re: Divorce has been the most gratifying thing I've ever done

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Probably a wise decision.

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Been five weeks now, but yeah it sure as hell was. She had a thing about getting into what I call "instant relationships". Sort of scary when it was me. I knew something needed to give. She's really a good person, but just really has some bad social judgment when it comes to relationships.

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It's always our fault.

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Well, you women do initiate divorces in an overwhelming number of cases.

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Sometimes you just got to start looking at yourself

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They say public speaking is the thing people fear the most, I would think what you posted trumps that for some.

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Sometimes you just got to start looking at yourself.

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I think we all have to anytime we come out of a relationship, we need to learn from it. In my case, my former wife and I both contributed to our divorce in various ways. The difference is that I was willing to admit my role and she never admitted to anything. However, it's been seven years since the war, so it really doesn't matter as much these days.

While I have gone back to dating, I am finding that what I considered to be love in my 20's is not the same definition in my late 50's. If anything, I am trying to figure out what that definition is as it pertains to this stage in life.

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While I have gone back to dating, I am finding that what I considered to be love in my 20's is not the same definition in my late 50's. If anything, I am trying to figure out what that definition is as it pertains to this stage in life.

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Not sure I know what that is either.
I just keep waking up everyday & enjoying stability & peace....Alone :)

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Yes she put on weight, all women do after a kid

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You started this thread with that long arse post about divorce being the best thing ever and never once mentioned that kids were involved....That says enough about you right there...

You're obviously selfish as frick and prolly a shitty dad...

"Not sure I know what that is either.
I just keep waking up everyday & enjoying stability & peace....Alone :)"

I certainly don't miss the tension and fighting, nor all of the bounced checks.

I would like to find someone again, but again, I am really trying to define what constitutes love at this age. It was the "fairy tale" back in our 20's. There is certainly no fairy tale at this age.

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I would like to find someone again, but again, I am really trying to define what constitutes
love at this age. It was the "fairy tale" back in our 20's. There is certainly no fairy tale at this age.

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Maybe not a fairy tail but passion can be found at any age.

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I can't believe how many of you fockers have thrown in the towel and moved on with a divorce.

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Both parties have to work on a relationship for it to succeed. Otherwise, I really don't care how much one tries on their own, it won't be enough. I dated mine two years in college and was then married to her for 27. If I could have stopped the divorce I would have as I actually still loved the woman. However, there comes a point that you realize that it is happening, she is demanding it, and if you don't beat her to the punch you are going to get screwed even more. I didn't want to but really had no choice. I had your views when I was married at eleven years. However, putting an additional 16 years of life experience on top of that sort of changed my view. I still had two kids to worry about, and had to just about instantly take over a household (the kids were adolescents, but it still fricked with their heads pretty good). I got full custody by default and per request from both kids. I am not sure I would ever want to go through that again, which is why I am hesitant to do more than date.