re: How would you gauge this relationship situation?

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Sounds like one person is unhappy and that person sounds like you.

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This.

The fact that your asking this question is all you need to know.

Prayers sent, while there is no definitive "exactly normal" relationship, what you got there is an abnormal relationship.

CAN it work long-term?
Yes.

But I wouldn't want that and you don't either, else you wouldn't have posted here with this issue.

tl/dr: Something's up with her, PIIHB and leave forever

think of each time with her as follows:

1. she is on loan from God. always. if you ever see her again, good.
if not, she was "recalled" like your GM car.

2. Focus on other matters during the week. Really.
get your masters in education or whatever. do church service to the elderly. bowl with friends. SOMETHING.

remember, she asked for exclusive. do not tempt fate.
no dinners with friends who are women unless she is present.

3. I recommend you negotiate a new deal, with a change:
Sometimes, you are in charge of when you see her.
Right now, you only get to see her when she feels like it.
Once a month, you throw dice. winner decides which nights you see each other on the weekends, the next month.
And some weekends, only see her once. Do not indulge in all three nights, EVER. When she wants that, she can make it happen, when she wins the dice throw.
Always back off the most intense demand. Let her have SPACE.

DO NOT TEXT HER RELENTLESSLY. DO not use text or email create CONSTANT CONTACT. REALLY GIVE HER SPACE. REALLY USE YOUR TIME FOR YOU. Go fishing. Whatever.

If I'm exclusively dating someone, I expect to be seeing them as much as possible. Longer than 6 months, and that should be a minimum of 5 days a week IMHO, but I'd prefer every day. I don't half arse relationships though. Sounds like you want more than she is willing to give. If it were me personally, I'd move on. It doesn't seem like she's ready to commit if you guys can't drive 10 minutes to see each other more often.

I did the once or twice thing with a long distance relationship that was moving towards marriage......that was until she used those extra days to start fricking my friends regularly. It took me an hour to get there, so she had time to go home, shower, and do whatever before I got there.


Eta: I have come to understand a little better what goes on inside women's heads after this last shite show of a relationship I had. I am not trying to be a dick, but if she doesn't want to see you, she probably wants to be seeing other people in that time when you aren't there. If she enjoys you so much, why wouldn't she want to spend more time with you?