re: Christmas sucks without Kids; Appreciate the blessing

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Well good for setting your limits.

My fertility doctor said as a couple you have to set your limits. Know just how far you are willing to go and what money amount is your limit. He said he has seen so many patients just keep throwing everything at it cause they are so desperate for a baby and next thing you know..,they are in 250k in debt cause of treatments and still no baby


And no treatment (or even adoption) is guaranteed. Even IVF, if you are young and relatively healthy...at best has a 30% chance of actually working.

But yeah....you can spend $$$ on adoption and birth mom changes her mind once baby is born. And nothing you can do and you are heartbroken and out a lot of money.

I fully get it. Today is the worst Christmas for me ever.

If IVF would have worked I would celebrating my baby’s first Christmas with my husband.


Instead I’m all alone today except when I go drop off some Christmas takeout to my mom and dad and siblings (their place and my apartment tiny so this is safer option for my dad who has health issues).

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Today is the worst Christmas for me ever.

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Was mine too. I’m hoping after the divorce is final, next Christmas will have a little more order to it.

My son just got here and opened his gifts. We’ll head to Houston in a bit to see his sisters and my grandkids at my oldest daughter’s house in a bit. My day can go nowhere but up from the low of waking up alone in this house.

Hope your day and your feelings improve.

Adoption is a grueling process and expensive, as mentioned. We were told that the wait would be 10 years unless we chose a multiply handicapped older child. Then the wait would be shorter but still long. Not everyone is emotionally capable of raising a multiply handicapped child (which is why they were placed for adoption in the first place) especially after a few emotionally and physically draining years of infertility medical treatments, tests, surgeries---they want the joy of raising a healthy infant like all couples wish for. To those who say infertility is "God's will" and folks should just deal with it ---why? If you have a medical condition that can possibly be treated so that your reproductive organs will work, why is that any different from having knee surgery so you can walk better or having cataract surgery so you can see better? It's a medical condition not a punishment from God.

There are so many guys out there who have children and couldn’t care less about them. The amount of love you give your dog says great things about the kind of heart you have.

Yeah, I don't know what changes need to be made but we need to make it easier for kids with no parents to be placed into a loving home. It's a win/win situation for everyone involved.

I feel you man. We had 2 miscarriages after our first child. It was wild cause the first pregnancy was so smooth then bam 2 miscarriages in 2 years. We found out she developed a clotting disorder and had to get on blood thinners for our daughter. Was real emotional pregnancy and a lot of nervousness. Many shots but she is perfectly healthy. I got snipped shortly after lol. DONE

43 here. No kids. Five nieces and nephews. Always a helluva good time.

In your face!