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When it comes to cheating, who is more to blame: the married or the mistress?
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:29 pm
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:29 pm
Question states it all.
I was, and still am, under the very strong impression that the married person, who has a vow most of the time, and is in committed, legal relationship bears the vast majority of the "responsibility" for the consummation.
Recently, one of my wife's friends had a husband who stepped out on her, impregnated a woman, and he and his wife are "working through it".
When discussing the event, I put the blame on the husband, like 95%.
My wife was aghast, and put it at like 65%.
I think she is very misguided, but maybe I am wrong.
What is your opinion of where the blame lies?
No pics of the wife. Incredibly pregnant at the moment.
I was, and still am, under the very strong impression that the married person, who has a vow most of the time, and is in committed, legal relationship bears the vast majority of the "responsibility" for the consummation.
Recently, one of my wife's friends had a husband who stepped out on her, impregnated a woman, and he and his wife are "working through it".
When discussing the event, I put the blame on the husband, like 95%.
My wife was aghast, and put it at like 65%.
I think she is very misguided, but maybe I am wrong.
What is your opinion of where the blame lies?
No pics of the wife. Incredibly pregnant at the moment.
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Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:30 pm to BamaCoaster
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one of my wife's friends
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Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:31 pm to BamaCoaster
The married person is 100% to blame. They made the commitment.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:31 pm to BamaCoaster
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When discussing the event, I put the blame on the husband, like 95%.
My wife was aghast, and put it at like 65%.
Seems like you need to have a different conversation with your wife...
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:32 pm to BamaCoaster
As a guy, I don’t understand how a married man could cheat on his wife. I get it when the wife cheats because women are vain and weak
This post was edited on 1/15/26 at 5:33 pm
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:39 pm to BamaCoaster
I think it depends on how much, in this case, the mistress knew. If she didn't know he was married, then it's 100% on the husband. If she knew he was married, then she is at least 50% at fault but the husband is still 100% at fault.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:40 pm to CSinLC
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As a guy, I don’t understand how a married man could cheat on his wife. I get it when the wife cheats because women are vain and weak
I've known several who have done it.
Some with neighbors-ruins families
Some with co-workers-ruins families and work
Some with people at church-ruins families and kids
Some with hookers while out town-no issues
Most do it from lack of sex/affection/not being attracted to their partner any longer.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:41 pm to eiasjsf
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If she knew he was married, then she is at least 50% at fault but the husband is still 100% at fault.
Your math ain't mathing.
That is 150% hombre.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:41 pm to BamaCoaster
The mistress isn’t married, so how is she to blame? Unethical, sure, but an unmarried person has no responsibility in another marriage between 2 others.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:42 pm to BamaCoaster
Wife has 85% of blame.
He wouldn't cheat if she was doing her job.
He wouldn't cheat if she was doing her job.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:42 pm to UncleRuckus
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The married person is 100% to blame. They made the commitment.
If someone is knowingly persuing a married person for sex they share a portion of the blame. 5%, 10%, 20%??? I don't know what the answer is but they are not innocent.
This post was edited on 1/15/26 at 5:43 pm
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:43 pm to UncleRuckus
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married person
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:43 pm to BamaCoaster
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Incredibly pregnant at the moment.
Hmmm...
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:45 pm to BamaCoaster
Mostly but the real truth varies and depends on the circumstances, like did one strongly pursue the other who was reluctant or resistant, etc.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:47 pm to MRTigerFan
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If someone is knowingly persuing a married person for sex they share a portion of the blame. 5%, 10%, 20%??? I don't know what the answer is but they are not innocent.
BS. A single person has no commitment and they should go for what they want. If their target is married and he/she cheats, that person bears all the blame.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:48 pm to UncleRuckus
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The married person is 100% to blame. They made the commitment.
This is the one and only answer, I can’t believe the OP is asking such a stupid fricking question.
This post was edited on 1/15/26 at 5:49 pm
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:50 pm to ATrillionaire
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BS. A single person has no commitment and they should go for what they want
That's bullshite. That shows a complete disregard for the sanctity of marriage. People have moments of weakness. How many times do people cheat and then feel like shite after? I'd bet a lot of them do. If you are actively persuing a married woman then you are a piece of shite.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:50 pm to BamaCoaster
How the hell did the concept of accountability get so lost?
The spouse is 100% to blame because they are the one who made the vows.
Rene Good is 100% responsible for her death because she injected herself into a situation and escalated it by ignoring lawful comments for detainment and drove a deadly weapon towards a federal officer.
It's insane how little people grasp responsibility and accountability these days.
The spouse is 100% to blame because they are the one who made the vows.
Rene Good is 100% responsible for her death because she injected herself into a situation and escalated it by ignoring lawful comments for detainment and drove a deadly weapon towards a federal officer.
It's insane how little people grasp responsibility and accountability these days.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:51 pm to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
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This is the one and only answer, I can’t believe the OP is asking such a stupid fricking question.
Consensus seems mixed in this thread, but I am with you.
I agree, but apparently not everybody does.
And, women seem to dislike other women.
Wife's friends group is blaming the other woman too much in my opinion.
Posted on 1/15/26 at 5:52 pm to MRTigerFan
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People have moments of weakness.
Cry me a river. Man up and go see your wife.
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