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re: Divorce Prep
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:26 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:26 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
If she went to a lawyer before discussing the D with you it won't go well.
Women with kids usually get the house. The system is on their side even if they are the fault of the split.
Women with kids usually get the house. The system is on their side even if they are the fault of the split.
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Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:27 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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I just heard from a friend of a friend that my wife is meeting with a divorce attorney.
So? Let her meet with 100 divorce attorneys. You don't have to do shite if or until she files and you are served or you can just refuse service.
Either way, you can wait until the last minute to hire an attorney and see what her grounds for divorce are
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:30 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
This sounds like a terrible situation with three young kids. Quite frankly it makes no sense either. Sounds like you want to keep it together and she has given up. Sounds like she is drinking heavily to kill the pain. You say she let herself go…usually it’s the other way around. Women lose a bunch or weight, and or start getting in shape, then they think they “deserve better” or have a mid life crisis to sow some more oats.
I’ve been married for 31 years so I do not have experience in divorce. But I’ve been sober for 16, and have a lot of experience in drugs and alcohol.
This sounds more like a drug or alcohol problem to me than anything, but I am not there seeing it. Make sure there is no money missing. More than she could justify. If not, then may just be alcohol. Knowing if she has been hiding alcohol or drinking before she got home from work or all the sudden going to bars, all mean the same thing.
I’ve been married for 31 years so I do not have experience in divorce. But I’ve been sober for 16, and have a lot of experience in drugs and alcohol.
This sounds more like a drug or alcohol problem to me than anything, but I am not there seeing it. Make sure there is no money missing. More than she could justify. If not, then may just be alcohol. Knowing if she has been hiding alcohol or drinking before she got home from work or all the sudden going to bars, all mean the same thing.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:30 am to Napoleon
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Women with kids usually get the house. The system is on their side even if they are the fault of the split.
You mean before, during or after the divorce?
Either way, in Louisiana it depends if she files on 102 or 103 petition
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:31 am to profdillweed
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Heavy drinker
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Let herself go big time
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Stockpiling cash
You should offer to drive her to her meeting with the attorney.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:32 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Back to the drinking part. Has she ever been to rehab or some sort of detox facility? During counseling, did you discuss the drinking and any potential alcoholism with the counselor (b/c all that can be subpoenaed) and mostly likely be in your favor during this process.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:32 am to W2NOMO
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Do not move out.
Can't stress this enough. My ex finally got mad and left, so I kept the house and became the domiciliary parent.
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Women with kids usually get the house
If you move out and get an apartment, this is 100% guaranteed. Don't do it.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:33 am to Tiger n Austin
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mostly likely be in your favor during this process.
that means very little to the judge, especially when it's the woman that's a heavy drinker
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:33 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Start rat holing cash, take a few hundred here and there.
Put it somewhere that can't be traced
Put it somewhere that can't be traced
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:35 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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I've stayed around this long to try and keep things together and as normal as possible for them, I'm devastated for my middle school son who really needs structure.
Many times the structure parents try to maintain in a failing marriage isn't very solid. The family unit often rots from the inside out.
The foundation is cracking, pipes are rusted, the wood is rotting, but it looks okay from the outside. No amount of paint and spackle can cover up the deterioration forever. Desperately trying to keep the house from collapsing until the kids are out of the house isn’t always the best solution.
It’s going to be a rough time for everyone, but there is a possibility it is the better path for you and your kids.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:36 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Is she cheating, too?
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:37 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Be on your best behavior
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:37 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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My wife and I have been married 12 yrs and have three minor children together (1 in high school, 1 in middle school and 1 in elementary school). We've drifted apart over the past few years and tried counseling but that didn't work as she didn't think it was worthwhile. I just heard from a friend of a friend that my wife is meeting with a divorce attorney. What's a good plan of action or any prep I can take?
I am obviously very concerned for my children and how they will take the news. I've stayed around this long to try and keep things together and as normal as possible for them, I'm devastated for my middle school son who really needs structure.
Side note, I live in Louisiana and my wife is/was a heavy drinker until the past few weeks. I'm assuming she's gotten advice from her lawyer and/or friends about that.
Ask your friend what attorney she allegedly met with and schedule an appointment with their firm.
That'll ham things up for her until you can get an attorney for yourself.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:37 am to SallysHuman
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Hire a private investigator.
Yup. It may seem stupid, but if she is doing something crazy like cheating or driving drunk, you'll get some useful info.
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Women don't jump out of your bed so much as they jump into someone else's.
Yeah, that's why I asked if he thinks she's cheating. Sounds likely.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:39 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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is/was a heavy drinker until the past few weeks
Research how far back peth tests go
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:40 am to W2NOMO
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Get a separate banking account open.
This, bc she probably already does, and it's not illegal
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Watch credit card purchases.
It's still community debt until the judge signs the divorce papers, which, since he has young kids in Louisiana will take 365 days
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Get all balances recorded. Make sure 401ks etc monitored.
Still, community property
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Do not move out
Cant stress this enough...if she wants to leave let her leave, if she wants to stay then tell her she's welcome to stay.....but dont move out
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Don’t do anything that could start argument.
Keep it civil, once you have to hire a lawyer, let the lawyers do all the talking
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Sometimes they provoke for a restraining order to get you out.
Depends on the circumstances of the divorce and if she files under 102 or 103
Now be prepared for spousal support, housing assistance, and some sort of restraining order preventing you from selling anything that yall own together without her permission
But do it now before she files and you get served
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:41 am to profdillweed
I want to prepare for this.
My wife is a POS. She's gets disgustingly drunk in front of the kids before "going to bed." My bro-in law (her brother) came over a few weeks ago for dinner. He invited himself which I don't care about, I like the dude. Anyway, he saw her in her drunk state that usually is reserved for me and the kids. He was shocked and pissed. He wanted to confront her and I told him there isn't a point when she's drinking. He didn't realize how bad it's gotten.
I want to protect the kids and keep their house to try and keep things as stable as possible. She can have everything else.
My wife is a POS. She's gets disgustingly drunk in front of the kids before "going to bed." My bro-in law (her brother) came over a few weeks ago for dinner. He invited himself which I don't care about, I like the dude. Anyway, he saw her in her drunk state that usually is reserved for me and the kids. He was shocked and pissed. He wanted to confront her and I told him there isn't a point when she's drinking. He didn't realize how bad it's gotten.
I want to protect the kids and keep their house to try and keep things as stable as possible. She can have everything else.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:41 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Don’t do any of the shite folks are suggesting in this thread until you hire a good lawyer who can ensure you’re not screwing yourself over. You have to be careful about moving finances and the like in a divorce situation.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:41 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Run your credit then freeze it.
Do not move out of your home for any reason. The one who files is in control so if you're going to do it go and file
Do not move out of your home for any reason. The one who files is in control so if you're going to do it go and file
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:42 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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Divorce Prep: I just heard from a friend of a friend that my wife is meeting with a divorce attorney.
1. drop pants
2. bend over
3. grab your ankles.
quote:4. stay bent over until youngest is over 18 and out of college.
I live in Louisiana
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