re: Grandpa has dementia/alzheimers, any advice on living arrangements?

The money issue is very tricky with his assets do not do anything until you speak with an unbiased financial planner type or a case manager that knows medicare ins & outs.
Not to be callous but It's not ideal to be the live in care giver, it's not healthy if he is that far gone your grand dad is gone that's just a 90 yo man. I realize that Is tough but don't let these last few years define the memories of him.

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ArkBengal

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You need to get him signed up asap. It generally takes a long time to get them established in the system and eligible for benefits.

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$5000 a month ok.

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$5k a month is very rare in an assisted living facility in my experience, albeit a different market. Nursing homes are generally around this price.

Sorry. Just trying to lighten the mood. It's such a horrible situation

If he served in the military, he can stay in the War Vets home for free. I don't know about the one near you, but the Jackson one was really nice for my grandpa.

When he first moved in with us, he was just really forgetful and would repeat stories a lot. He could still bathe himself and maybe even fix a sandwich if he could find everything for it. Later we had to child-proof things so he wouldn't put the wrong thing in the microwave and start a fire or turn on the stove and try to cook.

It seems like his daycare facility had some patients much worse than him, but I don't know what the requirements were.

As someone else said, he needs routine and it may take him some time to adjust to whatever you decide.

Get them certified for Medicaid and find a nursing home that has an Alzheimer's unit. I lost a parent to this, who I helped managed for ten years. The drugs that are out there may slow things down a little (very little) or they may actually make things worse as they did with my mother.

Prayers sent. You'll need them.

Nursing homes aren't my favorite places either, but in our case we really had no choice as she simply became more unmanageable than we could handle.

Can someone answer something for me who have seen family members go through this?

What are the VERY first signs of dementia or Alzheimer's? I have a family member who I swear is starting something like this but nobody else can see it and gets mad at me when I try to talk about it.

This person his VERY outgoing and funny and quick but something just seems off to me. They'll go from back and forth talk and joking and just check the frick out. It's weird as hell. And it looks like they're fighting something sometimes. Like little spurts of not understanding a conversation or joke or something. And it sometimes seems like they get mad at themselves for it. That's the only way I can describe the vibe I'm getting. Like they keep to themselves a bit more when their whole life they've been in the middle of EVERY conversation and crowd. It's so minor that my mom can't even pick up on it, but I know damn well what I see. This person is 70 and a male if that helps.

The early signs are easier to see in hindsight. But that does you no good for the present.
Virtually everybody has "senior" moments of forgetfulness, such as misplacing keys or repeating a story, and only a few go on to alzheimers.
Males do get alzheimers more that females, but 70 can still be considered young to get the disease. Not impossible, just not nearly as common as 80+ year olds.
If he truly does have dimentia, symptoms will continue to worsen over time. Perhaps you'll notice it more clearly a year from now. Let's hope not. Let's hope he'll still be at least status quo, or better.
Also, check on your family member's medication or even caffeine intake, or other diet changes. These changes could be reasons for his changes.