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Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:05 pm to Monk
I think you're generalizing his point... or maybe it was just too general itself. If your sex life is that bad with your wife, and you can't work it out the underlying problems, the next step is divorce, not getting your dick wet elsewhere while the wife continues to suffer. It will only worsen the situation and prolong the inevitable break with even bigger consequences against you as the cheater.
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Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:07 pm to RedRifle
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3) He knows it's wrong and that he shouldn't be doing this needs to stop but he's planning to stretch it out for as long as possible. And the other woman doesn't have kids.
Sounds pretty typical
Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:16 pm to ell_13
That's another thing people don't think about. I understand the "stay together for the kids" sentiment and I agree that when you have a family, you need to work even harder at making things work.
But you have to realize that while you can end the marriage, you will always be tied to the other parent of your child. At least until the kid is grown, but even after then, you'll still have to deal with each other.
Staying too long, building up that resentment, totally destroying any chance of getting along with the other person -- that has serious consequences, too.
A happy marriage is what's best for the child, but divorced parents who can still work together for the kids and put them first is much, much better than two bitter exes who can't even stand the sight of each other.
But you have to realize that while you can end the marriage, you will always be tied to the other parent of your child. At least until the kid is grown, but even after then, you'll still have to deal with each other.
Staying too long, building up that resentment, totally destroying any chance of getting along with the other person -- that has serious consequences, too.
A happy marriage is what's best for the child, but divorced parents who can still work together for the kids and put them first is much, much better than two bitter exes who can't even stand the sight of each other.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:21 pm to Death Before Disco
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But you have to realize that while you can end the marriage, you will always be tied to the other parent of your child. At least until the kid is grown, but even after then, you'll still have to deal with each other.
Exactly. People emphasize be careful who you marry. False. Be careful who you get pregnant because then you are tied to that person forever.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:23 pm to ell_13
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I think you're generalizing his point... or maybe it was just too general itself.
Like I said, I was trying to respond to an ambiguous post as best I could so I gave a general response but closed with a very specific conclusion, i.e., "putting your marriage first, seek counseling when needed and don't cheat."
To be honest, I also hadn't read the OP update about the guy basically just wanting to ride things out with the other women. That's a whole different scenario and he's trying to ride the fence for his own selfish reasons without trying to fix his marriage.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:28 pm to Fun Bunch
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Again, its not always your job to be morally superior. Sometimes, with a friend, its your job to sit there and listen, and then move on.
I agree. The friend knows it's wrong and probably already knows what he wants to do. Sometimes people just need a sounding board. Doesn't mean as his friend you have to fix the situation. Maybe he just needs to speak to one person who won't appear overly judgemental to him.
This post was edited on 8/1/14 at 2:31 pm
Posted on 8/1/14 at 2:48 pm to RedRifle
Posted on 8/1/14 at 3:11 pm to RedRifle
I don't play charades for other people. If you want to stray, get a divorce. If you want to stay, get some counseling with your wife. There's a reason for the change in her. Maybe he should get over himself and look into that. If that doesn't work, get out of the marriage.
I am not obligated to act like nothing happened in front of the spouse and wouldn't undertake that burden. I likely would tell the guy to be a big boy and do the right thing and if he chooses that route, call me when he does. Until then, don't call me. I don't hang with people like that and have no desire to be any part of it. This isn't just about getting sex. He's got a wife and child involved with this. It's not just about him. Why people don't get that is beyond me.
I am not obligated to act like nothing happened in front of the spouse and wouldn't undertake that burden. I likely would tell the guy to be a big boy and do the right thing and if he chooses that route, call me when he does. Until then, don't call me. I don't hang with people like that and have no desire to be any part of it. This isn't just about getting sex. He's got a wife and child involved with this. It's not just about him. Why people don't get that is beyond me.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 3:34 pm to Gris Gris
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Posted on 8/1/14 at 3:56 pm to RedRifle
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All that being said he's a pretty nice guy.
Hardly. He's an adulterer.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 4:01 pm to Death Before Disco
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That's another thing people don't think about. I understand the "stay together for the kids" sentiment and I agree that when you have a family, you need to work even harder at making things work.
Definitely the worst thing you can do and too many couples do it (mostly for monetary reasons too).
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But you have to realize that while you can end the marriage, you will always be tied to the other parent of your child. At least until the kid is grown, but even after then, you'll still have to deal with each other.
Exactly. And hopefully both parents act mature and not like kids. I've seen cases where both are cordial at events like their children's weddings, grandkid's birthdays, etc. and I know of others who act like idiots and create a bunch of drama and it makes their kids either hurt, mad, or upset.
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Staying too long, building up that resentment, totally destroying any chance of getting along with the other person -- that has serious consequences, too.
A happy marriage is what's best for the child, but divorced parents who can still work together for the kids and put them first is much, much better than two bitter exes who can't even stand the sight of each other.
100% agree. Couples should try to work through their problems...but when the marriage can't be saved/when the couple is totally miserable, their children will thrive in an environment where both parents can be happy separated. Their kids will reach a point when they're old enough and pick up on their parents being miserable. Putting your marriage first is always key and if it's time to split up, don't wait it out until 'the kids are done with high school'.
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Posted on 8/1/14 at 4:03 pm to ladytiger118
I don't know about thrive, but it would be better than sticking it out in the same miserable household. Having divorced parents would still suck and play a toll on the kid.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 4:05 pm to LouisianaLady
All the old married couples that blab about marriage taking work weren't lying.
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