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Posted on 7/7/21 at 10:47 am to Kujo
I think OP has it all wrong. Staying together isn't always, if ever, the best thing for the child. Life changes people. The person one marries isn't necessarily the same person 10 years later. I can assure you two divorced parents working together for their children is far better than two unhappy people living unhappily together.
But thanks OP for your holier than thou attitude. I'm sure you are perfect.
But thanks OP for your holier than thou attitude. I'm sure you are perfect.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 10:50 am to Kujo
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Explain how you rationalized that splitting up is best for your child.
Too bad my ex doesn't post here. This question is for her.
I did what I could do to salvage it, but more often than not, I'm glad we're no longer together.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 10:52 am to Kujo
Life is short. People change. People grow. Kids grow up and have their own lives. We’re by ourselves before they’re born and after they move out.
Everyone deserves peace and happiness and someone who brings out the best in them.
Everyone deserves peace and happiness and someone who brings out the best in them.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 10:53 am to Kujo
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So why was your happiness so much more important? You didn’t know how trashy the person you married was? They put on too much weight or lost their earning potential? You think you could do better so you jumped ship?
Did you spend more time researching F150s or the harmful effects of divorce on your children?
If you leave your wife (for whatever reason), you're putting your children in harm's way. You can no longer control the other men who may enter their lives. She may be devastated and blind to low character men--perhaps even pedophiles. Kids need their father regularly in their lives.
So yeah, I'm not saying there's never legit reasons to leave, but you have to weight the cost and risk to your children.
And if it's just because you weren't feeling it anymore, you're a piece of shite father. And no amount of Facebooking your weekend custody will change that. You should have never had kids to begin with, because you are unfit.
This post was edited on 7/7/21 at 10:55 am
Posted on 7/7/21 at 11:05 am to btnetigers
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Correct. My ex wife told me over the phone that she didn't love me anymore. Needless to say, she was having a "texting and emailing" relationship with someone else. We had 2 year old twins at the time. I tried to save the marriage for months and months, but she didn't want to work on it. Long story short - we divorced. I'm now happily married for the last 10 years. Have 50/50 custody of my kids. All is well.
Very similar story to mine, except not remarried. I can't imagine going through this with 2 year old twins. Ours were 5 & 7 when the ex filed and that was tough!
There were acusations of infidelity thrown at me, but it was just projection.
Before the infidelity, our challenges boiled down to lack of/different style of communication, different expectations, different upbringing, etc. Nothing happened that we couldn't have worked through prior to the cheating. Once the cheating started that was it.
Took two of us to drive the train off the tracks and was going to take both of us working together to get the train back on. One of us tried, the other ran. C'est la vie!
Would have given anything to, at the VERY least, try counseling/working on our challenges.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 11:12 am to Grievous Angel
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And if it's just because you weren't feeling it anymore, you're a piece of shite father. And no amount of Facebooking your weekend custody will change that. You should have never had kids to begin with, because you are unfit.
Yes, it’s like getting married and having a kid were just check box items. The kind of assholes who get a dog and leave them caged up the whole day.
Why did you get a dog that you knew you would neglect?
“Cuz I wanted one, it don’t know better, I feed him and let him out when I get home. Then put him in the cage again when I sleep”
Large dog caged ~20 hours/day Mon-Fri…in a 3X3X5 cell….because the person always wanted a dog.
This post was edited on 7/7/21 at 11:17 am
Posted on 7/7/21 at 11:15 am to Hennigan
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A ton of them decide they are "emotionally abused" and use that to justify their selfishness. It's not really "to death us do part."
Spot on.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 11:42 am to Grievous Angel
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You can no longer control the other men who may enter their lives. She may be devastated and blind to low character men--perhaps even pedophiles. Kids need their father regularly in their lives.
There was a Worldstar video that was taken down a few months ago. 40 year old white woman invites 4 BBCs over for a Gangbang, one of them is filming and goes into the other room and wakes up her 10-12 year old son laughing about fricking his mom.
Not saying that his father should have stayed with a woman capable of putting her child in that situation, but I wonder if the kids father ever found out.
Posted on 7/7/21 at 11:53 am to Kujo
Wasn't my choice. After 5 years and 2 kids, the ex decided the grass was greener when I discovered she was spending money like a drunken sailor and shut that irresponsible behavior down with a quickness. She soon engaged in an affair with a guy she had dated in high school who had, in the intervening years, became a tweaker.
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