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re: Do/Did you spank your kids?
Posted on 1/23/25 at 1:55 pm to sorantable
Posted on 1/23/25 at 1:55 pm to sorantable
Yes, but less as more kids came along. Wear the first one out then not as much on the 2nd, 3rd, etc….
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Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:03 pm to sorantable
Absolutely not. Only parents that can’t control their own anger spank a child. There are alternative actions you can take versus physically harming your child. Use the term “spanking” all you want….it is physical harm. frick that.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:07 pm to Yewkindewit
Yes I was spanked. It does work and I deserved it at times.
Great story.
In grade school, we carpooled and the different parents would drive our group on different days. One time, my mom picked our group up and halfway home one of the kids started acting up and being rude. My mom told him to settle down and he called her a name. She pulled over on I-10 and ripped that kid out of the backseat and spanked him right on the side of the interstate.
Not sure that would go over well these days. Swat team would probably be called in.
But it was funny as shite at the time.
Great story.
In grade school, we carpooled and the different parents would drive our group on different days. One time, my mom picked our group up and halfway home one of the kids started acting up and being rude. My mom told him to settle down and he called her a name. She pulled over on I-10 and ripped that kid out of the backseat and spanked him right on the side of the interstate.
Not sure that would go over well these days. Swat team would probably be called in.
But it was funny as shite at the time.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:13 pm to sorantable
No. We fricked up our kids up in other ways.
People who were whipped as kids act like it made them act right. You know it didn't. We all just lied about what we did.
People who were whipped as kids act like it made them act right. You know it didn't. We all just lied about what we did.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:18 pm to sorantable
I used a combination of shame/embarassment and a little bit of loud voice to instill the fear of god into him. He's 12 and the most respectful kid i know. Ger compliments every year from teachers.
Biggest parenting moves.
He was 4 and i got tired of waiting for mom/daycare to potty train him. I had hardwoods in the place i was staying so i took off his diaper and waited for him to poop while he was watching daniel tiger. I shamed him in a gentle way ( oh my goodness look what you did... its all over the floor) and he was instantly potty trained and never had an accident after that. Since he potty trained late ( according to what i read) he never wet the bed.
Reality check. He was 4 and we went to get his first bike w training wheels. I let him pick out the bike, helmet and pads hinself. On the way to register he complained we " didnt even get to look at the games" so i made him take everything back and we left with nothing.
I was underatanding about tantrums through k-2 grade, getting more strict from taking away toys and electronics up until finally losing my shite, yelling and using some shame as well, let him know that his actions made me and his mom look bad and it wasnt fair to us because we both took extra good care of him. It worked.
Have spanked him maybe 5 times in his life.
Another tactic is what i call planting the seed. Stern but lowered voice explaining what he did wrong and why it is wrong. Let it marinate and simmer for a day and then ask him to re explain to me whatever i told him to see if he affirms he was listening.
I have always constantly reminded him to be considerate to other people even if i had to say it 500 times. Walking in public. Get behind me, the walkway isnt big enough to walk side by side and other people need to get past. I dont care if everyone else does it, theyre wrong.
He knows how to pump gas, use a debit card, do laundry, load a dishwasher and take care of trash. Past summer i offered him 100 a week to be housekeeper. He half assed his first assignment, didnt correct what i told him was wrong immediately. So deal was off. He can try again this summer and had to fix it for free.
Eventually ill get him cooking and find some remodel projects to help me with.
Had him watch me swap the ceiling fan in his room. I grew up getting to work summers at my grandfathers business and helping other grandpa with yardwork and chopping wood for their wood furnace. He doesnt have that opportunity so i have to find other ways to get some work ethic in him. But hes been a straight a student his whole life so at least he does his school work.
Biggest parenting moves.
He was 4 and i got tired of waiting for mom/daycare to potty train him. I had hardwoods in the place i was staying so i took off his diaper and waited for him to poop while he was watching daniel tiger. I shamed him in a gentle way ( oh my goodness look what you did... its all over the floor) and he was instantly potty trained and never had an accident after that. Since he potty trained late ( according to what i read) he never wet the bed.
Reality check. He was 4 and we went to get his first bike w training wheels. I let him pick out the bike, helmet and pads hinself. On the way to register he complained we " didnt even get to look at the games" so i made him take everything back and we left with nothing.
I was underatanding about tantrums through k-2 grade, getting more strict from taking away toys and electronics up until finally losing my shite, yelling and using some shame as well, let him know that his actions made me and his mom look bad and it wasnt fair to us because we both took extra good care of him. It worked.
Have spanked him maybe 5 times in his life.
Another tactic is what i call planting the seed. Stern but lowered voice explaining what he did wrong and why it is wrong. Let it marinate and simmer for a day and then ask him to re explain to me whatever i told him to see if he affirms he was listening.
I have always constantly reminded him to be considerate to other people even if i had to say it 500 times. Walking in public. Get behind me, the walkway isnt big enough to walk side by side and other people need to get past. I dont care if everyone else does it, theyre wrong.
He knows how to pump gas, use a debit card, do laundry, load a dishwasher and take care of trash. Past summer i offered him 100 a week to be housekeeper. He half assed his first assignment, didnt correct what i told him was wrong immediately. So deal was off. He can try again this summer and had to fix it for free.
Eventually ill get him cooking and find some remodel projects to help me with.
Had him watch me swap the ceiling fan in his room. I grew up getting to work summers at my grandfathers business and helping other grandpa with yardwork and chopping wood for their wood furnace. He doesnt have that opportunity so i have to find other ways to get some work ethic in him. But hes been a straight a student his whole life so at least he does his school work.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:20 pm to sorantable
No.. because I don’t have to
My kids are pretty fricking good. Probably nature more than nurture, but I’m not complaining
My kids are pretty fricking good. Probably nature more than nurture, but I’m not complaining
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:25 pm to sorantable
Never had to but what I DID do was make them believe I would and that's all it took. 
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:26 pm to sorantable
I was spanked judiciously. I was also spanked in school. I'm not on meds for psych issues, I've been married for more than 20 years, been in same job almost as long and have no brushes with the law. I'm content. I spanked my kids maybe once or twice each and it was always because they were engaged in some behavior where a misstep or loss of balance could have resulted in serious injury. I had warned them on previous occasions yet days later they were at it again. They are all doing fine. The easiest teenagers one could hope for.
This post was edited on 1/23/25 at 2:30 pm
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:28 pm to sorantable
No.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:28 pm to sorantable
My parents never beat us black and blue but we definitely were spanked once or twice. After we got too old to spank, we would get popped on the mouth when we talked back or sassed our parents. I don’t think it messed us up. But it was obvious they loved and cared about us. We were never hit out of meanness, spite, or displacement. Only when we “deserved” it, if you will.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:28 pm to Gusoline
quote:He'll be recreating this scenario with a prostitute in 20 years.
so i took off his diaper and waited for him to poop while he was watching daniel tiger. I shamed him in a gentle way ( oh my goodness look what you did... its all over the floor) and he was instantly potty trained
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:44 pm to saturday
I have all daughters and they got popped around the 3yr old age but haven’t really spanked in a few years. Usually my loud voice makes them scared
Posted on 1/23/25 at 2:46 pm to sorantable
I did. But not with a belt like my dad did to me. They are better for it. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 3:09 pm to grizzlylongcut
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You’re not their children’s parent. So long as they’re not abusing the kids, no spanking isn’t abuse, you ought to support their decisions and act as a reinforcement to the parents.
I wish my FIL would have stepped in. I woulda spanked his arse too
Posted on 1/23/25 at 3:23 pm to sorantable
Hell yes, but when I didn't ,I explained the repercussions of their bad behavior.
One is now an Electrical Engineer the other is Computer Science Major. Neither has been in trouble with the Law.
I have four Grand Kids. None have been spanked much. I have probably spanked them more than their parents.
All four are good students and know right from wrong.
Nobody is born with an instruction book. We all make mistakes and hope it turns out right.
Back when the Sandy Hook massacre took place, Bill O'Reiley had a "Child Psychologist" on his program to to explain what went wrong and why the massacre took place.
This got my attention. She blamed the Police and gave this example.
Her teenage Son was beating up her husband, his step Dad. She had called the Police and they did nothing.
Here was a Child Psychologist, giving tips on rearing children and she had been a failure at being a wife and mother.
One is now an Electrical Engineer the other is Computer Science Major. Neither has been in trouble with the Law.
I have four Grand Kids. None have been spanked much. I have probably spanked them more than their parents.
All four are good students and know right from wrong.
Nobody is born with an instruction book. We all make mistakes and hope it turns out right.
Back when the Sandy Hook massacre took place, Bill O'Reiley had a "Child Psychologist" on his program to to explain what went wrong and why the massacre took place.
This got my attention. She blamed the Police and gave this example.
Her teenage Son was beating up her husband, his step Dad. She had called the Police and they did nothing.
Here was a Child Psychologist, giving tips on rearing children and she had been a failure at being a wife and mother.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 3:34 pm to sorantable
Absolutely
Posted on 1/23/25 at 3:52 pm to sorantable
Every single middle school aged boy in the country needs to have corporal punishment in his everyday life. It is a disservice to society and a bigger disservice to them for this not to be a part of their development.
Parents need to do it and they need to trust educators to do it, Worst case scenario, their child gets a few undeserved licks and a sore arse from an overzealous teacher and it becomes a teaching moment.
And yeah, you or I can do it for our own kids in our own home, but its effectiveness is blunted for it not to be an across the board accepted means of raising children, especially boys.
Parents need to do it and they need to trust educators to do it, Worst case scenario, their child gets a few undeserved licks and a sore arse from an overzealous teacher and it becomes a teaching moment.
And yeah, you or I can do it for our own kids in our own home, but its effectiveness is blunted for it not to be an across the board accepted means of raising children, especially boys.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 3:57 pm to DaBeerz
Spanking is worthless and it’s only something trashy people do
Posted on 1/23/25 at 4:00 pm to sorantable
My Dad did me, not excessively or brutally, but with happy gusto when necessary.
I did my mine as well, hopefully judiciously and fairly. My boys probably more so than our girls. Especially the youngest girl whose older brother was her knight/protector and constantly defended her with “what did she do?” Usually after I had caught her in the act of punching him upside his head for teasing her or some other minor infraction.
Mrs. M and I also incorporated the Vulcan neck death pinch for incidents during mobile situations or in the pews at church.
I don’t believe I’m scarred by my Dad’s discipline nor our kids by ours.
I did my mine as well, hopefully judiciously and fairly. My boys probably more so than our girls. Especially the youngest girl whose older brother was her knight/protector and constantly defended her with “what did she do?” Usually after I had caught her in the act of punching him upside his head for teasing her or some other minor infraction.
Mrs. M and I also incorporated the Vulcan neck death pinch for incidents during mobile situations or in the pews at church.
I don’t believe I’m scarred by my Dad’s discipline nor our kids by ours.
Posted on 1/23/25 at 4:02 pm to monsterballads
I got spanked by my dad, my principal and my coach, but not at the the same time. Dad used belt, principal and coach used a paddle. The principal had a name on his paddle, "The board of education."
Had a boy and two girls. Boy got spanked girls did not.
Had a boy and two girls. Boy got spanked girls did not.
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