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re: Divorce has been the most gratifying thing I've ever done
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:05 pm to RogerTheShrubber
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:05 pm to RogerTheShrubber
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All of my former S/O's have been the opposite. They probably outgrew me. Women may be attracted to fun and adventure but in the end most prefer financial security. All of my S/O's were awesome, they just change over time.
I'm too much of a curmudgeon, they want to be kids....it annoys both of us. I don't want to see them unhappy, but why must they always want to "do something"? It's like their life is incomplete if they don't have something to brag to their friends that they are doing. But it's not just that, it has to be something that they want to do that their friends would be envious of....and I have to pretend to enjoy it.
hike the headlands, walk the ocean, bike through the park, go to some overpriced-trendy new place, art opening, some outdoor concert, etc,etc
I'm waiting for an Old Lady Soul who is past all this garbage...before I settle down. I mean, when did 35 y/o's start thinking that they are still 21? It's annoying as frick, no wonder they are all single. As an adult who wants children, why would I partner with someone who needs to travel and be entertained all the time....with a family,job, and kids..ain't nobody got time for all this hallmark card fluff.
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Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:07 pm to Iona Fan Man
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I'm waiting for an Old Lady Soul who is past all this garbage...before I settle down. I mean, when did 35 y/o's start thinking that they are still 21? It's annoying as frick, no wonder they are all single. As an adult who wants children, why would I partner with someone who needs to travel and be entertained all the time....with a family,job, and kids..ain't nobody got time for all this hallmark card fluff.
Yeah, well something happens when they get married. For some reason, they don't stay content with the things they were content with before the marriage. It's part of life, I've accepted it.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:08 pm to RogerTheShrubber
Certainly some valid point in here and I can see how many of you came to your simple conclusions
When I divorced, I said no way in hell I'll get married again. I dated and banged a lot of chicks while I was single. In no way was I seeking a serious relationship. When I met this one I even told her that, however it slowly turned that way.
It's easy to say it was a rebound think, but it honestly wasn't. I was over my ex 3 or more years prior to us getting divorced. When we finally sat down and made the decision, I didn't get upset or hurt at all. I was immediately relieved.
I'm not going to say 100% of our problems were because of her, it's a 2 way street. I know I'm not perfect and hell, we grew up together. We went through many phases of our lives together. She was there when I was a cocky 20 year old.
Yes she put on weight, all women do after a kid.
I'm not rushing into what I have now and I have no doubt that we will have a long and healthy relationship. Every single aspect of it is different from before. I'm not a kid anymore. I know what I want and expect in a companion, it just so happened that I actually found that in someone.
I even tell her that if things don't work out between us, I'm done. I won't be getting married again, I'm not one of those guys.
For the record, anyone who tells you that you lose 50% of your assets in a divorce is a damn fool. I left with my truck, my boat, my clothes and tools, and her bs credit card debt. I lost damn near 100% and didn't care at all.
When I divorced, I said no way in hell I'll get married again. I dated and banged a lot of chicks while I was single. In no way was I seeking a serious relationship. When I met this one I even told her that, however it slowly turned that way.
It's easy to say it was a rebound think, but it honestly wasn't. I was over my ex 3 or more years prior to us getting divorced. When we finally sat down and made the decision, I didn't get upset or hurt at all. I was immediately relieved.
I'm not going to say 100% of our problems were because of her, it's a 2 way street. I know I'm not perfect and hell, we grew up together. We went through many phases of our lives together. She was there when I was a cocky 20 year old.
Yes she put on weight, all women do after a kid.
I'm not rushing into what I have now and I have no doubt that we will have a long and healthy relationship. Every single aspect of it is different from before. I'm not a kid anymore. I know what I want and expect in a companion, it just so happened that I actually found that in someone.
I even tell her that if things don't work out between us, I'm done. I won't be getting married again, I'm not one of those guys.
For the record, anyone who tells you that you lose 50% of your assets in a divorce is a damn fool. I left with my truck, my boat, my clothes and tools, and her bs credit card debt. I lost damn near 100% and didn't care at all.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:09 pm to Nativebullet
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I've come to the conclusion that all women are crazy, selfish & and have one or more personality disorders.
They are, all of the good ones at least, which is why you just need to find the one whose crazy and disorders make you happy.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:10 pm to RogerTheShrubber
I've been divorced for 19 years. Don't think I'll ever get married again. Was engaged once, but I started to dislike her drinking a bottle of wine every night and getting shitfaced.
Dated a whole bunch of girls and maybe I did pass on a few that I could have been happy married to but I wasn't ready. Still not.
Dated a whole bunch of girls and maybe I did pass on a few that I could have been happy married to but I wasn't ready. Still not.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:10 pm to Austin Cajun
When I got divorced, my handicap was a 13. Within 3 months, it dropped to a 9. I remarried several years later to a really great lady. My handicap dropped to a 7, where it has stayed for over 10 years. I am perfectly happy to keep it there.
That's how I measured my post divorce life !!!
That's how I measured my post divorce life !!!
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:11 pm to RogerTheShrubber
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Yeah, well something happens when they get married. For some reason, they don't stay content with the things they were content with before the marriage. It's part of life, I've accepted it.
I love routines..it's organized. Me and my best friends could just sit some place and shoot the shite and be entertained....hey let's run around and do some errands. I don't need "events" to bond with them.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:11 pm to Austin Cajun
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most amazing woman I've ever met. We are 100% compatible
There are always differences, it's more about being with someone you enjoy enough to work through the differences. quote:
I tried telling her that she'd never be happy if she didn't fix what she was doing.
Neither will you.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:12 pm to Austin Cajun
Without reading this crap I just hope there's no kids involved
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:12 pm to Austin Cajun
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Yes she put on weight
and there it is
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:15 pm to 777Tiger
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Should be the biggest flag in the history of the world for you to slow the frick down mister. You've basically been with one person, and it ended bad. You're rebounding big time, and by coincidence the first bounce is with the most amazing woman you've ever met? And you're not going to let her slip away? Tread carefully, lest you be reposting a similar, but probably more bitter revelation in a couple of years.
Bingo.
I didn't get married until I was 29.... Had lots of sex and became an OT baller before marriage...
You guys that get married out of HS or college are idiots
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:34 pm to Austin Cajun
Good post, usually the guy gets fat and lazy and the chick goes to cross fit and has ambition at wk.
Way to break out of that
Way to break out of that
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:36 pm to Austin Cajun
So the most gratifying thing you've done has been failing.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:43 pm to Stringer Bell
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This. Marriage is a fool's game.
That's just false. Many of these suckers are just fricking dense beyond reproach and fail to see the obvious, many don't grow as a couple. Growth is imperative in a marriage.
I used to say shite like that, then I ran into someone I actually enjoyed being with who shared my worldview. We had a 6 year courtship through the last twenties, early thirties, low maintenance. Bitch does buy too much shite though.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:45 pm to Austin Cajun
Reminds of my last relationship without the marriage. Almost a year later and I'm living the dream in Denver. She lives with her parents in Alexandria. I feel bad for her and wish her the best but she is truly a miserable human being
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:46 pm to High C
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If I ever ended up divorcing my wife, there would never be a second marriage. Book dat.
Best advice.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:48 pm to Austin Cajun
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I dated and banged a lot of chicks while I was single.
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:49 pm to ElderTiger
quote:Wow! Sounds like you got it all figured out.
When I got divorced, my handicap was a 13. Within 3 months, it dropped to a 9. I remarried several years later to a really great lady. My handicap dropped to a 7, where it has stayed for over 10 years. I am perfectly happy to keep it there.
That's how I measured my post divorce life !!!
Posted on 5/23/14 at 6:50 pm to Austin Cajun
I could never leave my kids
Posted on 5/23/14 at 7:01 pm to yellowfin
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I could never leave my kids
Wait until they are grown.
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