

Member since Jul 2017

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 7:20 am to baldona

I’m a single grandparent. Usually spend most holidays fishing or hunting alone. The family and grandkids are always off doing stuff. Don’t usually see them too much anyway because they don’t like me.

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Posted by Rick9Plus

Baton Rouge

Member since Jul 2020

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 7:30 am to baldona

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My MIL spent 2 months of April and May 2020 living with us during the Covid shutdowns. She’s in tennessee and we’re in Florida and she spends at least 10 weekends a year with us staying at our house,

You’ve more than put in your time.

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Posted by Devilsturn

Member since Aug 2020

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 7:55 am to baldona

Did your MIL made enough sacrifices raising your wife and SIL to get an invite for Christmas?

Or is there more to the story other than she’s annoying?

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Posted by KyleOrtonsMustache

Krystal Baller

Member since Jan 2008

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 8:08 am to baldona

If she's annoying, let her stay. Your family only has limited time with her before she's gone.

If she's toxic, tell her she can't stay. Explain that she's toxic and ruins everyone's fun. Maybe she'll work on herself.

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Posted by Devilsturn

Member since Aug 2020

253 posts

Posted on 10/7/21 at 8:42 am to Bigfishchoupique

Is the dislike or lack of interest spending time together mutual? Would you prefer to spend more time to feather?

Just curious. Every family is different. My in-laws are good as gold and would be thrilled if I moved next door or even in with them so they can spend more time with their daughter and grandson, but that would suffocate me.

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Posted by 777Tiger

Member since Mar 2011

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 9:00 am to baldona

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My MIL spent 2 months of April and May 2020 living with us during the Covid shutdowns. She’s in tennessee and we’re in Florida and she spends at least 10 weekends a year with us staying at our house, not quite one a month but almost. It’s not about not wanting to see her, we see her constantly.

Her own bad life decisions have led her to have limited choices for Holidays.

my parents(both have passed,) went out of their way to try and not be intrusive on us kids and our families, even though that's the furthest thing they could have been, to the point where we would beg them to come to wherever we lived and I would try to go to their home as much as I could(maybe that was their strategy

) but there comes a time when a PITA relative would have to be told no, three day rule applies, with very few exceptions

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Posted by OweO

Plaquemine, La

Member since Sep 2009

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Posted on 10/7/21 at 9:14 am to baldona

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So basically, she has no one to be with for the holidays but us. 2 Christmas’s in a row she has stayed at our house.

Is it really that bad to tell her she needs to find another option for Christmas? My wife is worn out and all for it, she just is too nice to actually do it.

Is she really that much trouble? Honestly, I wouldn't ever even think about this. If the only place my mom had to go to was my house I wouldn't ever consider telling her not to come.

Will you have to entertain her 24/7? Its Christmas dog. Don't let your MIL have to stay alone unless there is some type of broker relationship and if there is... Christmas is a good time to resolve things.

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